Goodbye dad...I will miss you

[Zargon]

Ex....wow man....I'm so sorry.

Please accept my condolences, and if you need anything, you know where the PM button is.

 

[Exterous]

Thank you all for your thoughtful and caring words. I really appreciate it

 

[Ichinisan]

Why do I never hear of pancreas transplant as a suggested treatment for this? Does the diagnosis of pancreatic cancer always mean the cancerous cells have already invaded other parts of the body?

 

[lxskllr]

Condolences. That's what my father died from back in 2000

 

[dphantom]

Our deepest condolences to you and your family.

 

[Brian Stirling]

Pancreatic cancer is a bad one and my dad died from it in 1979 at the age of 62 -- about 6 months after diagnosis. There are not many health issues that can match the lethality of PC.

I feel for you man...


Brian

 

[preCRT]

I am sorry for your great loss. May your & your family find comfort in the memories of your time together.

 

[Captante]

My Dads prostate cancer just recurred ... he just finished treatment but at 87 years old I don't know how long he'll be around.

Sincere condolences.

 

[Imported]

Sorry for your loss.

Fuck cancer.

 

[Pulsar]

Four months after he retired my dad was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. They caught it early so they said he had a year and a half left to live which is, sadly, pretty good for pancreatic cancer. For those who don't know the 1 year survival rate is 20% and the 5 year is 6%

That was 30 months ago. If nothing else my dad is a fighter - even at the end. When there was finally nothing else they could do and gave him 3 weeks he lived on. 3 weeks turned into 7 and even the hospice nurses were surprised he was doing so well.

When I die I hope I can face it with even half the dignity that he did. Even at the end when he weighed an 80lbs(!) shadow of his previous 5'11" 185lbs self and could only get out a single word or two it was almost always 'Please' 'Thank you' or 'Love you'

We didn't always get along. He wasn't able to get across a lot of the life lessons he was trying teach when I was younger but I consider myself very fortunate to have a father who cared so much about his children. Time and experience have made the foundation he laid much clearer. I attribute much of my work ethic, my drive to figure out how to do things myself and do them well and how I handle my finances to him (among others)

I got to spend a lot of quality time with him over that last 30 months and form some amazing memories. They lived with us for 6 months while he was undergoing chemo and radiation. He improved enough for a short time that we were able to take some memorable trips together and he was able to spend a lot of time with his grandkids.

Thank you for everything you have done for me, my sister and your wife.

I love you Dad and I will miss you

Dammit dude, the feels. You made me think about my parents. Congratulations on making that connection with him. Some of us never do.

 

[Lyfer]

My condolences.

 

[Brainonska511]

I'm sorry to hear that. My condolences to you and your family.

 

[ponyo]

My condolences. Tears ran down as I read your tribute to your father. I lost my father to cancer too so your post brought back some nice memories of my dad. Thank you.

 

[DesiPower]

Sorry to hear OP, cancer's a butch... hang in there.

 

[thestrangebrew1]

My condolences to you and yours OP. Sorry for your loss

 

[manlymatt83]

Hang in there OP.

 

[brianmanahan]

sorry man

 

[Exterous]

Exterous, I am sincerely sorry for your loss. That was a moving tribute to your father. My condolences to your family.

My condolences to you and yours, buddy, and a damned fine post.

In just a few sentences you describe a good man and a good father and you can honor him by being one yourself.

Thank you. Its tough to compress compress my thoughts into a few short paragraphs but I tried my best

My condolences. Tears ran down as I read your tribute to your father. I lost my father to cancer too so your post brought back some nice memories of my dad. Thank you.

I am glad that my post was able to bring back those nice memories. You are very welcome

So sorry for your loss Exterous. Sounds like you had an amazing dad and he raised a very caring son. You were both more fortunate than you might realize. Just take your time mourning at your own pace and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

My wife being a teacher in an inner city school really opened my eyes to how low the bar really is for being a decent parent and started me down the path of realizing how much my parents cared for us

 

[Exterous]

Why do I never hear of pancreas transplant as a suggested treatment for this? Does the diagnosis of pancreatic cancer always mean the cancerous cells have already invaded other parts of the body?

The symptoms are usually minimal or are incredibly generic until the cancer has significantly spread. Its often the symptoms from other organs the cancer spreads to that are the first signs of trouble and by then its far too late.

My father happened to be in for a gall stone MRI scan when they found it. Unfortunately it was partially entwined around the 'great pancreatic artery' so surgery or transplant was never an option

 

[Exterous]

Thank you everyone for all of your heartfelt words. It really does make things a little easier

 

[soulcougher73]

Sorry for the loss. Glad you got to spend some good quality time with him. I'm sure that meant the world to him.

 

[stargazr]

My condolences.

 

[Maximilian]

Sorry for your loss RIP

 

[child of wonder]

My deepest condolences. My wife lost her father to prostate cancer when she was only 20 and being with her during that journey, from diagnosis to the end and many years beyond, I know how painful of a process it is to lose someone that way.

I shared your story with my wife and, like others, it made her think of her dad and brought back some good memories.

Stay strong, cherish the memories, laugh, share your feelings with family, and every day will get a little better.

 

[LTC8K6]

Sorry for your loss.

I'm glad you had those good times with your father.