gonna tell girl i like her, but should i?

[Xzaver]

I wouldn't tell her , hell you shouldn't have let her know in the first place , its do or don't if ya know what I mean.

BTW if your still young your mind is still developing , hence sarcasm around her will help you in your fight to whin her heart. : )

and learn from her and teach her new things over time she may see new things about you that she may like

Good Luck my freind
~X~

kaiotes,

EDIT: From what I've been reading I would say try you fscking itiot , If she truely is your freind then she will understand.

TO ALL:

Ever notice after one gets his/her heart broken it's allmost as if they turn into a different person and Become better for it. , I would say to you kaiotes , if you truely love her and care for her you will remane freinds and have some balls.

 

[josphstalinator]

theres only one thing to do in this situation - whip it out

 

[Delusion2001]

just tell her

 

[zippy]

Dude, I hear ya.

Here's what I found out when I was sweating a girl and then got shot down when I found out, from her of course when I tried to ask her out, that she didn't want to have a relationship (no time for one ).

Clawing your eyes out, kicking your own ass, and beating yourself up doesn't help. It wrecks the flow and makes things worse. Don't let this get to you because then you'll do more harm than good. If you are sweating it so much and worrying about it- you will be nervous and awkward around her and she'll feel uncomfortable. Put it into perspective- which is more important, a serious relationship, or a friendship at this point in life?

HOWEVER, if you really feel you have to do this otherwise it could be too late- even though from what she's said about it, it seems too early- then do it and get it over with. You'll feel like ABSOLUTE SH!T for a few days after if you get shot down- but just realize that you still have a great friend in her!

Basically, working yourself up and whatnot over a girl is just...bad. It results in nothing positive. The only time I can imagine thinking intensely about a girl and getting all riled up is when you need to pick a perfect gift out and can't think of what to get- then you get brownie points if you put on a good show while you give the gift. Or, another time to get all worked up about a girl is when you are thinking about how happy you are to be with her and how lucky you are to have her. But before the relationship starts, beating yourself up about her is just plain bad!

Good luck man! Hope I helped and that everything works out for the best.

 

[zippy]

rlism-

<< &quot;find another girl and flaunt it, girls dig guys who are spoken for. &quot; >>

LOL, it's funny because it's true! But really, not a good thing to do- using a girl just to get at another girl is a really dirty, scum-baggish thing to do. Sorry, just needed to add that disclaimer.

 

[Rubicone]

I'd say tell her because otherwise you may spend the rest of your life wondering of what could have been. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. If she rejects you it's going to be very difficult to get over her especially if you are head over heels in love with her. Ask yourself this, do you simply want to be with her as an end in itself (=true love) or do you want her as a means to an end? There is a difference. Women sometimes do not know what they want even when a gift horse is starring them in the face. Guys have to be pressing and persistant do indicate that they are serious about wanting to commit. Unfortunately some women and ultra feminists in particular mistake romantic pursuit for something criminal or evil.

 

[rlism]

haha, yeah, zippy, it's not something i would do. i thought my little was a sufficent disclaimer. =)

but honestly, just keep shoppin' and you may find something else you were looking for and realize that this girl wasn't the one. or even better, somewhere further down the road, you might come to a realization that she IS and then justify your decision to make the move.

good luck to ya kaiotes, and what restaurant didja end up taking her to after seinfeld?

 

[troglodytis]

you must tell her!you must tell her!you must tell her!

if you value your friendship,you must tell her!
being open and honest are staples of a true friendship. how can she be your friend if she doesn't know the truth about how you feel?

or if you want her love,you must tell her!
pretending to be her friend is no way to win her love. show her your feelings, show her your commitment, show her your heart. remaining quiet is a sure way to keep the relationship where it is. telling her how you truely feel will take the relationship to a new place.

or if you want in her pants,you must tell her!
but get her good and drunk first, and get ready for the slap or the sex.

or if you value yourself,you must tell her!
YOUR feelings matter. which is better, being around her or being true to yourself? what if this girl isn't the one? are you going to spend the rest of your life just hanging out with her as friends while the REAL love of your life passes you by?



while it is true that she has given you signs that she may not have romantic feelings toward you at the moment, she will not develope them while you are under the guise of friendship. someone is gonna have to introduce romance into this relationship if it is going to change. might as well be you! even if she turns you down that doesn't mean it is the end. you will know to let the heartache begin and to move on, but the friendship between you two can only then truely begin as well. that crazy feeling can not supside untill it is exspessed! you must tell her!

be you,you must tell her!

 

[DannyLove]

last time i told a good friend of mine that I liked her, everything got lost. even our friendship. I'm kind of glad because I'm not noticing how stupid she really is. I don't know, either way women are EVIIIIIIIIIIIIIIL

 

[Muadib]

Both pamchenko and troglodytis are right, I say stick to your plan and tell her. You really have nothing to lose. Unless you're really into pain, you can't just be a friend.

 

[kaiotes]

from wut i know, her guy friends has asked her out (i tihnk) well she told me that they like her, well these guys are still friends so i dunno.
these last couple of saying i should ask her, well i dunno.
there is good and bad to asking and not asking.
what i strongly believe will happen:
she will say not interested.
reason why i want to do this:
dun wanna keep on wondering what could have happen (although i pretty much know nothing)
also
we used to talk (online) like almost everyday, now not as much.... another sign?
so i guess i got few more days to decide and i got finals next wk

 

[Azraele]

If she felt you were &quot;onto&quot; her, she may have simply asked you out of curiosity if you felt she was more than a friend. Weigh your options. How does she act toward you? Do you feel you may have a chance? How will it affect your friendship if you tell her? The chances are likely that if you tell her and she's not interested, she will feel uncomfortable and distance herself from you. On the flip side, however, she is already a bit more distant than normal, as you said you used to talk to her daily and now not so often. Perhaps if you phrased it such that you tell her that you have to get something off your chest, but it's not meant to make her feel uncomfortable and if she's not interested, then you will not pursue it any further. You're taking a risk no matter what you do, you just have to figure out which risk you want to take.