girl problem

[Someguy008]

why am I posting here? becuz its late at night and I'm bored and I can't sleep.

Anyhow, any of you ever feel like you're the "fall back guy" or "nice guy." You're interested in someone, you let me them know it, and they tell you they just want to be friends. So they go on with their life, find some guy that sooner or later breaks their hearts. Then they run back to you to heal their wounds and then they're off again, repeating the cycle. What makes guys like use put up with this stuff and why do some girls just don't want a guy would will be treat them well?

 

[dababus]

nice guys finish last,

 

[DaWhim]

REPOST

:beer:

 

[95SS]

Man, I've had that happen before. You're right in the middle of the friend zone. I had to stop almost all contact, since I was attracted to her and talking to her would tear me up inside. There is no right answer though, I hate to say. Do you think she could ever return your feelings? If not, I'd have to say cut your losses and find another. Don't hang on to something that isn't there to begin with, and miss out on something better. Who knows, maybe if you stop being there for her, she will realize how important you actually are to her and wise up on her own! :beer:

 

[Occifer]

Originally posted by: Someguy008
why am I posting here? becuz its late at night and I'm bored and I can't sleep.

Anyhow, any of you ever feel like you're the "fall back guy" or "nice guy." You're interested in someone, you let me them know it, and they tell you they just want to be friends. So they go on with their life, find some guy that sooner or later breaks their hearts. Then they run back to you to heal their wounds and then they're off again, repeating the cycle. What makes guys like use put up with this stuff and why do some girls just don't want a guy would will be treat them well?

I'm in the same situation right now, if a girl is comfortable enough to talk to you about her period, you will never sleep wirh her...

 

[DaWhim]

Originally posted by: Occifer
I'm in the same situation right now, if a girl is comfortable enough to talk to you about her period, you will never sleep wirh her...

for you bro. it is even saddest that you understand her more.

 

[Someguy008]

Originally posted by: Occifer

Originally posted by: Someguy008
why am I posting here? becuz its late at night and I'm bored and I can't sleep.

Anyhow, any of you ever feel like you're the "fall back guy" or "nice guy." You're interested in someone, you let me them know it, and they tell you they just want to be friends. So they go on with their life, find some guy that sooner or later breaks their hearts. Then they run back to you to heal their wounds and then they're off again, repeating the cycle. What makes guys like use put up with this stuff and why do some girls just don't want a guy would will be treat them well?

I'm in the same situation right now, if a girl is comfortable enough to talk to you about her period, you will never sleep wirh her...

lol, well that subject hasn't been bought up yet, and lets hope not.

On another note, as 95ss bought up "cut your losses and move on" that's just the problem. I tell myself that and as soon as I see her or hear from her, that goes out the window and we're back to sq 1. Everything in easier when you tell yourself or plan it in your head, but when it comes down to going through with it, a lot of times you just can....

Yea, Finishing last sucks!

 

[notfred]

You have to switch places here. You go find another girl, and keep the current one on the back burner in case the new girl doesn't work out.

 

[Occifer]

Originally posted by: DaWhim

Originally posted by: Occifer
I'm in the same situation right now, if a girl is comfortable enough to talk to you about her period, you will never sleep wirh her...

for you bro. it is even saddest that you understand her more.

In retrospect, getting to know her, I probably wouldn't sleep with her because she is one of the most anal retentive, quirky, eccentric people I know. The emotional baggage would be too much for me to handle, but she is still super cute.

 

[95SS]

Originally posted by: Someguy008

Originally posted by: Occifer

Originally posted by: Someguy008
why am I posting here? becuz its late at night and I'm bored and I can't sleep.

Anyhow, any of you ever feel like you're the "fall back guy" or "nice guy." You're interested in someone, you let me them know it, and they tell you they just want to be friends. So they go on with their life, find some guy that sooner or later breaks their hearts. Then they run back to you to heal their wounds and then they're off again, repeating the cycle. What makes guys like use put up with this stuff and why do some girls just don't want a guy would will be treat them well?

I'm in the same situation right now, if a girl is comfortable enough to talk to you about her period, you will never sleep wirh her...

lol, well that subject hasn't been bought up yet, and lets hope not.

On another note, as 95ss bought up "cut your losses and move on" that's just the problem. I tell myself that and as soon as I see her or hear from her, that goes out the window and we're back to sq 1. Everything in easier when you tell yourself or plan it in your head, but when it comes down to going through with it, a lot of times you just can....

Yea, Finishing last sucks!

She already knows that you want her, so tell her that you she will have to find another shoulder to cry on. If she is a friend at all, she will understand that you are not comfortable with being that shoulder, if not, then you're better off.

 

[Someguy008]

hmmm, thx DaWhim,

just read that article. Wow, I'm a "listerner" and in the end, if I do ever get her, it'll just be what is left of her after all those guys....the bitterness, hate..who knows what else possibly. So even if in the end I win, I lose.... wow, Life is great, should of been an asshole all along

Who am I kidding, even despite all that, letting go isn't gonna be easy

 

[Occifer]

Originally posted by: notfred
You have to switch places here. You go find another girl, and keep the current one on the back burner in case the new girl doesn't work out.

Sound advice from a smart, smart man.

 

[Someguy008]

Is it fair to the other one if you're with her but wishing that you're with someone else? Because inside, I guess you know what you want more than anyone else. It's kind of like using her for hte time being, while you're waiting for hte other one to come around...

what do I know, like one of my friend said "you must have watched too many disney movies growing up"

 

[Dissipate]

Three words: ditch the beotch.

 

[gittyup]

I feel that way a lot with my girlfriends. It's a good thing I stil have my wife.

 

[Mustangrrl]

Girls usually have platonic male friends that they adore, just not like a boyfriend because there's no spark. It does suck when one is attracted and the other isn't, but it's hard to lose someone you consider a nice, considerate friend just because you don't want to date them... it's not usually meant to be mean, or to use anyone.

 

[Occifer]

Originally posted by: Mustangrrl
Girls usually have platonic male friends that they adore, just not like a boyfriend because there's no spark. It does suck when one is attracted and the other isn't, but it's hard to lose someone you consider a nice, considerate friend just because you don't want to date them... it's not usually meant to be mean, or to use anyone.

I think a lot of the problem is because girls hate other girls. If they can find a guy to be their platonic friend, then what the hell do they need a girl for. In addition we are much more blunt than girls, IE, I will tell you if you look fat etc...

 

[Siddhartha]

I have been a girl's "good friend" once. She would show up when things were not going well or some guy hurt her feelings. It was not a very satisfying relationship for me. Now I only spend time with women who like me and who I like.

You have to give up being desperate and assume that there are a lot of other women out there who will want a healthy relationship with you

 

[robh23]

Originally posted by: Someguy008
why am I posting here? becuz its late at night and I'm bored and I can't sleep.

Anyhow, any of you ever feel like you're the "fall back guy" or "nice guy." You're interested in someone, you let me them know it, and they tell you they just want to be friends. So they go on with their life, find some guy that sooner or later breaks their hearts. Then they run back to you to heal their wounds and then they're off again, repeating the cycle. What makes guys like use put up with this stuff and why do some girls just don't want a guy would will be treat them well?

think of africa. nice guys were the puffs who hung around the cave while the men went out hunting, if you were a woman who would you want? prik.

 

[StageLeft]

You put up with it because you're desperate and can't see the forest for the trees. You're not going to take the place of the badass guys with more self-respect who are slapping her ass every night while you're at home playing Starcraft. Move on away from her

I tell myself that and as soon as I see her or hear from her, that goes out the window and we're back to sq 1. Everything in easier when you tell yourself or plan it in your head, but when it comes down to going through with it, a lot of times you just can....

You'll eventually get sick of this and several years from now look back at how pathetic you're acting. I don't mean that to be nasty, because most guys have gone down the same road, and most of us look back shaking our heads at how stupid we were.

 

[jjones]

Nothing wrong with being the fallback guy, as long as it's the fallback guy for sex. If you're the fallback guy that she uses for emotional toilet paper to wipe her emotional ass, then that's your own damn fault.

 

[NickelTitanium]

if they want to take advantage of you, then an eye for an eye. get yourself some tang!

 

[NickelTitanium]

if they want to take advantage of you, then an eye for an eye. get yourself some tang!

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Good question - why are you posting here, when you can post here?

- M4H

 

[adelphi]

friends means long walks and even longer talks

forget her......there's a better catch out there if u would just let this one go

nothing will infuriate u more than to meet the aholes in her life, who's poundng hers