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Rakewell

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Go join the peace corp for a year or two. When you return your life will have been put in perspective and you will realize things are not to bleak.

This is not a bad idea.

You need to work to find meaning.
 

Skeeedunt

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Oct 7, 2005
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I'm in a kinda shitty spot right now too. It sucks counting the minutes just waiting for each day to pass by. I've been in a similar spot before, and it does get better. I don't have much great advice, just try to stay busy, seek out any friends (even if you haven't seen them in a while), and try to work toward something productive. I really hope things turn around quickly for you man.
 

kranky

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Just start working and doing things to improve your life. As the old saying goes keep your nose to the grindstone. One day you'll look around and say damn I did okay.

I always tell people my story so they see others pulled themselves out of a hole and they can do it too. I went to prison at 18. Couldn't keep any kind of job or stay off drugs long enough to even care. Almost 2 years in prison to think about what I wanted in life and if this was it. I do give God and my now wife credit for giving me strength to do it. I decided I wanted better and I wasn't the kind of guy that belonged with the animals you meet behind bars. I got out and started busting my ass, stayed away from bad influences, stayed clean, always tried to do what was right. Long story short I'm just an average Joe that's done okay. But you know being an average Joe to me is a huge accomplishment from where I started.

Congrats to you, man. Nothing is as meaningful as hearing from someone who has been there and made it through.
 

amdhunter

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May 19, 2003
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You need to accept Jesus as your Lord and Savior. Things may look bad now, but God has a plan for you, and he won't let anything happen to one of his beloved children.

Just pray one time, and you'll see for yourself how insignificant your problems are right now.
 

Tempered81

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Jan 29, 2007
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A sincere thanks to all you guys for posting here and helping. One thing I've realized is that help should be given to be received. It is always better to give than to receive.

Right now I'm reading UCLA basketball coach John Wooden's book. The support from ATOT is wonderful. Thank you.
 

manimal

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Mar 30, 2007
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Glad things seem better Temp. I have reinvented myself about a dozen times and I will probably do it again. Nothing beats a challenge in life.

I am serious. If everything was easy and all the material things were there would you really feel that different?

Challenge defines us. Challenge tests our wills, Challenge and overcoming those obsticals makes waking up everyday something new and exciting.

Dont make money more important than it is. Make LIVING important.
 

KingstonU

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Dec 26, 2006
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Lots of good advice in this thread. Take baby steps, make little goals for yourself and deal with them one at a time. Those little goals will slowly start making you feel better about yourself and you will start to turn things around. A good hard days work can bring a lot of satisfaction.

Wishing you the best OP.
 

AnonymouseUser

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I can't give any financial, family, or job advice without more specifics, but what I can say is this: Happiness is a state of mind. Some of the poorest people are perfectly happy, while some of the wealthiest are absolutely miserable. Some have had hardship after hardship and continue to be move forward, while others have everything handed to them and give up after the slightest hardship. It's up to the individual to choose to be happy with what they have, and don't ever fall into the trap of believing "more is better".
 

busydude

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Feb 5, 2010
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I honestly thought you were a gpu industry insider based on the posts you make there.

I've never been in your situation, but I am supporting myself even though I live below poverty line.. and going to college. I've never more happy in my entire life than I am right now.. as this is the first time I am leading an independent life. Sometimes I miss my country, but leaving my parents house and getting out of there was the best thing I've ever done.
 

SP33Demon

Lifer
Jun 22, 2001
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Prayer helps a lot. I'd suggest starting there if you have some Faith. Then make a plan for how you can start working, and get out of your funk. We've all been there, sometimes we just need a little kick in the bum to get moving. Baby steps.
 

edro

Lifer
Apr 5, 2002
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Reminds me of Pink Floyd's "Time".
No one told you when to run; you missed the starting gun!

You don't have to be successful to be happy.
Get a simple job in retail and live in an apartment.

Things usually work out.

Your expectations are too high since you grew up upper class.

Lower your expectations for life.
Do not seek mental health help. That is just an excuse and will only empty your wallet.
 

alkemyst

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Feb 13, 2001
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Reminds me of Pink Floyd's "Time".
No one told you when to run; you missed the starting gun!

You don't have to be successful to be happy.
Get a simple job in retail and live in an apartment.

Things usually work out.

Your expectations are too high since you grew up upper class.

Lower your expectations for life.
Do not seek mental health help. That is just an excuse and will only empty your wallet.

I grew up mostly upper class.

When I was born my dad was coming home from Vietnam. My parents ate pasta mostly...they added butter when they could afford it.

I was fed well. I was focused on.

My parents did well, my dad went to college and kept rising in the ranks.

My mom stayed home until I was in school, then she made sure she was home when I came home.

I had all sorts of ups and downs. I never lowered my expectations though, I always stayed happy by finding a solution.
 

DigDog

Lifer
Jun 3, 2011
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i was (still am) .. i got into that very same situation 10 years ago. i WISH i had joined the military back then, i'm too old now. get a job and do nothing except work. only money will save you :/
good luck.
 

disappoint

Lifer
Dec 7, 2009
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A sincere thanks to all you guys for posting here and helping. One thing I've realized is that help should be given to be received. It is always better to give than to receive.

Right now I'm reading UCLA basketball coach John Wooden's book. The support from ATOT is wonderful. Thank you.

Keep the book, it might make for good firewood in the wintertime.

Get your motivation from someone else.

Like Zig Ziglar.

“You can have everything in life that you want if you just give enough other people what they want.”
― Zig Ziglar