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Going to a black tie wedding tonight, will I be the only one in a suit?

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miri

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I do not like tuxedos at all and ended up buying a black suit. Am I going to be the only person there not in a tuxedo?
 
Originally posted by: miri
I keep reading stuff that says tuxedo is required for black tie weddings for guests.
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No, it isn't. Black tie simply means very formal. A dark suit is acceptable, but keep it monochrome and avoid bright colours and shiny fabrics.
 
Black Tie means tuxedo.

If they wanted just suites, they would have said "formal" or maybe "semi-formal." Does the invintation actually say black tie on it?
 
Originally posted by: Babbles
Black Tie means tuxedo.

If they wanted just suites, they would have said "formal" or maybe "semi-formal." Does the invintation actually say black tie on it?
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I never really looked at the invitation, my wife handles all that stuff, but she said it was black tie.
 
some people wear jeans to regular weddings... so you'll be "one of those" 😉 I honestly didn't care much about it when it happened.
 
wtf? You're a guest at a wedding and they expect a tux? Suit seems the standard for me. Unless you're like one of the best men or ushers or something other then a regular guest.
 
"Black Tie" is just a synonym for "Maintaining our own pretension is far more important than our guests comfort. We cannot trust you to dress appropriately and like a mommy laying out her childrens clothes for school, we demand you wear what WE choose."

If it bothers you being told how to dress, don't go and let them know why. A friend of mine from college got married in a "Black Tie" wedding at the demand of the brides mother. While they were discussing plans he told us it would likely be black tie and 7 of his friends, myself included, tried to talk him out of such a stupid idea. He got all huffed up that he wasn't going to get steamrolled by the women and he guaranteed he'd get it changed. He caved and a few weeks later the invitations came "Black Tie". No qualifier like "preferred" or "optional". The 7 friends sent back a single co-signed RSVP saying we would not be attending due to the dress code. Amazingly he grew a pair for the first and last time in the relationship (she wears the pants in the family) and forced a change to "Black Tie Optional".

The bottom line is, it's a private event and they have a right to tell you how you must dress to attend. You have the right to tell them to shove it up their ass. Exercise your rights.
 
Definately, just wear what you have and don't sweat it. I think in buying an entire suit for 1 persons wedding you have already shown quite a bit of respect for these people. If they say something about it, just tell them how you feel. If they make a huge issue of it, just vote with your feet and walk.
 
Originally posted by: Kelvrick
wtf? You're a guest at a wedding and they expect a tux? Suit seems the standard for me. Unless you're like one of the best men or ushers or something other then a regular guest.
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heh, never been to a black tie wedding have we?
 
i've been to a bunch of black tie weddings and a dark suit with a nice tie was fine.

only the immediate family wears a tux...my experience.

 
Originally posted by: GagHalfrunt
"Black Tie" is just a synonym for "Maintaining our own pretension is far more important than our guests comfort. We cannot trust you to dress appropriately and like a mommy laying out her childrens clothes for school, we demand you wear what WE choose."

If it bothers you being told how to dress, don't go and let them know why. A friend of mine from college got married in a "Black Tie" wedding at the demand of the brides mother. While they were discussing plans he told us it would likely be black tie and 7 of his friends, myself included, tried to talk him out of such a stupid idea. He got all huffed up that he wasn't going to get steamrolled by the women and he guaranteed he'd get it changed. He caved and a few weeks later the invitations came "Black Tie". No qualifier like "preferred" or "optional". The 7 friends sent back a single co-signed RSVP saying we would not be attending due to the dress code. Amazingly he grew a pair for the first and last time in the relationship (she wears the pants in the family) and forced a change to "Black Tie Optional".

The bottom line is, it's a private event and they have a right to tell you how you must dress to attend. You have the right to tell them to shove it up their ass. Exercise your rights.
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Meh....an (ex)friend of mine (for 8 years!) got married this last summer...didn't really like his wife to be and vice-versa, but I had talked to him in like May or June. At this point I was still under the impression I was in the wedding party (he had been in mine in '03).

Never got invited. Calls suddenly didn't get returned. Decided I wasn't going to fvcking beg for the privilege of attending. A couple of other friends also didn't get invited...weird stuff.

Haven't talked to him since. Not really sure how this relates, but yeah, basically they have the right to be asses, you have the right to tell them where to stick it.
 
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