Girl trouble...

[Riverhound777]

Originally posted by: Alphathree33
My friend, the following is THE TRUTH. The truth HURTS sometimes, but I want you to improve for the next girl:

So after work, I drive up to meet her (which is 2 hours away) and she completely blew me off. Didn't even say Hi to me as she walked by me.

WOMEN are attracted to REAL MEN, not walking doormats. If you're dating a girl and she doesn't say hi to you when she walks by, YOU NEED TO RAISE HOLY HELL. I don't care if it's her mother's funeral. I don't care if her whole god damned family died.

You take her aside and you say, "Listen, I realize you're going through a lot right now and that this is difficult for you. I'm here to help you, but you WILL treat me with respect."

Accept no excuses until she sincerely apologizes for what she did. Persist until there is absolutely no trace of DEFIANCE left in her voice or her body language.

If you did this right, she'd be in your arms crying moments later -- not treating you like sh!t.

Then she calls up her ex boyfriend, we'll call him "George"... And thanks him for coming to the Wake with her.

Dude, you've trained this girl to treat you like CRAP.

Appropriate response: Wait until she gets off the phone. Patiently ask for a full and complete explanation for what was discussed and why she called him. Give her once chance and tell her she has exactly one chance. If she avoids the question, tell her to have a nice life and WALK.

But her mom died, she wasn't in the greatest moods, so I dropped it...

If her mom died, you might "drop" any of the following: her crying a lot, her being sad, her not calling you as often, her being busy with family business.

You do NOT "drop" her CALLING HER EX TO TALK ABOUT HANGING OUT, IGNORING YOU AFTER INVITING YOU, OR TREATING YOU LIKE CRAP.

Then she blew a gasket... Saying how she didn't have time to roll out the red carpet for me, and how she isn't going to waste energy on someone who wouldn't marry her

You gave her a license to treat you like this and she's just going on and on now... a real man would've walked out the door. Of course, she would've chased a real man out the door and begged to have him back, too.

On the way home I called (she was not answering her phone)

Needy and desparate. You sealed your fate here. Or might I say, you put the nail in the coffin, but that would just be really inappropriate

Anyway, good luck on future encounters with members of the opposite sex.

Although a bit heartless, he is right. She has no respect for you. Its over. You need to change your view on how you view yourself and how to act towards women. While you should treat women with respect, you must also expect some in return. This whole view of "Does she like me? Can I be her BF? Am I good enough for her?" is all crap.

You need to believe she is lucky to have you and she should enjoy seeing you and being around you. Right now you are asking for her acceptance as a BF, you have no say in the relationship. Have some self respect man. Again I don't mean you should be an ass, but at least be a man.