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Girl Trouble

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I'm curious, how did you ask her? Did you casually slip it in or was it the second sentence out of your mouth after, Hi.
 
Originally posted by: her209
I'm curious, how did you ask her? Did you casually slip it in or was it the second sentence out of your mouth after, Hi.
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i casually sliped it in. i doubt that asking in the second sentance would've worked
 
Originally posted by: s1len7 n1nj4
Originally posted by: sniperruff
so you got a new friend, and that is something to be happy about.
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thing is, we already were friends
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well there is absolutely nothing you can do in additional to being a friend. don't force anything or you'd lose her as a friend as well.
 
I haven't read the other replies but from what you claim she said, it looks like she may be interested in the future so definitely play your cards right but don't be aggressive.
 
Originally posted by: sniperruff
Originally posted by: s1len7 n1nj4
Originally posted by: sniperruff
so you got a new friend, and that is something to be happy about.
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thing is, we already were friends
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well there is absolutely nothing you can do in additional to being a friend. don't force anything or you'd lose her as a friend as well.
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not going to the "next step" is just a bump in the road, but losing a friend is falling off a cliff. If you guys had an awesome friendship, keep it that way. She prob knew your "intersts" in her from day one. Things may be awkawrd for a little while since you asked her, but if you don't be who you were before doing so, you're gonna loose a friend as well. Happened to me.
 
Originally posted by: s1len7 n1nj4
OK, so theres this chick I like. I planed on asking her out yesterday at school, but then she told me that shes going on vacation and that I wont see her till '05. Should I just ask her via AIM now, or wait 2 whole weeks?

EDIT: I asked her, this it what she said:

To be honest, I am really not looking for a relationship now.... I had a bad experience my last relationship and decided to stay away from boys for a while, as lame as that may sound, but being friends is soo much easier, and less complicated but I deff want to be friends and we can chill sometime

FVCK!!!!
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You: Hey, do you want to go out?
Her: To be honest, I am really not looking for a relationship now.... I had a bad experience my last relationship and decided to stay away from boys for a while, as lame as that may sound, but being friends is soo much easier, and less complicated but I deff want to be friends and we can chill sometime
You: I put on my robe and wizard hat...
 
Originally posted by: LeetViet
I haven't read the other replies but from what you claim she said, it looks like she may be interested in the future so definitely play your cards right but don't be aggressive.
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you poor lost souls.

When a girl says no, she means NO WAY.

Keep her as a friend and have her introduce to you other girls who are interested.
 
Originally posted by: silverpig
You: Hey, do you want to go out?
Her: To be honest, I am really not looking for a relationship now.... I had a bad experience my last relationship and decided to stay away from boys for a while, as lame as that may sound, but being friends is soo much easier, and less complicated but I deff want to be friends and we can chill sometime
You: I put on my robe and wizard hat...
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Hahaha... you knew it was coming.
 
Originally posted by: spidey07
Originally posted by: LeetViet
I haven't read the other replies but from what you claim she said, it looks like she may be interested in the future so definitely play your cards right but don't be aggressive.
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you poor lost souls.

When a girl says no, she means NO WAY.

Keep her as a friend and have her introduce to you other girls who are interested.
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Not in my experience. 😕

If it was "NO WAY." she would not have wanted to be friends with him. There is some level of affection there.
 
Originally posted by: s1len7 n1nj4
OK, so theres this chick I like. I planed on asking her out yesterday at school, but then she told me that shes going on vacation and that I wont see her till '05. Should I just ask her via AIM now, or wait 2 whole weeks?

EDIT: I asked her, this it what she said:

To be honest, I am really not looking for a relationship now.... I had a bad experience my last relationship and decided to stay away from boys for a while, as lame as that may sound, but being friends is soo much easier, and less complicated but I deff want to be friends and we can chill sometime

FVCK!!!!
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dude, listen to me. just chill and let things happen. your making this situation more then it has to be. if she wants to hang out, kewl, if she doesn't, find some other chick. but the important thing this is, you dont' want to corner her into a relationship. i can tell you this, all of the guys on here who have gf's probably didn't 'ask' their SO's out. we just let things be, one thing led to another, and BAM you have gf.

but first and foremost you told her you liked her, strike one on your part. now the balls in her court. just play it off and be friends. hang out, go to the movies, study. dont' always 'be there' for her or else your gonna get caught in that 'like a brother' relationship.
 
You've already established that you're both friends. Just friends. She is not attracted to you in any other way. When she meet a really hot guy, you can bet she'll won't give the same excuse to him. Sorry to hear it, man.

BTW, if you have strong feelings for her, it's best not to remain friends. You need to move on or else it's gonna be difficult when she date other guys (could be behind your back).
 
Originally posted by: spidey07
Originally posted by: LeetViet
I haven't read the other replies but from what you claim she said, it looks like she may be interested in the future so definitely play your cards right but don't be aggressive.
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you poor lost souls.

When a girl says no, she means NO WAY.

Keep her as a friend and have her introduce to you other girls who are interested.
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...and when she makes some excuse like she's not into guys right now, that means she's just not interested in you. I've used that line to keep some relationships as casual as possible and just out of "relationship" status a few times.
 
You should have used some of those uber 'leet s1len7 n1nj4 skilz on her (and yes, that would require the robe and wizard hat...)
 
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