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Goodbye dad...I will miss you

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Exterous

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Four months after he retired my dad was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. They caught it early so they said he had a year and a half left to live which is, sadly, pretty good for pancreatic cancer. For those who don't know the 1 year survival rate is 20% and the 5 year is 6%

That was 30 months ago. If nothing else my dad is a fighter - even at the end. When there was finally nothing else they could do and gave him 3 weeks he lived on. 3 weeks turned into 7 and even the hospice nurses were surprised he was doing so well.

When I die I hope I can face it with even half the dignity that he did. Even at the end when he weighed an 80lbs(!) shadow of his previous 5'11" 185lbs self and could only get out a single word or two it was almost always 'Please' 'Thank you' or 'Love you'

We didn't always get along. He wasn't able to get across a lot of the life lessons he was trying teach when I was younger but I consider myself very fortunate to have a father who cared so much about his children. Time and experience have made the foundation he laid much clearer. I attribute much of my work ethic, my drive to figure out how to do things myself and do them well and how I handle my finances to him (among others)

I got to spend a lot of quality time with him over that last 30 months and form some amazing memories. They lived with us for 6 months while he was undergoing chemo and radiation. He improved enough for a short time that we were able to take some memorable trips together and he was able to spend a lot of time with his grandkids.

Thank you for everything you have done for me, my sister and your wife.

I love you Dad and I will miss you
 
I am so very sorry for your loss, Exterous. It sounds like you were able to make his last 30 months very good ones.

May your father Rest In Peace.
 
Exterous, I am sincerely sorry for your loss. That was a moving tribute to your father. My condolences to your family.
 
sorry for your loss man. my dad died almost 6 years ago and i think about him pretty much every day and still cry about it every now and then.
 
I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your father. I will say a prayer tonight for the two of you and hope you find peace in this time of your life.

slag
 
So sorry for your loss Exterous. Sounds like you had an amazing dad and he raised a very caring son. You were both more fortunate than you might realize. Just take your time mourning at your own pace and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
 
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Sorry man, I know your feels bro lost my dad last christmas.


Spend as much time with your family as possible. Helped me most.
 
Sorry for your loss, man. My own parents are getting up there (my dad is 80) and I'm not a spring chicken myself anymore. Makes you think.
 
Exterous, I am sorry for your loss. It sounds like your father was a great role model and that he departed leaving your family with a lot of memories and love.
 
I'm very sorry for your loss. I lost my mother to colon cancer about 9 years ago and did not get the benefit of a lot of time with her after diagnosis (she chose not to undergo treatment and passed about 4 months after we found out). She was the finest person I've ever known.

In just a few sentences you describe a good man and a good father and you can honor him by being one yourself.
 
That sucks. Good to hear you had a good relationship with your dad.

To give you some contrast, mines is a sack of shit.
 
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