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Originally posted by: zippy
Yeah, okay, my bad, I didn't realize they had sex. I assumed incorrectly that they didn't I suppose.

Anyway, he is definitely an complete ass for doing that. She is definitely a moron for getting so drunk though...and so drunk with no sober friend around to watch out for her.
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It seems a bit harsh to say she was a moron. Getting wasted at a frat party is probably not the best thing to do, but she was probably taken in by the situation, and I seriously doubt that getting manipulated (at best) was forefront on her mind.
Maybe she made a bad decision, but she sounds like the primary victim, here.
 
Originally posted by: zippy
Yeah, okay, my bad, I didn't realize they had sex. I assumed incorrectly that they didn't I suppose.

Anyway, he is definitely an complete ass for doing that. She is definitely a moron for getting so drunk though...and so drunk with no sober friend around to watch out for her.
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I try to watch out for my drunk friends....but I was already busy helping out the one that I THOUGHT was in worse shape...
 
She's an idiot for getting drunk off her ass. Your friend most definitely took advantage of her and is a jerk. Personally I think he deserves whooping but it sounds like the boyfriend has anger issues. Drop the guy friend that took advantage of the girl. Tell girl, she's got to stop beating herself up and realize its a mistake and that she can learn from it and move on. Lastly keep former boyfriend from going ballastic and causing a homocide.
 
Originally posted by: Deeko
Originally posted by: CKDragon
Drexel Girls... not worth the trouble. 😛

CK
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lol...damn lambda chi for providing them with so much free liquor! And damn them for not letting guys in! 😛
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Frats will usually let guys into their parties if they come with 2 or 3 girls...
 
Originally posted by: Deeko
he feels bad for doing it, he doesn't want his ass kicked, and wants to try to diffuse the situation a little....
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But if he feels that way due to the impending assbeating and hospital visit, it's forced and really not relevant, IMO. Everybody feels bad for doing something when faced with consequences or threatened, etc., it doesn't mean they feel honest remorse.

 
Originally posted by: godmare
Originally posted by: Deeko
he feels bad for doing it, he doesn't want his ass kicked, and wants to try to diffuse the situation a little....
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But if he feels that way due to the impending assbeating and hospital visit, it's forced and really not relevant, IMO. Everybody feels bad for doing something when faced with consequences or threatened, etc., it doesn't mean they feel honest remorse.
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very true..
im' pretty sure he doesn't want an ass beating..
but he imo deserves one..
it aint completely his fault but he deserves one anyway.

i dont understand why guys would hit on someone that's already seeing someone..
that itself is asking for an ass beating..
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Originally posted by: silverpig
Originally posted by: Deeko
Originally posted by: CKDragon
Drexel Girls... not worth the trouble. 😛

CK
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lol...damn lambda chi for providing them with so much free liquor! And damn them for not letting guys in! 😛
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Frats will usually let guys into their parties if they come with 2 or 3 girls...
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lol, not at Drexel, we don't exactly have a favorable guy/girl ratio...if you are male, and you don't know a few brothers, you aren't gettin in.

But if he feels that way due to the impending assbeating and hospital visit, it's forced and really not relevant, IMO. Everybody feels bad for doing something when faced with consequences or threatened, etc., it doesn't mean they feel honest remorse.
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Probably, yea.

She's an idiot for getting drunk off her ass. Your friend most definitely took advantage of her and is a jerk. Personally I think he deserves whooping but it sounds like the boyfriend has anger issues. Drop the guy friend that took advantage of the girl. Tell girl, she's got to stop beating herself up and realize its a mistake and that she can learn from it and move on. Lastly keep former boyfriend from going ballastic and causing a homocide.
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He's one of my roommates in my apartment next year...kinda hard to drop him.
 
Originally posted by: Deeko

He's one of my roommates in my apartment next year...kinda hard to drop him.
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I'm willing to bet this wont be the last we heard of him. Have fun dealing with sh!t Deeko.

 
launch a preemptive strike. if you beat up the other guy, at least you know he won't end up dead.
 
Originally posted by: Storm
Originally posted by: Deeko

He's one of my roommates in my apartment next year...kinda hard to drop him.
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I'm willing to bet this wont be the last we heard of him. Have fun dealing with sh!t Deeko.
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He's normally a great guy....but when alcohol and girls get involved, he can be a d!ck. He won't do something this bad again, especially if he gets his ass kicked, and because if I ever actually SEE him doing it I will put a stop to it.
 
Just how did this chick act when she slept with this dude. Was she for it? Did she try to stop it? Was she giving back?

KK
 
Originally posted by: KK
Just how did this chick act when she slept with this dude. Was she for it? Did she try to stop it? Was she giving back?

KK
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she doesn't remember it happening. All she knows is she woke up, and he was there. I didn't exactly ask him for every detail....it took long enough to get out of him what the end result was.
 
Originally posted by: Deeko
Originally posted by: KK
Just how did this chick act when she slept with this dude. Was she for it? Did she try to stop it? Was she giving back?

KK
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she doesn't remember it happening. All she knows is she woke up, and he was there. I didn't exactly ask him for every detail....it took long enough to get out of him what the end result was.
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OK... she blacked out. That would point to rape then.
 
he feels bad for doing it, he doesn't want his ass kicked, and wants to try to diffuse the situation a little....
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I'd say if this guy was "only slightly buzzed", then he was cognizant enough to know what he was doing, and was aware of her condition enough to know he would be taking advantage of her. If I were in your shoes, this guy would definitely be on his own.......*ss-kicking or no.

I feel bad for her though, even if she did drink too much. She shouldn't have had to worry about an *sshole like him.

As for the violent-prone BF, he will find out sooner or later, and if you had nothing to do with the situation, you shouldn't need to worry about him pistol-whipping you in a dark alley somewhere. I'd be more worried for the physical well-being of the drunk GF when he finds out. -kd5-
 
He's normally a great guy....but when alcohol and girls get involved, he can be a d!ck. He won't do something this bad again, especially if he gets his ass kicked, and because if I ever actually SEE him doing it I will put a stop to it.
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haha, there is no such thing as 'a normally great guy who does all these bad things'. You are either a 'good' guy, or you are not. Its not as though he's minding his own business and the alcohol 'sneaks' into his system when he's not looking.

You need to find some new friends and/or room-mates. Irresponsible and immature people some how, by some mysterious and unexplainable forces, seem to get themselves into all of these 'bad' situations, responsible and mature people do not. See?

Nobody was ever harmed by being a little more selective in who they associate with. LOTS of people have been harmed because they weren't selective enough about who they associate with.
 
Originally posted by: kduncan5
he feels bad for doing it, he doesn't want his ass kicked, and wants to try to diffuse the situation a little....
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I'd say if this guy was "only slightly buzzed", then he was cognizant enough to know what he was doing, and was aware of her condition enough to know he would be taking advantage of her. If I were in your shoes, this guy would definitely be on his own.......*ss-kicking or no.

I feel bad for her though, even if she did drink too much. She shouldn't have had to worry about an *sshole like him.

As for the violent-prone BF, he will find out sooner of later, and if you had nothing to do with the situation, you shouldn't need to worry about him pistol-whipping you in a dark alley somewhere. I'd be more worried for the physical well-being of the drunk GF when he finds out. -kd5-
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exactly, being a friend, she should be able to count on him for help, not worry about him doing something like that.
 
Originally posted by: tcsenter
He's normally a great guy....but when alcohol and girls get involved, he can be a d!ck. He won't do something this bad again, especially if he gets his ass kicked, and because if I ever actually SEE him doing it I will put a stop to it.
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haha, there is no such thing as 'a normally great guy who does all these bad things'. You are either a 'good' guy, or you are not. Its not as though he's minding his own business and the alcohol 'sneaks' into his system when he's not looking.

You need to find some new friends and/or room-mates. Irresponsible and immature people some how, by some mysterious and unexplainable forces, seem to get themselves into all of these 'bad' situations, responsible and mature people do not. See?

Nobody was ever harmed by being a little more selective in who they associate with. LOTS of people have been harmed because they weren't selective enough about who they associate with.
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This is the first thing he's done thats 'bad'....he gets kinda like possesive with girls when hes drunk, but doesnt do anything really wrong...just that one time. I dont know...honestly, we have 3 people in our room now, we need a 4th....we know 2 guys that need a room but will only go together...we COULD kick him out and bring them in. But I'm not at that point yet.
 
Originally posted by: Merkon
Maybe next time she shouldn't get so drunk in the first place.
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Next time I doubt she will.
wtf, if someone gets shot standing in line at a bank when it gets robbed, is it their fault? Of course not, we don't need to blame victims in perpetrator's stead.
 
Originally posted by: Deeko
Originally posted by: KK
Just how did this chick act when she slept with this dude. Was she for it? Did she try to stop it? Was she giving back?

KK
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she doesn't remember it happening. All she knows is she woke up, and he was there. I didn't exactly ask him for every detail....it took long enough to get out of him what the end result was.
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If she doesn't remember, maybe she doesn't remember leading this guy on. I'm not saying what this guy did was right, but if some chick was drunk and hitting on a drunk guy, who's at fault now? Maybe this guy wasn't that drunk, if he wasn't, then he an ass for doing it, but to say he raped her is stretching it very very far. That is an accusation no guy wants. Only use the rape case when it is legit, otherwise the real rape cases will get deminished in creditiblity.

KK

 
This is the first thing he's done thats 'bad'....he gets kinda like possesive with girls when hes drunk, but doesnt do anything really wrong...just that one time. I dont know...honestly, we have 3 people in our room now, we need a 4th....we know 2 guys that need a room but will only go together...we COULD kick him out and bring them in. But I'm not at that point yet.
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Well I was not only referring to him, it sounds like the entire lot of them needs to find somewhere else to go if they don't know how to handle their booze (the girls, especially). Or maybe you need to go find a more responsible group to hang-around with, either way.
 
Originally posted by: tcsenter
This is the first thing he's done thats 'bad'....he gets kinda like possesive with girls when hes drunk, but doesnt do anything really wrong...just that one time. I dont know...honestly, we have 3 people in our room now, we need a 4th....we know 2 guys that need a room but will only go together...we COULD kick him out and bring them in. But I'm not at that point yet.
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Well I was not only referring to him, it sounds like the entire lot of them needs to find somewhere else to go if they don't know how to handle their booze (the girls, especially). Or maybe you need to go find a more responsible group to hang-around with, either way.
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Something was wrong at that frat...a record number of Drexel kids were taken to the hospital that night, all of them were at that frat party....
 
Originally posted by: tcsenter
He's normally a great guy....but when alcohol and girls get involved, he can be a d!ck. He won't do something this bad again, especially if he gets his ass kicked, and because if I ever actually SEE him doing it I will put a stop to it.
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haha, there is no such thing as 'a normally great guy who does all these bad things'. You are either a 'good' guy, or you are not. Its not as though he's minding his own business and the alcohol 'sneaks' into his system when he's not looking.

You need to find some new friends and/or room-mates. Irresponsible and immature people some how, by some mysterious and unexplainable forces, seem to get themselves into all of these 'bad' situations, responsible and mature people do not. See?

Nobody was ever harmed by being a little more selective in who they associate with. LOTS of people have been harmed because they weren't selective enough about who they associate with.
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Exactly.
 
Damn Deeko, you've got more of these relationship problems than I do! I was always in the middle of fvcked up situations. Then I just stopped caring.

Move to Greenland or something! 😛
 
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