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Great...cheating friends...and I'm in the middle.

Deeko

Deeko

Lifer
This is peachy.

Two good friends of mine are going out. A month ago, the girl(who lives on my floor), was extremely drunk(she got drunk with that girl who ended up passed out in my room, if you recall), and one of my best friends(who also lives on my floor), who was only a little buzzed, decided to be a real asshole and take advantage of her. So she cheated on her boyfriend...and she finally got the courage to break it to him last night. He essentially broke up with her, temporarily anyway. Now I'm in the middle of all of this, all three of them coming to me either for advice or(in the girls case) for a shoulder to cry on...its such a sh!tty situation, the guy is totally 100% at fault, and the boyfriend wants to kick his ass, and I don't blame him...but how can I condone one of my best friends getting beaten? Meanwhile I am trying to get the girl to stop beating herself up...ugh.
 
Easy.

Sleep with her. That will piss your male friend off, so you don't have to deal with him anymore, and it'll be a notch in your belt, so you don't have to deal w/the female anymore either. Problem solved! HTH!
 
Originally posted by: Deeko
This is peachy.

Two good friends of mine are going out. A month ago, the girl(who lives on my floor), was extremely drunk(she got drunk with that girl who ended up passed out in my room, if you recall), and one of my best friends(who also lives on my floor), who was only a little buzzed, decided to be a real asshole and take advantage of her. So she cheated on her boyfriend...and she finally got the courage to break it to him last night. He essentially broke up with her, temporarily anyway. Now I'm in the middle of all of this, all three of them coming to me either for advice or(in the girls case) for a shoulder to cry on...its such a sh!tty situation, the guy is totally 100% at fault, and the boyfriend wants to kick his ass, and I don't blame him...but how can I condone one of my best friends getting beaten? Meanwhile I am trying to get the girl to stop beating herself up...ugh.
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Wait, they were right there in front of you (figuratively or otherwise)? Why didn't you stop it?
 
Your friend raped your other friend and you are having a hard time figuring out where your allegiances should be. You will be a great politician.
 
It's not completely his fault. She hooked up with him too - it's not a one way street. It's good she told her boyfriend - take some responsibility for her actions.

EDIT: HappyPuppy, he didn't say he raped her. Did they just kiss and whatever or did he really take advantage of her and effectively rape her? If so, that's a whole new ballgame.
 
Originally posted by: MichaelD
Easy.

Sleep with her. That will piss your male friend off, so you don't have to deal with him anymore, and it'll be a notch in your belt, so you don't have to deal w/the female anymore either. Problem solved! HTH!
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If alcohol wasn't involved, I'd be behind that solution 100%.

Being as the asshole took advantage of her, I'm going to have to go with "break out the popcorn and watch him get beaten"

- M4H
 
Originally posted by: godmare
Originally posted by: Deeko
This is peachy.

Two good friends of mine are going out. A month ago, the girl(who lives on my floor), was extremely drunk(she got drunk with that girl who ended up passed out in my room, if you recall), and one of my best friends(who also lives on my floor), who was only a little buzzed, decided to be a real asshole and take advantage of her. So she cheated on her boyfriend...and she finally got the courage to break it to him last night. He essentially broke up with her, temporarily anyway. Now I'm in the middle of all of this, all three of them coming to me either for advice or(in the girls case) for a shoulder to cry on...its such a sh!tty situation, the guy is totally 100% at fault, and the boyfriend wants to kick his ass, and I don't blame him...but how can I condone one of my best friends getting beaten? Meanwhile I am trying to get the girl to stop beating herself up...ugh.
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Wait, they were right there in front of you (figuratively or otherwise)? Why didn't you stop it?
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No. We were at the party, and came back to the dorm. Apparantly, while I was tending to the drunk girl passed out in my room, and the rest of the floor was tending to the girl with alcohol poisoning(it was a great night for my floor, those 3 girls went to a frat and didnt know when to stop when offered free hard alcohol), the guy went to check on the first girl, trying to make it seem like he was being a good guy, and...stayed. Trust me, if I'd seen it with my own eyes, I'd have kicked his ass on the spot. Last weekend some guy was trying to get with my other best friends' girl and I threatened him pretty good, he disappeared quick.
 
Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
Originally posted by: MichaelD
Easy.

Sleep with her. That will piss your male friend off, so you don't have to deal with him anymore, and it'll be a notch in your belt, so you don't have to deal w/the female anymore either. Problem solved! HTH!
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If alcohol wasn't involved, I'd be behind that solution 100%.

Being as the asshole took advantage of her, I'm going to have to go with "break out the popcorn and watch him get beaten"

- M4H
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Originally posted by: HappyPuppy
Your friend raped your other friend and you are having a hard time figuring out where your allegiances should be. You will be a great politician.
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Rape might be a bit of a strong word...

Call the police if you really think it is that serious, but without further information, that might be a bit much.

Just how drunk was she? Did he really take advantage, or was she willing? If she was passed out (or nearly so), then yes he took advantage of course.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not defending it, I'm just saying Deeko didn't really provide enough info to label it.

: ) Hopper
 
man that sucks 🙁 maybe a cool-down period is in order, and then sit em all down in the same room. i gotta ask, are you physically able to restrain the bf if it comes to blows?
 
Originally posted by: zippy
It's not completely his fault. She hooked up with him too - it's not a one way street. It's good she told her boyfriend - take some responsibility for her actions.
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she is at fault for drinking too much. She was in no condition to make decisions. She drank more than the other 2 girls I mentioned.

Your friend raped your other friend and you are having a hard time figuring out where your allegiances should be. You will be a great politician.
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No. He was wrong in what he did. Her and I discussed the whole rape thing, she said she'd never call him in for rape because they were(and still are sorta) friends. I'm not behind him at all. I just don't want to see him get seriously hurt. The boyfriend almost kicked the sh!t out of a kid for cutting in line at a taco stand on the street, how do you think he would react if he saw this kid face to face?
 
OMFG.

drunk or not that girl knew she had a bf

its just as much her fault to.
tell her to suck it up and deal with the concequences of her actions.

 
Originally posted by: eakers
OMFG.

drunk or not that girl knew she had a bf

its just as much her fault to.
tell her to suck it up and deal with the concequences of her actions.
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exactly, so the guy should kick both their asses 😉
 
Originally posted by: Zugzwang152
man that sucks 🙁 maybe a cool-down period is in order, and then sit em all down in the same room. i gotta ask, are you physically able to restrain the bf if it comes to blows?
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Probably not. I'm pretty strong for my size, and in normal situations, about as strong as him, but there is a lot of adrenaline involved here.
 
don't u think the girl is partly to blame too? yup the guy is definitely an arse. let him know he is an arse. if ur friend has a gf.... ask him how he would feel if this happened to his gf. he'd probably want to kick some ass too.
 
Originally posted by: Deeko
Originally posted by: godmare
Originally posted by: Deeko
This is peachy.

Two good friends of mine are going out. A month ago, the girl(who lives on my floor), was extremely drunk(she got drunk with that girl who ended up passed out in my room, if you recall), and one of my best friends(who also lives on my floor), who was only a little buzzed, decided to be a real asshole and take advantage of her. So she cheated on her boyfriend...and she finally got the courage to break it to him last night. He essentially broke up with her, temporarily anyway. Now I'm in the middle of all of this, all three of them coming to me either for advice or(in the girls case) for a shoulder to cry on...its such a sh!tty situation, the guy is totally 100% at fault, and the boyfriend wants to kick his ass, and I don't blame him...but how can I condone one of my best friends getting beaten? Meanwhile I am trying to get the girl to stop beating herself up...ugh.
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Wait, they were right there in front of you (figuratively or otherwise)? Why didn't you stop it?
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No. We were at the party, and came back to the dorm. Apparantly, while I was tending to the drunk girl passed out in my room, and the rest of the floor was tending to the girl with alcohol poisoning(it was a great night for my floor, those 3 girls went to a frat and didnt know when to stop when offered free hard alcohol), the guy went to check on the first girl, trying to make it seem like he was being a good guy, and...stayed. Trust me, if I'd seen it with my own eyes, I'd have kicked his ass on the spot. Last weekend some guy was trying to get with my other best friends' girl and I threatened him pretty good, he disappeared quick.
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I'd frickin' womp anybody that did some twisted crap like that anyway. Especially to one of my friends. Frat party situations are dangerous for girls, especially if they are unsuspecting.
You mention the antagoonist male coming to you for advice. What advice does he want? He obviously, based upon your account, instigated the ordeal, is he feeling remorse or something?
 
Originally posted by: Deeko
Two good friends of mine are going out. A month ago, the girl(who lives on my floor), was extremely drunk(she got drunk with that girl who ended up passed out in my room, if you recall), and one of my best friends(who also lives on my floor), who was only a little buzzed, decided to be a real asshole and take advantage of her. So she cheated on her boyfriend...
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The question becomes, did she do it willingly?

If not, then she didn't cheat, she was raped. If she did, then yes she cheated.

the guy is totally 100% at fault
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Why? If he didn't rape her, then what did he do wrong? Sleeply with a woman is not a crime, even if she's married to someone else.

and the boyfriend wants to kick his ass, and I don't blame him...
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Remind him that aggravated assualt is a felony, and he can go to prison for it.

but how can I condone one of my best friends getting beaten?
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If you know it will happen, and you don't call the police, they can charge YOU with a crime. Depends on what he does of course, just making sure you're aware that you can't have prior knowledge of a felony and keep it to yourself.

Meanwhile I am trying to get the girl to stop beating herself up...ugh.
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She sounds like she is sorry she did it. If she didn't mean to do it, then tell her to commit to not getting that drunk again, and not to do it again.

Yes, it sucks, but you move on...

: ) Hopper
 
Originally posted by: CKDragon
Drexel Girls... not worth the trouble. 😛

CK
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lol...damn lambda chi for providing them with so much free liquor! And damn them for not letting guys in! 😛
 
Originally posted by: Deeko
she is at fault for drinking too much. She was in no condition to make decisions. She drank more than the other 2 girls I mentioned.
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Yeah, but he was in the condition to make the decision - and he should have made the other one.

No. He was wrong in what he did. Her and I discussed the whole rape thing, she said she'd never call him in for rape because they were(and still are sorta) friends. I'm not behind him at all. I just don't want to see him get seriously hurt. The boyfriend almost kicked the sh!t out of a kid for cutting in line at a taco stand on the street, how do you think he would react if he saw this kid face to face?
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I think the boyfriend has some serious anger management problems. A taco stand on the street? Jeez, did he really need the three-bean right then? Would it kill him to wait another minute?

- M4H
 
Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
Originally posted by: MichaelD
Easy.

Sleep with her. That will piss your male friend off, so you don't have to deal with him anymore, and it'll be a notch in your belt, so you don't have to deal w/the female anymore either. Problem solved! HTH!
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If alcohol wasn't involved, I'd be behind that solution 100%.
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LOL! 😀

You guys are terrible...

Being as the asshole took advantage of her, I'm going to have to go with "break out the popcorn and watch him get beaten"

- M4H
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Cute idea, nice mental picture, but for the kiddies out there reading this, don't do that. You might end up on an episode of Cops that way, or worse.

: ) Hopper
 
Yeah, okay, my bad, I didn't realize they had sex. I assumed incorrectly that they didn't I suppose.

Anyway, he is definitely an complete ass for doing that. She is definitely a moron for getting so drunk though...and so drunk with no sober friend around to watch out for her.
 
Originally posted by: godmare<br
I'd frickin' womp anybody that did some twisted crap like that anyway. Especially to one of my friends. Frat party situations are dangerous for girls, especially if they are unsuspecting.
You mention the antagoonist male coming to you for advice. What advice does he want? He obviously, based upon your account, instigated the ordeal, is he feeling remorse or something?
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he feels bad for doing it, he doesn't want his ass kicked, and wants to try to diffuse the situation a little....

The question becomes, did she do it willingly?

If not, then she didn't cheat, she was raped. If she did, then yes she cheated.
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She didn't even know what happened, so she doesn't know if it was wiling or not. I had to drag it out of the other guy.

Why? If he didn't rape her, then what did he do wrong? Sleeply with a woman is not a crime, even if she's married to someone else.
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Sleeping with a friend who you know has a bf is wrong. Especially if they are that drunk.

Remind him that aggravated assualt is a felony, and he can go to prison for it.
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I did

I think the boyfriend has some serious anger management problems. A taco stand on the street? Jeez, did he really need the three-bean right then? Would it kill him to wait another minute?
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He does. Which is why I(and the girl) are worried for the other guy.
 
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