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growing up is great....but

it's f'n scary.

Being on your own was great in college, but when you actually have to get a living and manage your finances, it becomes scary.

Why am I saying this? I am f'n scared now. It's not your typical scared as in scary movies, it's a scared that you cannot explain. I try to ignore it, but it alwasy comes back to me when I wake up. School loans, future mortgages, job security....there is just so much to worry about. It sucked enough to get a rude awakening and realize that what your parent's said was true, "Life is hard". I always shrugged it off, but then i came into the rat race and realized that even with a more education, my parents still know more. I realized that life never goes as planned. You have plan as if you want things to go wrong so that you are prepared for it.

Will I ever fix my mistakes, will I ever pay off my massive student loans, can I even get approved for a mortgage, how can I raise my own kid, or will i even have the finances to do it? It sucks that I have to take it day to day and that I never know if it is indeed the right time to buy a condo or house. If I invest now, will I be able to get X return when I sell my place in the future? I want these answers, but I just can't have them even though i want them. After all, we live in a society where where want want answers now. We do not want to wait, we want to ignore our mistakes, we just want get ahead. It's just too bad that society really isn't that way and it's too bad that we just mask it so we can turn our heads and smile. No matter how badly you want the answers, you have to wait for them....but when it comes to life, you'd wish life would simply wait for you....sadly, life and the world can't do that.

I guess it's part of growing up, but it really hit me hard today. I have no idea why. It just did.

Thanks for reading,

Gibson486
 
This is about the time when you should start attending church. It will answer a lot of your fears and you'll be much better prepared for the difficult challenges that lie ahead. This fear you're talking about generally comes from people of no faith, so I'm just taking a guess here.
 
Originally posted by: spidey07
This is about the time when you should start attending church. It will answer a lot of your fears and you'll be much better prepared for the difficult challenges that lie ahead. This fear you're talking about generally comes from people of no faith, so I'm just taking a guess here.
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I don't really have a 'faith' and I was never afraid of what he is.
 
Originally posted by: spidey07
This is about the time when you should start attending church. It will answer a lot of your fears and you'll be much better prepared for the difficult challenges that lie ahead. This fear you're talking about generally comes from people of no faith, so I'm just taking a guess here.
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If you can't believe in anything, it includes your future.

*I'm Faithful*
 
If I had massive student loans and no actual job experience or skills while wanting to buy a house I'd be scared too. Unfortunately I can't sympathize with you. I have a friend that talks the same way though, he's scared to death now that he graduated college and still has no experience or real skills.
 
Originally posted by: spidey07
This is about the time when you should start attending church. It will answer a lot of your fears and you'll be much better prepared for the difficult challenges that lie ahead. This fear you're talking about generally comes from people of no faith, so I'm just taking a guess here.
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Several things I guess.

1) Fear isn't always a bad thing

2) I'm a "person with no faith" and I don't have overwhealming fear and I have thus far been prepared for the challenges I've faced. (Not that this is evidence for people without faith being ready for challenges, but then again your post that you saying "this fear you're talking about comes from people of not faith" doesn't make it true either).

3) OP, get going on the job thing 🙂
 
Originally posted by: datalink7
Originally posted by: spidey07
This is about the time when you should start attending church. It will answer a lot of your fears and you'll be much better prepared for the difficult challenges that lie ahead. This fear you're talking about generally comes from people of no faith, so I'm just taking a guess here.
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Several things I guess.

1) Fear isn't always a bad thing

2) I'm a "person with no faith" and I don't have overwhealming fear and I have thus far been prepared for the challenges I've faced. (Not that this is evidence for people without faith being ready for challenges, but then again your post that you saying "this fear you're talking about comes from people of not faith" doesn't make it true either).

3) OP, get going on the job thing 🙂
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yeah, faith didnt really factor into how i handled my life, mistakes, whatever, and im 26. i dont think its a prereq for handling things well or whatever, but i do think having a clear focus does. if some people use religion to do that, then i say do whatever works.

also managing finances really isnt scary unless you have kids or an SO or family relying on you. its a pain in the ass sometimes, but its not really scary
 
I don't see why everyone is always complaining about how hard life is. We have it pretty easy here IMO, At least where I live. Try going back 100 years or more and then tell me how stressful it is.

EDIT: Assuming the OP doesn't live in Africa or something I mean.
 
Originally posted by: eldorado99
I don't see why everyone is always complaining about how hard life is. We have it pretty easy here IMO, At least where I live. Try going back 100 years or more and then tell me how stressful it is.

EDIT: Assuming the OP doesn't live in Africa or something I mean.
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I was just thinking about this the other day. Sometimes life is boring even (in that it isn't that challenging). Not saying it is easy to get silly rich, but I'm not that smart of a guy and I'm doing fine.
 
Happy to say I have no student loans but I am a 25 y/o 3 years out of college and have yet to land a "real" job. If I had stayed in the same position I worked starting in high school and through college it would count but I'd hate myself.

I need a paycheck!
 
I know how you feel sometimes. I have the same worries. I guess the only thing you can do is try not to worry so much about finances and bills and getting ahead. Do the things you enjoy and spend as much time as you can with the people you love. Think about it, you're not going to live forever, you only have so much time left on earth, so its pointless to spend time thinking about things that just stress you out. If you have personal debts when you die, they're buried with you. Continue to work hard and youll be compensated in the long run. Just enjoy what you have while youre here cus you only get to experience it once.
 
Originally posted by: spidey07
This is about the time when you should start attending church. It will answer a lot of your fears and you'll be much better prepared for the difficult challenges that lie ahead. This fear you're talking about generally comes from people of no faith, so I'm just taking a guess here.
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The problem with church is that you sort of have to just assume the answers it gives are correct.
 
Originally posted by: spidey07
This is about the time when you should start attending church. It will answer a lot of your fears and you'll be much better prepared for the difficult challenges that lie ahead. This fear you're talking about generally comes from people of no faith, so I'm just taking a guess here.
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Good advice there. When you're placing your eternal future in the hands of a bunch of pedophiles who care about nothing except your money the fears of job security and student loans won't seem nearly as bad. Only an invisible man in the sky can replace ordinary fears with even better ones.
 
Originally posted by: GagHalfrunt
Originally posted by: spidey07
This is about the time when you should start attending church. It will answer a lot of your fears and you'll be much better prepared for the difficult challenges that lie ahead. This fear you're talking about generally comes from people of no faith, so I'm just taking a guess here.
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Good advice there. When you're placing your eternal future in the hands of a bunch of pedophiles who care about nothing except your money the fears of job security and student loans won't seem nearly as bad. Only an invisible man in the sky can replace ordinary fears with even better ones.
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lol exactly

what a joke
 
Life is hard but you can make it easy if you manage it properly. I'm about to get in the "real world" soon. I'm half way there, as in, I have a real job and I'm done school. The next part is about to happen and that is moving out on my own. I already bought a house, and once it's done renovating (very soon!) I'm moving out. I'll then have to do my own cooking, laundry, cleaning etc... The only part I'm not looking forward to is laundry and cooking, the rest I will be able to handle no problem. Even cooking, I'm sorta looking forward, just, I have no clue where to even start, what to buy, what to make, etc. I can't be eating frozen dinners or kraft dinner all the time.

Finances are going to be a little tight at start but I should pull through. Overall I'm looking forward to it. This is where being single is nice, as everything is 100% easier. I can't imagine having a GF or wife right now being super picky about everything and spending tons of money when I'm trying to save etc... so glad I'm single. That makes things easier and less stressful.

Also, don't put anything on credit unless it's 0% interest and you KNOW you can pay it back... so many people do that mistake and never get out of it. I considered getting a loan as I'm falling in the hole with all the renovations, but decided not to.
 
Originally posted by: Kadarin
Originally posted by: spidey07
This is about the time when you should start attending church. It will answer a lot of your fears and you'll be much better prepared for the difficult challenges that lie ahead. This fear you're talking about generally comes from people of no faith, so I'm just taking a guess here.
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The problem with church is that you sort of have to just assume the answers it gives are correct.
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this is ridiculous.

you can assume that the answers are wrong and that the answers at the last church were right and that the church youre visiting at the moment is full of horrible, misguided, ignorant people who dont know the true will of god.

seriously dude, talk about being close minded 😛
 
Originally posted by: spidey07
This fear you're talking about generally comes from people of no faith, so I'm just taking a guess here.
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or from the weak; however you want to look at it.
 
Reminds me of my niece. I laughed so hard when she was saying " I have a car payment to make, the oil to change, my cell phone payment is due, and I can't afford cable so I'm missing my tv shows, I hate being a grown up !"
 
Originally posted by: spidey07
This is about the time when you should start attending church. It will answer a lot of your fears and you'll be much better prepared for the difficult challenges that lie ahead. This fear you're talking about generally comes from people of no faith, so I'm just taking a guess here.
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Sarcasm meter...*taps furiously*


The absolute worst fucking thing you can do is to attend somewhere that is going to pass a basket around if you are scared of financial issues.
 
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