Going on a date/ need some pointers

[pcman2002b]

Originally posted by: LeeTJ
when you go to dinner, don't sit accross from her, sit next to her.

you don't have to talk well, listen well. allow her conversation to generate questions. take things out her conversation that you have some interest in and ask her questions as tho she is the expert.

be a good listener. don't get carried away trying to show her who you are, show that you are interested in who she is.

that's how i always did it when i dated.

boy that's a long time ago now.

Thanks, thats the best advice I've gotten so far.

 

[pcman2002b]

Not that the rest of you guys didn't help my confidence in the slightest.

 

[sirspotticus]

Originally posted by: ELP

Originally posted by: wfbberzerker
dont do what ben stiller did before his date in something about mary...


oh and its nonchalant

What are you talking about. That is one of best pieces of advice you could give someone about to go on a date.

Its like going out with a loaded gun.

People get hurt that way...

EDIT: Oh, and check your ears before you leave

he's right, just clean the pipes and it's a go.

 

[GoingUp]

dont tell her that you get dating advice from other nerds online

 

[fyleow]

Originally posted by: LeeTJ
when you go to dinner, don't sit accross from her, sit next to her.

you don't have to talk well, listen well. allow her conversation to generate questions. take things out her conversation that you have some interest in and ask her questions as tho she is the expert.

be a good listener. don't get carried away trying to show her who you are, show that you are interested in who she is.

that's how i always did it when i dated.

boy that's a long time ago now.

Wouldn't sitting beside her be kind of awkward when you're talking to her?

 

[pcman2002b]

Originally posted by: Gobadgrs
dont tell her that you get dating advice from other nerds online

I wouldn't dare.

Although don't they say that nerds are better at this kind of crap then say, jocks!

My Date's Journal
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My Turn-Offs are
1. Hairy backs
2. Green Teeth
3. Guys who get dating advice from AnAndTech Off-Topic Forums!!!!!!!!!

 

[ilyria]

I hate to repeat it but yes- you should relax and be yourself. The fact that she said yes probably means that she's at least a little interested in you too. Beyond that here's an IMPORTANT conversational pointer that guys never seem to get about women- focus on her! Ask her questions about her interests, likes/dislikes, etc- and be (or at least seem) genuinely interested. That will win you mega points. ALso don't freak out if you're a little nervous- a lot of girls think it's kind of cute when guys act that way on a first date. Well good luck and have fun!

 

[Yossarian]

Originally posted by: LeeTJ
when you go to dinner, don't sit accross from her, sit next to her.

I wouldn't recommend that for a first date.

 

[GTaudiophile]

PICS?

 

[GTaudiophile]

Originally posted by: ilyria
I hate to repeat it but yes- you should relax and be yourself. The fact that she said yes probably means that she's at least a little interested in you too. Beyond that here's an IMPORTANT conversational pointer that guys never seem to get about women- focus on her! Ask her questions about her interests, likes/dislikes, etc- and be (or at least seem) genuinely interested. That will win you mega points. ALso don't freak out if you're a little nervous- a lot of girls think it's kind of cute when guys act that way on a first date. Well good luck and have fun!

Another woman joins ATOT? Welcome!

 

[Zee]

DONT BE TOO CASUAL. Make sure u make it clear u like her. Look in her eyes. Pay attention to her. dont just "chill" with her. FLIRT (tastefullY)

 

[boyRacer]

Originally posted by: Zeero
DONT BE TOO CASUAL. Make sure u make it clear u like her. Look in her eyes. Pay attention to her. dont just "chill" with her. FLIRT (tastefullY)

the key word there is tastefully...

 

[AznMaverick]

want want to hear results...!

 

[rudeguy]

Originally posted by: boyRacer

Originally posted by: Zeero
DONT BE TOO CASUAL. Make sure u make it clear u like her. Look in her eyes. Pay attention to her. dont just "chill" with her. FLIRT (tastefullY)

the key word there is tastefully... while getting her drunk

 

[EvilYoda]

w/o reading all the replies, first thing that I notice is you should be careful not to try to impress her too much. Tickets to David Copperfield and a "dinner at a fancy place" can't be cheap...I'll spend just as much as the next guy on a girl, if not more, but maybe not on the first date. If you were so surprised that she said yes, you could have just read her wrong, but I just don't want you to lay all that cash down, only to have her take advantage of your generosity and then drop you.

Other than that, if you're really that worried, a drink might not hurt, smooth the nerves down a bit, let yourself be you...and don't try to impress her every second, you'll forget about everything else and ruin things. Just let things flow, talk about anything...sounds like you two don't know each other at all, so you should have plenty to talk about. Find out what she's interested in, talk about world issues, movies, music, the usual.

g'luck.

 

[Crappopotamus]

Originally posted by: ilyria
I hate to repeat it but yes- you should relax and be yourself. The fact that she said yes probably means that she's at least a little interested in you too. Beyond that here's an IMPORTANT conversational pointer that guys never seem to get about women- focus on her! Ask her questions about her interests, likes/dislikes, etc- and be (or at least seem) genuinely interested. That will win you mega points. ALso don't freak out if you're a little nervous- a lot of girls think it's kind of cute when guys act that way on a first date. Well good luck and have fun!

i dont see how thats a problem. id rather not talk about myself. i throw in the funny story here and there, but id much rather talk about her. and hell the less they know about me the better!

 

[bleeb]

Have you seen "There's Something About Mary" ... Don't go with a loaded gun! hahaha

 

[idNut]

Be yourself that way when or if she doesn't agree with you, you know you weren't trying to be someone who you weren't if that makes any sense.

 

[Pliablemoose]

Originally posted by: wfbberzerker
dint do what ben stiller did before his date in something about mary...


oh and its nonchalant

Yep, clean your pipes 5-6 times immediately before picking her up

The fact that you're posting on AT OT about how to behave on a date pretty well dooms the date

Just be yourself, take a deep breath & relax, there's a reason the world is overpopulated, it's primarily because dating, intimacy & sex are natural processes, and she's nervous as hell too. 99.9% of all women, (even most of the hot ones) grew up playing with Barbie's & know for a fact that they don't stack up well against Barbie & fashion models & they perceive they have some fatal flaw that men will freak out on when they find out about it.

Truth is that men aren't generally as critical of women's perceived flaws...

Be sort of careful about the fancy dinner, you might want to keep it simple. If the Copperfield thing goes well, she'll let you know if she wants to see you again.

Whe I was dating, I finally figured out I had a hot one if we planned the next date during the current one. got to be such a habit with my wife, when we were dating, we had to get married (My wife is hot & I've always thought I looked like Bob Denver from Gilligan's Island)

 

[ProfessorFate]

Look yourself in the mirror and repeat these words:

"Bond, James Bond."

 

[kami]

You just need to remember 3 things:

-Look her in the eyes when you talk
-Smile
-Listen. Don't think what you are going to say next. Just listen. Then it flows...trust me.

good luck

 

[ilyria]

thanks! =)
I take it there's a dearth around here?

 

[amnesiac]

Dammit, have people today gotten so dependent that they need a freaking FAQ to go on a date? Sheesh.

 

[Barnaby W. Füi]

Smile, be happy, be confident, be fun, be funny, look at her in the eyes, be sincere.

edit: Yeah, listen, don't just talk all the time, although you are going to need to do some talking of course. When she is talking, give her all of your attention and look at her. Personally I like to sit across when eating, because I think it's annoying to have to constantly look to the side to look at them. Sitting across lets you look right into their eyes. Lean forward when talking. Give her "that look"

 

[Geekbabe]

David Copperfield is an awsome show! Don't do a fancy dinner afterwards though, go someplace like Starbucks or Barnes and Noble for coffee and desert. Just relax and enjoy the show,that'll give you enough to get a good convo flowing!