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Girls: Emotional vs Physical... I have a delema

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SpecialEd

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I have a delema between two girls.... the first girl I dated for about 7 months... we always had a wonderful time with each other... we would laugh and joke about the same things... I would feel totally comfortable telling her anything and vice versa. Basically we mentally clicked like you wouldn't believe! However my biggest issue with her was the physical relationship.. she was a lousy kisser and very inexperienced in bed.... and I was left with severe blue balls on many occasions.

This second girl I dated many months after was simply amazing physically!! On a physical level, the passion was intense, she fit perfectly into my arms, we weren't battling for covers when we went to sleep. Everything I could want physically in woman... however the problem is that I don't feel the emotional connection I did with the first girl. No get me wrong, I get along great with this second girl, however it just not at the same level as the first.

So basically:
Girl 1: Amazing emotional/mental connection, however lousy physically (even bad kissing!)

Girl 2: Physically Amazing (even cuddling, holding hands...), however the emotional is not amazing, but its okay.



So i'm asking everyone... if you were in my situation, which would you choose... girl 1 or girl 2 assuming all other traits were equal. Currently, i'm not dating either of these girls, however I am still great friends with both. I was talking to one of them today (girl 1) and we touched the topic of getting back together. I was definitely excited over the fact, however i need to evaluate my situation before jumping into anything. Thx!


edit: Unwarranted smily face poping up between "Girl 2 😛hysically"
 
I would wait until someone comes along who suits you both ways. No use settling. It's not fair to you or the other girl.
And as a chick, I wouldn't want a guy to settle for me EVER.

--Sarah
 
Think long term - what would you rather have when you are in your seventies, someone who you can talk to easily or someone you can have a good roll in the hay with? That is, if you can still get it up, and rolling in the hay doesn't break your hip...seems an easy choice to me. 🙂
 


<< Physical beauty doesnt last and skill can be aqired. >>


Two hypotheses for discussion:
1) Emotional connections can be acquired
2) Girls being easy to talk to doesn't last
 


<< Take the 1st girl and teach her how to screw. >>




heh... I was actually beginning to do that, but then we fell on tough times and broke up. Another thing about the first girl is that we didn't become great friends until after we broke up. Now she's like my best friend. However we've both seen people since our break up (Like Girl 2). I guess it is possible that she has learned a few things in other relationships.😉
 


<< You're forgetting one important part.

I believe the most attractive feature of the female body is her mind 🙂 >>



dam that line is getting famouse b0mbrman!

I say get with the first girl and teach her the ways!
 


<< Physical beauty doesnt last and skill can be aqired. >>



Practice, practice, practice! 😀

Honestly, go for Girl 1!
 


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<< You're forgetting one important part.
I believe the most attractive feature of the female body is her mind 🙂 >>


dam that line is getting famouse b0mbrman!
I say get with the first girl and teach her the ways! >>


Heh heh
 
Think long term - what would you rather have when you are in your seventies, someone who you can talk to easily or someone you can have a good roll in the hay with? That is, if you can still get it up, and rolling in the hay doesn't break your hip...seems an easy choice to me.

Hey, I'm only a few years away. 70 ain't all that feeble. Try me out on the raquetball court.

As far as the poster, where do I begin?

The first girl left him with blue balls? This means he got excited but could not complete the mission. This ain't the girls fault. Sounds like he leaves a bit too much to his partner. I would love to hear their opinions of his performance.

The basic question is simple, you spend a lot more time out of bed than in. In this case, I think the two girls could probably do a lot better.

John
 
Take the 1st girl to the 2nd girl to teach her all these wonderful things and then you leave the experienced/wanton sex goddess in your mentally clicking girl 🙂

 
I kind of figure people would say girl 1, I guess i'm still emotionally clouded because Girl 2 and I only broke up two months ago and the reason was that she decided to move to New Zealand for six months to one year before looking for a real job back here in the states. We both didn't want a long distance relationship so called things off, however we left each other on very good terms... we still email each other as if we're still together, however I know its not going to work out for such along time. I also have no idea how i'll feel about her in a year.

I know i'm not ready for a relationship at this point... hopefully I'll have a revelation one of these days!
 


<< Easy choice.......which one has bigger breast?

There you go! >>




ha... well... that will also be a tough choice since both girls have very skinny builds... which leaves them with less then average to talk about... 😱

no offense to them... I do care about them both🙂
 
which girls makes you think about them more for good reasons? Which girl when you see makes your heart beat faster? Which girl makes you get harder wood j/k? 😀

well maybe not the last one but I'd go with the first two and see about it......

Have you talked to girl 1 about her brick like sexual behaviours in bed??? I'd disgust that with her.....
 
Enjoy being single! Spend time with both, don't let things get complicated. Eventually, you will decided for yourself.
 
this is really simple. you need to communicate. lay it down on her slow that she's a bad kisser. coach her on how to do it right, and you'll be all set. if she backs off, just tell her she's doesnt care enough to be with you. you'll either win or lose, but if you lose, bang the other chick.
 
<<Physical beauty doesnt last and skill can be aquired.>>

Girl 1.

<<2) Girls being easy to talk to doesn't last >>

Not true... I have been married to a girl for nearly 8 years... which whom I started dating 6 years prior to that. She is just as easy to talk to now as she was 14 years ago... if not easier. Also, when we started dating all that time ago she was inexperienced just like girl 1... now after 14 years of being together... She is phenomenal.

My thoughts are that to be truly happy with someone over a long period of time you have to be mentally in check with her first then work on the physical.
 
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