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GUYS: Are you intimidated by smart women?

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I'm only attracted to smart women; I'm not intimidated by them. I couldn't be with a dumb one.

But, intelligent women usually have a major problem. They almost all suffer from Intelligent Woman Syndrome (IWS). This condition has serious consequences for us men. Women with IWS have careers, they have lots of fun on their own, they enjoy the exciting single life (dating or not). They have absolutely no reason to be with a man long term. No reason for commitment, no struggle for money that was typical of women in the past and of the less intelligent women of today. They'll just dump you eventually. They have the luxury of dating their whole life until they find the perfect man. You can't be perfect enough.

I first heard of this IWS syndrome from an intelligent woman - Marilyn vos Savant. I've seen it with every intelligent woman I've ever known.
 
Originally posted by: dullard
I'm only attracted to smart women; I'm not intimidated by them. I couldn't be with a dumb one.

But, intelligent women usually have a major problem. They almost all suffer from Intelligent Woman Syndrome (IWS). This condition has serious consequences for us men. Women with IWS have careers, they have lots of fun on their own, they enjoy the exciting single life (dating or not). They have absolutely no reason to be with a man long term. No reason for commitment, no struggle for money that was typical of women in the past and of the less intelligent women of today. They'll just dump you eventually. They have the luxury of dating their whole life until they find the perfect man. You can't be perfect enough.

I first heard of this IWS syndrome from an intelligent woman - Marilyn vos Savant. I've seen it with every intelligent woman I've ever known.
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Absolutely no reason to be with a man long term? How about love? My girlfriend right now fits that description perfectly (religious, extremely smart, 4.0 in college, parents are very well off) and we're planning on getting married within the next year.
 
Originally posted by: BlancoNino
Absolutely no reason to be with a man long term? How about love? My girlfriend right now fits that description perfectly (religious, extremely smart, 4.0 in college, parents are very well off) and we're planning on getting married within the next year.
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Been there, done that. Married her. She found someone else. I'm now on to the next woman with IWS.

I wish you the best of luck. And not all intelligent women have IWS. Just the vast majority. Hope you found one of the rare exceptions.
 
I don't think I'd like her to be as logical as me because then I couldn't have any fun with her brain. If they have sacrificed other feminine traits for the sake of intelligence, then I'm not that interested. I want somebody different than me, not one that possesses dominantly masculine traits. I don't think I could possibly stand being married to a programmer.

Now, obviously there are exceptions. If I met someone who was great at literary analysis (an area where I lack intelligence), or was smart kinesthetically, then it would be a perfect match. "Being smart" is too much of a generalization because there are many areas where one can excel, both masculine and feminine.
 
Originally posted by: dullard
But, intelligent women usually have a major problem. They almost all suffer from Intelligent Woman Syndrome (IWS). This condition has serious consequences for us men. Women with IWS have careers, they have lots of fun on their own, they enjoy the exciting single life (dating or not). They have absolutely no reason to be with a man long term. No reason for commitment, no struggle for money that was typical of women in the past and of the less intelligent women of today. They'll just dump you eventually. They have the luxury of dating their whole life until they find the perfect man. You can't be perfect enough.
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That's very true. If she's smarter and has a better career than me, it's like...why is she with me?
 
Originally posted by: dullard
Originally posted by: BlancoNino
Absolutely no reason to be with a man long term? How about love? My girlfriend right now fits that description perfectly (religious, extremely smart, 4.0 in college, parents are very well off) and we're planning on getting married within the next year.
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Been there, done that. Married her. She found someone else. I'm now on to the next woman with IWS.

I wish you the best of luck. And not all intelligent women have IWS. Just the vast majority. Hope you found one of the rare exceptions.
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I just don't know if that's true though....

Intelligent women are smart enough to know how to keep a relationship going and to realize that it takes a little hard work for a marriage to work out...whereas stupid women aren't smart enough to know how to work out a problem. I don't know..I'm only 21.
 
I prefer to talk to intelligent women. Actually I think I've forgotten to how to engage anybody except on a cerebral level, so I find I can *only* talk to intelligent women.
 
Originally posted by: Xstatic1
Last night, I checked out Marc Perkel's website (as suggested by someone on this board) and came across something rather interesting...he says, "If you're a smart girl it's slim pickings out there. Guys don't like girls who are smarter than they are. Makes them feel real insecure."

So, I asked a few gal pals of mine if they agreed with Perkel's opinion and they quickly answered "Yes!" Personally, I agree with Perkel & my pals. At this point, I just wanna be enlightened as to why guys would be intimidated by/insecure around smart women.
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This only applies to dumb men.
 
Nope, just the opposite. I'm only attracted to intelligent women. Yes, if they match my physical preferences I'll find them initially attractive. But unless they back it up with brains I'll quickly lose interest. Conversely I'll find someone more and more attractive as they demonstrate their intelligence.
 
I'm aroused by it yes.

I'm currently dating a FRIEND who turned into 'semi-dating' status... she went to Bowdoin undergrand and just got accepted into masters program at Harvard.

Deep in my dirty mind, I get a kick out of the fact that I'm banging a Harvard grad chick. 😉
 
No. I think if a girl is smart, it's so hawt. Espicially if she can pull the smart-school girl look off...or SEXY LIBRARIAN!!!

But no, I like smart girls. Gives me someone to argue with about things that matter...

:evil:
 
Originally posted by: randay
Originally posted by: Xstatic1
Last night, I checked out Marc Perkel's website (as suggested by someone on this board) and came across something rather interesting...he says, "If you're a smart girl it's slim pickings out there. Guys don't like girls who are smarter than they are. Makes them feel real insecure."

So, I asked a few gal pals of mine if they agreed with Perkel's opinion and they quickly answered "Yes!" Personally, I agree with Perkel & my pals. At this point, I just wanna be enlightened as to why guys would be intimidated by/insecure around smart women.
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This only applies to dumb men.
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Right. I graduated from state school and my 'gf' says one of the main reason she finds me attractive is because she says I'm very intelligent/ambitious. She's at Harvard grad. (see my above post) It probably has to do with the fact that I got two promotions in one year + we always carry conversations on 'deep' topics like religion, relationships, etc.
 
Originally posted by: Xstatic1
Last night, I checked out Marc Perkel's website (as suggested by someone on this board) and came across something rather interesting...he says, "If you're a smart girl it's slim pickings out there. Guys don't like girls who are smarter than they are. Makes them feel real insecure."

So, I asked a few gal pals of mine if they agreed with Perkel's opinion and they quickly answered "Yes!" Personally, I agree with Perkel & my pals. At this point, I just wanna be enlightened as to why guys would be intimidated by/insecure around smart women.
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Dumb guys are insecure about being around smart women. Smart women, probably including your friends, are still attracted to "hot" guys who generally aren't that smart. That's why it is slim pickings for them.

Personally, I enjoy being around smart women.
 
Originally posted by: z42Dumb guys are insecure about being around smart women. Smart women, probably including your friends, are still attracted to "hot" guys who generally aren't that smart. That's why it is slim pickings for them.
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I don't think that's really why although it's part of it. ALL women are attracted to "hot" guys but smart women have the added criteria of intelligence added to the list of things they require. What's more, despite what women's lib says, women often want someone that's smarter than themselves. So since they have more traits they require in a mate, smart women have a geometrically harder time finding a man that can measure up.
 
My experience has been that it changes with maturity. Young, insecure guys don't want a woman who challenges them. Older, more confident men want a partner, not a hole. In general of course - there are always exceptions.
 
Originally posted by: sixone
My experience has been that it changes with maturity. Young, insecure guys don't want a woman who challenges them. Older, more confident men want a partner, not a hole. In general of course - there are always exceptions.
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i be very happy with a hole. BTW what u call "challenges them" is actually bitching and nagging to most man.
 
Originally posted by: sixone
My experience has been that it changes with maturity. Young, insecure guys don't want a woman who challenges them. Older, more confident men want a partner, not a hole. In general of course - there are always exceptions.
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Or, perhaps, young insecure guys could want someone smarter than they, so they can feel more secure themselves.
I would prefer someone smart. Talking to someone stupid just feels utterly futile. For example, my one roommate last semester, he was a die-hard conservative (old-school type though, he doesn't like the neo-cons), while I am more moderate, though I tend toward the liberal side. Interestingly, we'd agree on some issues, such as abortion, and certain economic ideals, but the thing of it was, he could debate well. It wasn't attack tactics that you see now: the old, "I can't attack your idea, so I'll attack your right or ability to express it." It was good, intelligent, challenging debate, which I like, and respect.
 
Originally posted by: vi_edit
My wife has the initials "Dr" in front of her name. I think it's sexy. :heart:
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my girl will soon as well. I enjoy intelligent conversation. I'm not sure that she's smarter than me, but we are definitely good at different things. (I'm an engineer, she's going to med school) I don't see why it would bother anyone.
 
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