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Originally posted by: sash1
hell no, third wheel on a date picks up their tab

I am telling you....the OP is completely missing the signals here. His GF wants to try out the 3some. He obviously needs to just flat out ask his gf if that's what she is getting at.
 
Originally posted by: Mwilding
if she hasn't offered, you are never going to get her to pay.

sucks for you

He screwed up by setting the expectation that he would pay. You're going to be paying for those two dinners for the rest of your life, OP. 😛
 
Originally posted by: rudeguy
Originally posted by: sash1
hell no, third wheel on a date picks up their tab

I am telling you....the OP is completely missing the signals here. His GF wants to try out the 3some. He obviously needs to just flat out ask his gf if that's what she is getting at.

Or the friend is just going along for free food. Whis is there even a 3rd leg going on these dates anyhow.
 
She should offer to pay every time.

I usually pay for all 3 when these situations occur, but I'm a nice guy.
 
I think there are 4 choices. You should also mention to gf the problem first to get her input.

1. Next dinner have your gf also pay to set example for her friend. At this point the friend should also pay.
2. Forget wallet and have them both pay and cover your tab. If friend mentions about you needing to pay back... go to #3.
3. Never invite her again.
4. Have gf mention to friend to pay.
 
Originally posted by: WaTaGuMp
Originally posted by: rudeguy
Originally posted by: sash1
hell no, third wheel on a date picks up their tab

I am telling you....the OP is completely missing the signals here. His GF wants to try out the 3some. He obviously needs to just flat out ask his gf if that's what she is getting at.

Or the friend is just going along for free food. Whis is there even a 3rd leg going on these dates anyhow.

Either way, he needs to flat out ask his gf if she is interested.
 
Originally posted by: rudeguy
Originally posted by: effowe
When you get the bill, just look it over and tell her what she owes, don't ask.

But set it up with a large quantity of girly drinks. Sea breezes are a great choice. Make sure her and your gf are well lubricated, then head back to your place for a movie. Stop and get some Mike's on the way home. You don't want either of them puking, just maintaining their buzzes. Once you get home, put in a funny movie. You don't want anything sexual or serious. Once both chicks are laughing, compliment your girlfriend on how pretty she is. Her friend should pick up on this and agree with you. Then tell her friend that she is very pretty as well. Girls love to compliment each other when they are buzzed. Now is the time to kiss your gf. If she gets into it, you are gold. Her friend will either join in or leave.

Are you a "film" director of some sort? 😉
 
Originally posted by: WaTaGuMp
Originally posted by: rudeguy
Originally posted by: sash1
hell no, third wheel on a date picks up their tab

I am telling you....the OP is completely missing the signals here. His GF wants to try out the 3some. He obviously needs to just flat out ask his gf if that's what she is getting at.

Or the friend is just going along for free food. Whis is there even a 3rd leg going on these dates anyhow.

b/c the friend is a dateless hag. Her only recourse is free food.
 
Originally posted by: zinfamous
Originally posted by: rudeguy
Originally posted by: effowe
When you get the bill, just look it over and tell her what she owes, don't ask.

But set it up with a large quantity of girly drinks. Sea breezes are a great choice. Make sure her and your gf are well lubricated, then head back to your place for a movie. Stop and get some Mike's on the way home. You don't want either of them puking, just maintaining their buzzes. Once you get home, put in a funny movie. You don't want anything sexual or serious. Once both chicks are laughing, compliment your girlfriend on how pretty she is. Her friend should pick up on this and agree with you. Then tell her friend that she is very pretty as well. Girls love to compliment each other when they are buzzed. Now is the time to kiss your gf. If she gets into it, you are gold. Her friend will either join in or leave.

Are you a "film" director of some sort? 😉

I am speaking from experience.

The one potential downside is that the OP's gf might decide she is a lesbian.
 
Originally posted by: rudeguy
Originally posted by: effowe
When you get the bill, just look it over and tell her what she owes, don't ask.

But set it up with a large quantity of girly drinks. Sea breezes are a great choice. Make sure her and your gf are well lubricated, then head back to your place for a movie. Stop and get some Mike's on the way home. You don't want either of them puking, just maintaining their buzzes. Once you get home, put in a funny movie. You don't want anything sexual or serious. Once both chicks are laughing, compliment your girlfriend on how pretty she is. Her friend should pick up on this and agree with you. Then tell her friend that she is very pretty as well. Girls love to compliment each other when they are buzzed. Now is the time to kiss your gf. If she gets into it, you are gold. Her friend will either join in or leave.

You've really thought a lot about this, haven't you? :laugh:
 
Originally posted by: zinfamous
Originally posted by: rudeguy
Originally posted by: effowe
When you get the bill, just look it over and tell her what she owes, don't ask.

But set it up with a large quantity of girly drinks. Sea breezes are a great choice. Make sure her and your gf are well lubricated, then head back to your place for a movie. Stop and get some Mike's on the way home. You don't want either of them puking, just maintaining their buzzes. Once you get home, put in a funny movie. You don't want anything sexual or serious. Once both chicks are laughing, compliment your girlfriend on how pretty she is. Her friend should pick up on this and agree with you. Then tell her friend that she is very pretty as well. Girls love to compliment each other when they are buzzed. Now is the time to kiss your gf. If she gets into it, you are gold. Her friend will either join in or leave.

Are you a "film" director of some sort? 😉

Roll cameras, sound on, ACTION. 😀
 
I agree, either from the very beginning tell the waiter/waitress for a split check or once you receive the check advise your gf's friend what she owes, or you could always ask your gf to take a turn and pick up the tab.
 
LOL,
If your girlfriend doesn't see the problem with this, then I would assume that they are using you as a cash cow..

Ask your GF to go to dinner without her friend, since it's special..

**Cash Cow**
 
Originally posted by: Xanis
Originally posted by: rudeguy
Originally posted by: effowe
When you get the bill, just look it over and tell her what she owes, don't ask.

But set it up with a large quantity of girly drinks. Sea breezes are a great choice. Make sure her and your gf are well lubricated, then head back to your place for a movie. Stop and get some Mike's on the way home. You don't want either of them puking, just maintaining their buzzes. Once you get home, put in a funny movie. You don't want anything sexual or serious. Once both chicks are laughing, compliment your girlfriend on how pretty she is. Her friend should pick up on this and agree with you. Then tell her friend that she is very pretty as well. Girls love to compliment each other when they are buzzed. Now is the time to kiss your gf. If she gets into it, you are gold. Her friend will either join in or leave.

You've really thought a lot about this, haven't you? :laugh:

I have refined it through practice.

Porn always sounds like a good idea. But then her friend will usually pipe in with, "That's what I need. A huge cock!"

The OP would be out of luck at that point.
 
It is always taken care of from the start if when drinks are ordered. Waiter always asks how checks will go...
 
You guys are a real piece of work... asking to get a threesome. I would like to see you all bring that up with your SO. Sheesh.

the OP is better off just asking for a little oral in private. that way the girlfriend does not get pissed.
 
WTF is wrong with you? Are you that big of a pushover that you picked up the tab both times?! Why would her friend expect you to pay for her dinner? Sounds like they are taking advantage of you. What I'd do is when you get the bill pay for your girlfriends and your portion and then say "oh looks like you owe $xx.xx" to her friend.
 
Originally posted by: Cruisin1
WTF is wrong with you? Are you that big of a pushover that you picked up the tab both times?! Why would her friend expect you to pay for her dinner? Sounds like they are taking advantage of you. What I'd do is when you get the bill pay for your girlfriends and your portion and then say "oh looks like you owe $xx.xx" to her friend.

I have a better idea. Ask for two separate checks. When they come, hand the gf's friend hers and don't say anything. Problem solved.
 
hmmm..

i'm married and i'd never pay for a friend of my wife's meal, unless something was specifically made of her financial situation (i.e. just lost her job, etc.). At that point, my wife would probably chip in too...

Unless I was super loaded, which I'm not. Sometimes we do "rounds" - we'd double date and we'd pay one time with the understnading that the other couple pays next time.

I mean, I buy people drinks all the time.. but buying her dinner. every time.. it's weird.. Did you start this whole mess, saying "don't worry about it!" the first time, and now they expect it?

But i'm the weird guy who's dated a lot and only rarely even paid for my date's meal. In fact, dates often paid for me..Seriously, it's a new era 😉
 
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