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Got my first rejection

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that was not meant at you...i mean rejection is just an opportunity for us all to try something a little different way
 
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only then can we give you worthwile advise. By this i really mean that if she is hot everyone will post "hit it" and if not then something creative about staying the h3ll away

but if you already decided to forget it then just turn to the embrace of anandtech and forget about girls in general
 
Originally posted by: digitalsnare
Yo, im 17 and ive liked this girl forever, just never really able to tell her. I finnaly get a chance, and spill the beans while giving her a ride home (this was my first time doing so, ever) and she simply put it "I cant say i feel the same way as you, but we can still be friends" It was very hard to hear that, but I knew if I never told her how i felt, I would beat myself up for the rest of my life. Im sure I will eventually get over it, but i still feel terrible.


Update: So i talked to my friend about this whole thing, and apparently him and her are best friends and i didnt even know it! So, he is like "Dont worry dude, I got you covered, i got it" and he wont tell me what hes gonna do, but should I not get my hopes up, he is a pretty trustworthy friend

Edit 2: This same friend strongly now urges me to ask her out to get something to eat after the football game tomorrow night, should I do it, it would give me a chance to explain why I was acting to wierd the other day

FINAL EDIT: Im letting it go, its not worth it to make her feel uncomfortable anymore, as well as myself. I think ill feel a lot better not trying to get something i cant ever obtain. I dont think a relationship is right for me now anyways, I just needed to tell her how i felt.

I did a similar thing. Told a girl how I felt a month before I left for school, so there wasn't really a possibility of anything. I'm glad I did it. Two months later she is engaged. Very strange experience.
 
Hey guy!

Lot's of good advise so far. This might be a bit tough to get ahold of at this point in your life, but try this:

You think the "battle" is outside between your appeal and her desire, or between her perception and yours, or any number of other equivalent constructs. Nothing could be further from the truth.
The battle is for the control of your own mind, for who is to determine you self-worth. It is completely within your own control to win that battle.

All the comments have been good, I can only add is that your sense of self-worth should NEVER be measured by others perception (within ethical boundries!).

Enjoy your sojurn.
 
yeah, you guys have all been a great help, I think im over it now, it just took some time. Man ultimate frisbee really helps you get your mind off of stuff
 
See, you should have told her you got your first erection.

Maybe it would have ended better! 😉
On the serious side though. It get's better. Then worse again, then better....
 
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