Girlfriend's roommate problem

[RbSX]

Cliffs:

-Girlfriend has roommate
-Roommate has boyfriend who is moving in and out of their apartment
-Roommate does not ask my girlfriend if the guy can move in
-Roommate and boyfriend do not clean anything
-Roommate and boyfriend do not pay any extra rent
-Boyfriend is an ass who I want to kick the shit out of
-Girlfriend found out because her mooch roommate used her laptop and left the email open.

This was not an issue since the d-bag was supposed to be moving for work in a week, now he is staying a month.

Last time this ass moved in my girlfriend was away for a few days so he took her shit out of her closet and threw it on her bed.

Suggestions?

 

[rudeguy]

3some?

 

[gorcorps]

Tell them about it. Keep all your gf's things locked away in her room for the time being. Whatever they don't clean (dishes, etc..) throw on the roommate's bed. Let them know it won't be stood for and things will start getting uglier if they don't straighten out.

 

[Exterous]

Is moving out an option? They definitely need to pay more for utilities if he showers there and uses any electricity
See if the lease agreement has anything about more than just the two girls living there.

 

[RbSX]

Originally posted by: Exterous
Is moving out an option? They definitely need to pay more for utilities if he showers there and uses any electricity
See if the lease agreement has anything about more than just the two girls living there.

Ultimately this will be the breaking point, I am moving out of my house soon, I will threaten to stick them both with the rent.

 

[Q]

Tell your landlord/office -- in most contracts you are NOT allowed to do this

 

[akshatp]

Cliffs without rant? Nice!

 

[rudeguy]

Originally posted by: akshatp
Cliffs without rant? Nice!

But no pics of either chick
Fail!

 

[Dessert Tears]

Originally posted by: RyanSengara
Suggestions?

http://forums.anandtech.com/me...did=1921623&arctab=arc

 

[xanis]

It's simple. The boyfriend pays rent if he's going to be living there. Most likely, being the mooch that he is, he's not going to want to pay, so you'll probably be able to get rid of him that way.

 

[dbk]

Tell the owners

 

[AreaCode7O7]

Originally posted by: RyanSengara
Cliffs:

-Girlfriend has roommate
-Roommate has boyfriend who is moving in and out of their apartment
-Roommate does not ask my girlfriend if the guy can move in
-Roommate and boyfriend do not clean anything
-Roommate and boyfriend do not pay any extra rent
-Boyfriend is an ass who I want to kick the shit out of
-Girlfriend found out because her mooch roommate used her laptop and left the email open.

This was not an issue since the d-bag was supposed to be moving for work in a week, now he is staying a month.

Last time this ass moved in my girlfriend was away for a few days so he took her shit out of her closet and threw it on her bed.

Suggestions?

Talk to the roommate. Tell her either the bf doesn't come over, the bf pays a third of rent, or the bf takes over her spot and rent and she moves out, whatever best suits your gf. Note that if the roommate doesn't adhere to these options that your gf will report her roommate to the landlord as violating the terms of the lease. I'm sure one of the terms is the number of people in the apartment.

 

[RbSX]

Originally posted by: AreaCode707

Originally posted by: RyanSengara
Cliffs:

-Girlfriend has roommate
-Roommate has boyfriend who is moving in and out of their apartment
-Roommate does not ask my girlfriend if the guy can move in
-Roommate and boyfriend do not clean anything
-Roommate and boyfriend do not pay any extra rent
-Boyfriend is an ass who I want to kick the shit out of
-Girlfriend found out because her mooch roommate used her laptop and left the email open.

This was not an issue since the d-bag was supposed to be moving for work in a week, now he is staying a month.

Last time this ass moved in my girlfriend was away for a few days so he took her shit out of her closet and threw it on her bed.

Suggestions?

Talk to the roommate. Tell her either the bf doesn't come over, the bf pays a third of rent, or the bf takes over her spot and rent and she moves out, whatever best suits your gf. Note that if the roommate doesn't adhere to these options that your gf will report her roommate to the landlord as violating the terms of the lease. I'm sure one of the terms is the number of people in the apartment.

The largest issue is that my girlfriend is super passive.. I really want to take this into my own hands and just have her move out.

Rather, the easiest thing is for me to drag the guy outside and tell him how it is.

 

[AreaCode7O7]

Originally posted by: RyanSengara

Originally posted by: AreaCode707

Originally posted by: RyanSengara
Cliffs:

-Girlfriend has roommate
-Roommate has boyfriend who is moving in and out of their apartment
-Roommate does not ask my girlfriend if the guy can move in
-Roommate and boyfriend do not clean anything
-Roommate and boyfriend do not pay any extra rent
-Boyfriend is an ass who I want to kick the shit out of
-Girlfriend found out because her mooch roommate used her laptop and left the email open.

This was not an issue since the d-bag was supposed to be moving for work in a week, now he is staying a month.

Last time this ass moved in my girlfriend was away for a few days so he took her shit out of her closet and threw it on her bed.

Suggestions?

Talk to the roommate. Tell her either the bf doesn't come over, the bf pays a third of rent, or the bf takes over her spot and rent and she moves out, whatever best suits your gf. Note that if the roommate doesn't adhere to these options that your gf will report her roommate to the landlord as violating the terms of the lease. I'm sure one of the terms is the number of people in the apartment.

The largest issue is that my girlfriend is super passive.. I really want to take this into my own hands and just have her move out.

Rather, the easiest thing is for me to drag the guy outside and tell him how it is.

Get gf's approval to have you deal with it in her name. Send an email from her account, with her approval, outlining the options and consequences, and then help your gf communicate with the landlord if necessary.

Face to face would be better, but my sister is super-passive and I understand that some people simply can't do what's needed.

Don't deal with the bf, deal with the roommate. The bf has no legal obligation, the roommate does. Keep this legal and technical.

 

[DayLaPaul]

People needs to stop being such pusses in these situations and learn to just check people when they deserved to be checked. The world would be a much better place if people weren't scared of getting someone's panties in a bunch.

At a minimum, this guy will need to pay his share of utilities. If he shares your bathroom, that's extra added on. If you uses your common area, that's extra too. An extra roommate should be at minimum $100 off her rent. That is a good thing. More money for condoms and vodka.

 

[RbSX]

Originally posted by: DayLaPaul
People needs to stop being such pusses in these situations and learn to just check people when they deserved to be checked. The world would be a much better place if people weren't scared of getting someone's panties in a bunch.

At a minimum, this guy will need to pay his share of utilities. If he shares your bathroom, that's extra added on. If you uses your common area, that's extra too. An extra roommate should be at minimum $100 off her rent. That is a good thing. More money for condoms and vodka.

Who said anything about being a pussy? The fact is it isn't as simple as saying we're leaving. She might have to live with this dumbass afterward.

 

[FoBoT]

marry your GF and buy a nice house to live in

 

[sjwaste]

Has she discussed the situation with the roommate without the 3rd "roommate" present? If not, that's #1. Depending on the result of that conversation, she can decide on the alternatives. But not actually discussing it with the person and jumping to other means really isn't the best way to handle it. First and foremost, she needs to discuss it with her, without you or the boyfriend of the other roommate around.