Girlfriend of 4 years just broke up with me :(

[SmirnoffIsTasty]

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<< Go with her for old times' sake? I'd have really mixed emotions about that one. Good luck to you both. >>



I don't think that would be a good idea. She'd be doing it as a friend, but Warthog912 would be doing it to try to get back together with her (understandably).

Warthog912, good luck! I've never really had a girlfriend, so I don't know exactly what it's like to break up, but I know that it is hard. I'd recommend that you talk to people about it, not just in an Anandtech thread, but actually talk to people. If you can't find anyone, IM me and we'll talk. PM me if you want my screenname (if you have AIM) or ICQ number (if you have ICQ). >>



Maybe you guys could hook up :disgust:

 

[Red Dawn]

<< Guess it's time to start goin out w/my friends on Friday and Saturday and getting f***ed up--- >>

Why, so you can go out and be a drunken Lonely Guy instead of just a Lonely guy? If you don't drink I can assure you that you will be no fun to be around if you start, especially while you are going through this break up. Not to be cruel but all you will talk about when your drinking will be about her and why she broke up with you. Nothing is more of a bringdown than some guy crying in his beer over a lost love. I know, I use to do it a long long time ago. Now I just lock myself in a closet for days on end only comming out to SS& S . Well I've grown a beard and I rarely bath so it's just to S. To tell you the truth I bought a whole truckload of Depends so I don't ever need to leave the closet. Ah hell since I'm lettin my soul hang out the real truth is I'm ugly so I don't have to worry about lost loves, just the money the hookers steal from me after I fall asleep.

Hmmm...you know,ompared to mine your problems are minor. You are young, you are going to college and you have all your life ahead of you. Walk it off and stop whining, you'll know real pain later on when your wife divorces your ass, takes the house and kids and leaves you with just your Johnson in your hand and who knows, by then they might have figured how to take that from you as well. Then what you are going through now will seem like a Picnic!

 

[rh71]

I believe it's for the better. Think about it... if she feels that she's been "tied down" and hasn't "seen what's out there" ... it's better that she tells you now than if she tells you when she found someone. You DO NOT want to be with someone who could even think to break up with you like that anyway. You DO have a world of girls to meet yourself. Tons of couples break up just before college... and most of your lifetime friends will be made from college, not HS... been there, done that.

 

[Warthog912]

<< and most of your lifetime friends will be made from college, not HS... been there, done that >>



preciate it, makes me feel better- as for college, we are attending (?)(too alate) the same university-
I think I'll go run in the morning to get some energy out-

Pics will be up in the morning, gotta rename some stuff

later

-Peace

 

[Turkey]

Are you crazy? Don't take her to prom! You need to have a clean break, especially since she was the one who broke up with you. Give her back all her stuff, don't do "romantic" stuff with her like go to prom, out to dinner where you pay, give her flowers or romantic b-day gifts, and only talk to her about serious stuff if you and her both want to be friends. And that's actual friends, not "I still want to f*ck you and I'm just biding my time until we get back together" friends. So you have to sort out those feelings.

 

[FLandivar]

<<I feel like buying a nice new piece of hardware.>>

A GF4 maybe?

 

[GooberPHX420]

Warthog, listen to the song IN THE END and RUNAWAY by linkin park, awesome songs to get you all hyped up and angry instead of depressed

-sorry bout the gf man, that sucks. Hope ya find someone better soon

 

[Warthog912]

<< IN THE END and RUNAWAY by linkin park >>

----that mixed with a lil KORN always gets me goin btw, I was exactly listening 2 it

-Peace

 

[PowerEngineer]

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<< Miserable, isn't it? Seperate feelings and knowledge for a little bit - go ahead and feel terrible because it's inevitable, but know that you wouldn't be as happy together with her, where you're the only one all-out in love, as you will be when you find the girl that loves you back in that same head-over-heels way. >>



------But THIS was her for 4 years---- I think she got the freedom Idea from one of my fellow male cheerleaders in Valdosta---- this is when she started feeling this way >>



Hotchic is right about this Warthog! Maybe it "was her for 4 years", but it certainly isn't her anymore. She clearly wants to start college with a clean slate. And you're better off finding that out now than sometime next fall when you've got your hands full with your first year in college. Having your slate clean before going to college might also turn out to be a good thing for you too.

Please don't waste time waiting for her to come back. It sounds as if she's used to having you as an emotional safety net. Cut the cords; time to move on. No "mercy" dates. If you can to look at the prom as closing the book on high school and on her, then go ahead. Otherwise, maybe there's some other girl friend (in the literal sense of the words) that would enjoy your company.

This may seem like a low point here, but your life is just about to get interesting. Everyone I know feels that theirs lives really started when they went away to college. Now is when it starts to get good!

Good luck!

 

[Geekbabe]

I can't add anything to the excellent advice you been given except to tell you that I've been there,it sucks but you live and you will go on to love again.And here, a nice motherly


{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{hug}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

 

[RGN]

<< when me and my boyfriend of 3 years broke up and i came here i got the best advice on how to mend a broken heart and i will share it with you:

learn linux.

*kat. <-- didnt learn it but bought a linux book and tried to read it... >>



nice... but it didn't help me.

commands like: touch, finger, etc... :Q

 

[TheModemWizard]

I went through the same. After a 4 year off and on rocky relationship, we called it quits...and I'm glad for it. You're still a kid...and going to college. A whole bounty of potential mates to meet.

 

[azim]

What baffled says is quite right...time does heal...and the future WILL be much better for you.

azim <- been through it some time back and found someone who is going to be my soon to be wife. Its been blue sky ever since I met my fiancee.

 

[Rookie]

College is suck with a Girlfriend.

TRUST ME ON THIS ONE!

Party your A$$ off...and ENJOY!

Then watch American Pie 2...

 

[linuxboy]

when me and my boyfriend of 3 years broke up and i came here i got the best advice on how to mend a broken heart and i will share it with you:

learn linux.

Say, that is good advice.


Cheers !

 

[zoiks]

i guess this is easier for me to say this on a forum than in person.
my girl also left me for someone else. She was and is a very wonderful person that ive ever known. The problem was that she wasnt from the same culture as i am. i was with her for 3 years too and we had some very wonderful times. I went to singapore, hong kong with her and had such good times.
The hard part is that she loved me too but she had to go her separate way since her mum wouldnt accept someone else besides from her culture. She explained this to me long ago and we both knew what we were getting into. It was so hard for the both of us.
Even though we "broke" up many times for this reason, we'd always call each other the next day again and get back together.
Finally she couldnt take it anymore and told me that it was over.
I really loved her and i thought that was best for her as well.

i think of her every night before i sleep and i hope shes doing well.

 

[BD2003]

Dont worry about it. Like someone said, close the book on high school. Remember her for her best, most high school relationships dont last forever.

When I was 18, I thought I knew everything. Now at 22, I realized I knew nearly NOTHING. The fun is just beginning, your life isnt even close to being over. Play the green day "time of your life" song once , and let it go.

I'm in my 4th year of college, and I've never looked back. I barely talk to anyone from my high school. Believe it when people say you will absolutely make your best friends in college.

Considering you spent your entire high school with her, it wouldnt be right to go with anyone but her to the prom. So either go alone, or dont go at all. Don't waste your money.

Next time dont go so overboard. Don't be so pussy whipped. Realize that you will be JUST FINE without anyone but yourself. If you cant say that, then the gf isnt a solution, its an obstacle.

But the #1 advice I can give you, and you should absolutely listen to....DONT TRY TO BE FRIENDS! Its just pain. Let it be. I've seen myself and far too many of my friends torture themselves by trying to remain friends.

 

[Buzzman151]

<< But the #1 advice I can give you, and you should absolutely listen to....DONT TRY TO BE FRIENDS! Its just pain. Let it be. I've seen myself and far too many of my friends torture themselves by trying to remain friends. >>



Amen to that brotha... it helps soo much more when you just kinda let it be. My ex still wants to talk to me like 3 times a week on the phone but I'm not too sure how long that is gonna happen.(she broke up w/ me) I can't take the constant tourture of talkign to her all the time and still knowing she's something that I cannot have. I still think she's a great person but right now definately is not the time for us to be talking. We're both still in college and are like 3 hours appart. Its ripping me appart so I think its about time for me to pull out the ax :|

 

[Arschloch]

<< Its ripping me appart so I think its about time for me to pull out the ax :| >>


Jeffrey Dahmer is not a good role model.

 

[Buzzman151]

<< << Its ripping me appart so I think its about time for me to pull out the ax >>


Jeffrey Dahmer is not a good role model. >>




to clarify.... ax the relationship

 

[CraigRT]

I just listen to ragey music... It's always the right type of music!

 

[azazyel]

"This Love" by PANTERA!!!!

This Love

If ever words were spoken
Painful and untrue
I said I loved but I lied
In my life
All I wanted
Was the keeping
Of someone like you
As it turns out
Deeper within me
Love was twisted and pointed at you

Never ending pain, quickly ending life --

(Chorus)

You keep this love, thing, child, toy
You keep this love, fist, scar, break
You keep this love

I'd been the tempting one
Stole her from herself
This gift in pain
Her pain was life
And sometimes I feel so sorry
I regret this the hurting of you
But you make me so unhappy
I'd take my life and leave love with you

I'd kill myself for you, I'd kill you for myself --

 

[ElFenix]

high school relationships aren't built to last. get over it. theres lots of girls out there.

 

[CraigRT]

<< But the #1 advice I can give you, and you should absolutely listen to....DONT TRY TO BE FRIENDS! Its just pain. Let it be. I've seen myself and far too many of my friends torture themselves by trying to remain friends. >>



Oh yeah, that too...

 

[Koing]

how you coping with it?

well I say enjoy life and don't make the mistake of making her EVERYTHING in YOUR life. You should be doing other things besides being with her all the time. You should have friends of your own and spend time with them. A hobby besides the computer.

As stated before

"Next time dont go so overboard. Don't be so pussy whipped. Realize that you will be JUST FINE without anyone but yourself. If you cant say that, then the gf isnt a solution, its an obstacle."

thats very true. You will be stronger because of this. Learn from it and enjoy!