Girlfriend and I both drunk.. who's right?

[Siva]

Originally posted by: dullard

Originally posted by: brxndxn
I come back and decide to watch a TV show with my friends

Your mistake. You decided to be with friends instead of being with her.

she's tired so she goes to sleep.

You clearly misread her signal for you to come to bed.

I get in bed with her and try to wake her up.

You are wrong there. You missed your chance.

I say that I'm tired now.

Again, your mistake. Never turn it down especially when you wanted it just a little bit before.

1) He's allowed to have friends. A man who gives up friendship for a girlfriend is no man at all, but a walking shell of a man that once was. Its quite sad when it does happen.
2) Signals are stupid, if she wanted something she could have pulled him aside and been straightfoward. He's bound to miss stupid hints, especially if drinking is involved. Women who expect men to pick up on signals are destined to never get what they want.
3) He's got a right to at least talk to her (she wakes him up too but you don't say she missed her chance).
4) He's been asleep for two hours! If you're too tired you're too tired, its not like there won't be other chances to have sex.

All in all, girls are crazy. If she wanted some she should've said something when he woke her up to begin with. When he said no when she changed her mind hours later she should have just went to bed. There's no need for there to be a fight over that.

 

[DaShen]

Too tired for sex...

Seems like shens to me.

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: leftyman
you go back to sleep i'll take care of your girly

 

[DivideBYZero]

Donkey Punch.

 

[FrustratedUser]

Originally posted by: xSauronx
ive never been so drunk tired that id turn down sex

this was your stupid mistake

QFFT

 

[mitmot]

Originally posted by: FrustratedUser

Originally posted by: xSauronx
ive never been so drunk tired that id turn down sex

this was your stupid mistake

QFFT

 

[SMOGZINN]

Originally posted by: Siva

Originally posted by: dullard

Originally posted by: brxndxn
I come back and decide to watch a TV show with my friends

Your mistake. You decided to be with friends instead of being with her.

she's tired so she goes to sleep.

You clearly misread her signal for you to come to bed.

I get in bed with her and try to wake her up.

You are wrong there. You missed your chance.

I say that I'm tired now.

Again, your mistake. Never turn it down especially when you wanted it just a little bit before.

1) He's allowed to have friends. A man who gives up friendship for a girlfriend is no man at all, but a walking shell of a man that once was. Its quite sad when it does happen.
2) Signals are stupid, if she wanted something she could have pulled him aside and been straightfoward. He's bound to miss stupid hints, especially if drinking is involved. Women who expect men to pick up on signals are destined to never get what they want.
3) He's got a right to at least talk to her (she wakes him up too but you don't say she missed her chance).
4) He's been asleep for two hours! If you're too tired you're too tired, its not like there won't be other chances to have sex.

All in all, girls are crazy. If she wanted some she should've said something when he woke her up to begin with. When he said no when she changed her mind hours later she should have just went to bed. There's no need for there to be a fight over that.

You, of course, are right on all accounts.
Seems to me that being right is small comfort in a cold bed.

A little advice to the OP, arguments are rarely about who is right, they are normally about pride and ego. Although these terms are associated with men, women have pride and ego too, and will get upset when you step on them. I would bet your GF is use to you immediately being responsive to her advances; you hurt her ego when you said no, and that is what your argument is really about. Show her some extra attention, tell her she is beautiful and you will be rewarded.

 

[MikeyIs4Dcats]

why would you turn down sex? :thumbsdown:

 

[hypn0tik]

1) You're an idiot for watching TV instead of following your girl to the bedroom. Now, if you got there and she said 'no p00n for j00' then you could have watched some TV.

2) If you want to keep getting p00n from her, she's right and you're wrong. End of discussion.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: brxndxn
Okay.. so my girlfriend and I go out drinking tonight. I come back and decide to watch a TV show with my friends and she's tired so she goes to sleep.

After the show, my friends go home and I get in bed with her and try to wake her up. She tells me to go to sleep and is totally unreceptive. So, I go to sleep. No sex for me.

I wake up an hour or two later to her asking if I want to have sex. I say that I'm tired now..

BOOM HUGE ARGUMENT OMG

so your timings were off. move on.

 

[AdamSnow]

I think your story is a lie...

 

[Siva]

Originally posted by: SMOGZINN

Originally posted by: Siva

Originally posted by: dullard

Originally posted by: brxndxn
I come back and decide to watch a TV show with my friends

Your mistake. You decided to be with friends instead of being with her.

she's tired so she goes to sleep.

You clearly misread her signal for you to come to bed.

I get in bed with her and try to wake her up.

You are wrong there. You missed your chance.

I say that I'm tired now.

Again, your mistake. Never turn it down especially when you wanted it just a little bit before.

1) He's allowed to have friends. A man who gives up friendship for a girlfriend is no man at all, but a walking shell of a man that once was. Its quite sad when it does happen.
2) Signals are stupid, if she wanted something she could have pulled him aside and been straightfoward. He's bound to miss stupid hints, especially if drinking is involved. Women who expect men to pick up on signals are destined to never get what they want.
3) He's got a right to at least talk to her (she wakes him up too but you don't say she missed her chance).
4) He's been asleep for two hours! If you're too tired you're too tired, its not like there won't be other chances to have sex.

All in all, girls are crazy. If she wanted some she should've said something when he woke her up to begin with. When he said no when she changed her mind hours later she should have just went to bed. There's no need for there to be a fight over that.

You, of course, are right on all accounts.
Seems to me that being right is small comfort in a cold bed.

A little advice to the OP, arguments are rarely about who is right, they are normally about pride and ego. Although these terms are associated with men, women have pride and ego too, and will get upset when you step on them. I would bet your GF is use to you immediately being responsive to her advances; you hurt her ego when you said no, and that is what your argument is really about. Show her some extra attention, tell her she is beautiful and you will be rewarded.

That's certainly true as well. Being right isn't even half the battle and most men know that. Whether or not the OP is right has little to do on how the fight will go. Still I don't fault him for thinking the fight is ridiculous, but I'm sure it will blow over quickly anyway.

 

[dullard]

Originally posted by: Siva
1) He's allowed to have friends. A man who gives up friendship for a girlfriend is no man at all, but a walking shell of a man that once was. Its quite sad when it does happen.
2) Signals are stupid, if she wanted something she could have pulled him aside and been straightfoward. He's bound to miss stupid hints, especially if drinking is involved. Women who expect men to pick up on signals are destined to never get what they want.
3) He's got a right to at least talk to her (she wakes him up too but you don't say she missed her chance).
4) He's been asleep for two hours! If you're too tired you're too tired, its not like there won't be other chances to have sex.

I agree with you on all counts. However, in a relationship you have to realize that sometimes you stick up for those rights and at other times you try to please your partner. There is middle ground in there - he just has to find it. It seems like last night, brxndxn stood up for his rights, got a huge argument, got an angry girlfriend, got angry enough himself to rant here, and got no sex. In this case, sticking up for his rights may not have been the best option.

Tomorrow is another day though. He can always be follow your four pointers then. The result will likely be completely different.

 

[meltdown75]

Originally posted by: Crazyfool
I hate to point out the obvious, but tell her to make it hard and then climb on... how difficult is that?

:thumbsup: x eleventy

if she's that ready for action, surely she wouldn't mind doing the work. i'm sure you would be able to find a way to lay there and be pleasured. who knows, in your semi-sleeping state, you may even find yourself aroused enough to actually wake up and make it worth her time. you know, reach up and grab a boob or something.

 

[bleeb]

I call shenanigans.

 

[toekramp]

Originally posted by: Tremulant
And boom goes the dynamite.

haha, awww that poor reporter

 

[bobbybe01]

Originally posted by: hypn0tik
1) You're an idiot for watching TV instead of following your girl to the bedroom. Now, if you got there and she said 'no p00n for j00' then you could have watched some TV.

2) If you want to keep getting p00n from her, she's right and you're wrong. End of discussion.

I disagree. As Siva mentioned, he has the right to do whatever the heck he wants. There is absolutely nothing wrong with him watching television with his friends on this occasion. (Of course, this would be a problem if he always ignored her for his friends, which doesn't seem to be the case).

What makes her so right, anyway? I think she missed her opportunity as much as he did. #1 is good in theory but let's be real here, his friends were over at his home. To the OP's credit, having his friends watching him have sex with his gf probably would have broken quite a few trust issues and, needless to say, would have been boring...albeit a little bit comical.

I don't think the OP was in any way disrespectful to the lady. When the gf said no to teh secks, the OP respected her enough to just go to bed. When the OP didn't want to do teh secks, the gf went ballistic. Two problems: 1) being drunk, 2) being tired (both make honest, adult-like communication hard). So it may not be a matter of who's right and who's wrong...but if I had to choose someone being wrong, it certainly wouldn't be the OP.

 

[joinT]

Originally posted by: xSauronx
ive never been so drunk tired that id turn down sex

this was your stupid mistake

:thumbsup:

 

[hypn0tik]

Originally posted by: bobbybe01

Originally posted by: hypn0tik
1) You're an idiot for watching TV instead of following your girl to the bedroom. Now, if you got there and she said 'no p00n for j00' then you could have watched some TV.

2) If you want to keep getting p00n from her, she's right and you're wrong. End of discussion.

I disagree. As Siva mentioned, he has the right to do whatever the heck he wants. There is absolutely nothing wrong with him watching television with his friends on this occasion. (Of course, this would be a problem if he always ignored her for his friends, which doesn't seem to be the case).

What makes her so right, anyway? I think she missed her opportunity as much as he did. #1 is good in theory but let's be real here, his friends were over at his home. To the OP's credit, having his friends watching him have sex with his gf probably would've have broken quite a few trust issues and, needless to say, would have been boring...albeit a little bit comical.

I don't think the OP was in any way disrespectful to the lady. When the gf said no to teh secks, the OP respected her enough to just go to bed. When the OP didn't want to do teh secks, the gf went ballistic. Two problems: 1) being drunk, 2) being tired (both makes honest, adult-like communication hard). So it may not be a matter of who's right and who's wrong...but if I had to choose someone being wrong, it certainly wouldn't be the OP.

#2 was just a usless statement I felt the need to add. I honestly don't feel that way.

#1 however, is a different story. I don't know about the OP, but when I'm drunk I get horny. If my gf goes into the bedroom, I'd follow her and try to get some. If I wasn't going to get any, I'd have watched tv with the friends.

I agree with you though, both are equally wrong (or right for that matter) and there's no reason for an argument here. It's just that I'd have done things a little differently after getting back from the drinking. Poor communication skillz0rs on my part.

 

[Leper Messiah]

<comment here to say I read this post, but everyone else has already said what I was going to say.>

 

[Ilmater]

Originally posted by: dullard

Originally posted by: brxndxn
I come back and decide to watch a TV show with my friends

Your mistake. You decided to be with friends instead of being with her.

she's tired so she goes to sleep.

You clearly misread her signal for you to come to bed.

I get in bed with her and try to wake her up.

You are wrong there. You missed your chance.

I say that I'm tired now.

Again, your mistake. Never turn it down especially when you wanted it just a little bit before.

You're a b1tch. This woman obviously is trying to control you. She went to bed to entice you away from your boys because she wants to be the center of attention. She obviously wanted sex the whole time and just denied you the first time because she wanted to make it clear that she has the yea or nay in the bedroom.

STICK TO YOUR GUNS!

 

[Reel]

Throw a PDA against the wall.

 

[Siva]

Originally posted by: hypn0tik

Originally posted by: bobbybe01

Originally posted by: hypn0tik
1) You're an idiot for watching TV instead of following your girl to the bedroom. Now, if you got there and she said 'no p00n for j00' then you could have watched some TV.

2) If you want to keep getting p00n from her, she's right and you're wrong. End of discussion.

I disagree. As Siva mentioned, he has the right to do whatever the heck he wants. There is absolutely nothing wrong with him watching television with his friends on this occasion. (Of course, this would be a problem if he always ignored her for his friends, which doesn't seem to be the case).

What makes her so right, anyway? I think she missed her opportunity as much as he did. #1 is good in theory but let's be real here, his friends were over at his home. To the OP's credit, having his friends watching him have sex with his gf probably would've have broken quite a few trust issues and, needless to say, would have been boring...albeit a little bit comical.

I don't think the OP was in any way disrespectful to the lady. When the gf said no to teh secks, the OP respected her enough to just go to bed. When the OP didn't want to do teh secks, the gf went ballistic. Two problems: 1) being drunk, 2) being tired (both makes honest, adult-like communication hard). So it may not be a matter of who's right and who's wrong...but if I had to choose someone being wrong, it certainly wouldn't be the OP.

#2 was just a usless statement I felt the need to add. I honestly don't feel that way.

#1 however, is a different story. I don't know about the OP, but when I'm drunk I get horny. If my gf goes into the bedroom, I'd follow her and try to get some. If I wasn't going to get any, I'd have watched tv with the friends.

I agree with you though, both are equally wrong (or right for that matter) and there's no reason for an argument here. It's just that I'd have done things a little differently after getting back from the drinking. Poor communication skillz0rs on my part.

I don't really think that he's wrong on this, there's still no reason for her to start a fight. However, my theory on keeping a good relationship is that for every time the girl makes a big issue out of something like this, there is a time where the guy forgets something important, looks down another girl's shirt, or pays a little bit less attention to his GF than he should. Sometimes you have to bite the bullet and make her happy by apologizing and then you can chalk it up to relationship karma. Just save those points for the next time you drool over some attractive young lady who passes by

 

[hypn0tik]

Originally posted by: Siva

Originally posted by: hypn0tik

Originally posted by: bobbybe01

Originally posted by: hypn0tik
1) You're an idiot for watching TV instead of following your girl to the bedroom. Now, if you got there and she said 'no p00n for j00' then you could have watched some TV.

2) If you want to keep getting p00n from her, she's right and you're wrong. End of discussion.

I disagree. As Siva mentioned, he has the right to do whatever the heck he wants. There is absolutely nothing wrong with him watching television with his friends on this occasion. (Of course, this would be a problem if he always ignored her for his friends, which doesn't seem to be the case).

What makes her so right, anyway? I think she missed her opportunity as much as he did. #1 is good in theory but let's be real here, his friends were over at his home. To the OP's credit, having his friends watching him have sex with his gf probably would've have broken quite a few trust issues and, needless to say, would have been boring...albeit a little bit comical.

I don't think the OP was in any way disrespectful to the lady. When the gf said no to teh secks, the OP respected her enough to just go to bed. When the OP didn't want to do teh secks, the gf went ballistic. Two problems: 1) being drunk, 2) being tired (both makes honest, adult-like communication hard). So it may not be a matter of who's right and who's wrong...but if I had to choose someone being wrong, it certainly wouldn't be the OP.

#2 was just a usless statement I felt the need to add. I honestly don't feel that way.

#1 however, is a different story. I don't know about the OP, but when I'm drunk I get horny. If my gf goes into the bedroom, I'd follow her and try to get some. If I wasn't going to get any, I'd have watched tv with the friends.

I agree with you though, both are equally wrong (or right for that matter) and there's no reason for an argument here. It's just that I'd have done things a little differently after getting back from the drinking. Poor communication skillz0rs on my part.

I don't really think that he's wrong on this, there's still no reason for her to start a fight. However, my theory on keeping a good relationship is that for every time the girl makes a big issue out of something like this, there is a time where the guy forgets something important, looks down another girl's shirt, or pays a little bit less attention to his GF than he should. Sometimes you have to bite the bullet and make her happy by apologizing and then you can chalk it up to relationship karma. Just save those points for the next time you drool over some attractive young lady who passes by

Hahaha. Odd thing is my gf sometimes points out random girls and asks me if I find them hot. In other cases, when she catches me looking (staring, gawking, etc...) she'll just say 'Eeeew, she's not hot!' or 'Yeah, she's pretty hot' and I'm like 'Uhhhh, yeah, I was looking at the computer beside her!' My gf is cool like that.

 

[NatePo717]

Originally posted by: meltdown75

Originally posted by: Crazyfool
I hate to point out the obvious, but tell her to make it hard and then climb on... how difficult is that?

:thumbsup: x eleventy

if she's that ready for action, surely she wouldn't mind doing the work. i'm sure you would be able to find a way to lay there and be pleasured. who knows, in your semi-sleeping state, you may even find yourself aroused enough to actually wake up and make it worth her time. you know, reach up and grab a boob or something.