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Getting old kind of sucks

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purbeast0 said:
The mindset of a 40 year old and a 29 year old are just too far apart to make it work for most people IMO. I'm only 35 now and my wife is 33 and even just that little age difference we are quite a bit different in our mindsets. Obviously some of it is just our personalities, but I know in general my mindset from when I was 25 to what it is now at the age of 35 is completely different. Even when I was 30 to now is a lot different.
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I'd say that it varies. I think anyone in their early 20's should not date someone 10 years older. But after that it could work. Also I'd take into account that women mature faster than guys, although everyone is different. Therefore, I think a woman dating an older guy is more likely to succeed. I was 39 and she was 29. We got along famously on the mental tip. At 29 I would not have been ready mentally to date a 39 year old female IMO

Just a thougt.
 
I a very active 38 year old. Injuries happen with the aggressive mountain biking, snowboarding, etc that I do. Just last fall a wheel on my bike taco'd and caused me to endo into some rocks. My back/neck/shoulder never recovered and I still need to see a doctor about it (I am still able to do everything I want to do...just with pain).

I just got my boys snipped in January. It required me to take a few weeks off. Immediately following that I picked up some bug that put me down (from any exercise for nearly 2 weeks). Add another month of craziness from work, to visitors, to vacation and I essentially hadn't run (or done much of anything active) for over 2 months. Last Sunday I went for a 10 mile run. Man did I feel old. Dropped a whole minute a mile compared to my normal tempo for casual runs. I have a half marathon in a month which I generally don't even train for, but suddenly I realize I need to put more effort in. Taking 2 months off when I was 28 did not do this to me...different ball game now that I am 38.
 
I feel my age more these days than ever. I'm 44. Honestly I feel good but when I hurt myself now I stay hurt for so long. Healing comes much slower with age. My wife is 42 (turns 43 next month) and though we are very different people we jive very well. My only regret is I wish I would have had kids earlier in life. I have a 7 year old daughter and a 2 year old son. At my age running around is not as much fun as it used to be. I'm going to be old as fuck by the time both my kids are adults lol.
 
PixelSquish said:
I'd say that it varies. I think anyone in their early 20's should not date someone 10 years older. But after that it could work. Also I'd take into account that women mature faster than guys, although everyone is different. Therefore, I think a woman dating an older guy is more likely to succeed. I was 39 and she was 29. We got along famously on the mental tip. At 29 I would not have been ready mentally to date a 39 year old female IMO

Just a thougt.
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My best friend just recently married his older brother's au pair from Brazil. My friend is 37, his now wife is 24.

She is amazingly beautiful, but I am already seeing that the facade she put up while they were dating is withering away.

Originally she seemed to like everything he liked. That was because she generally hasn't developed her own interest and was just projecting interest in pretty much anything he said. I still think they will be able to make it work, but I'm still a bit mystified my friend didn't pick this up when dating (I tried to point it out some...but we don't live close and my contact with them was limited during the dating period). This is a guy who every girl always wanted to date, but would always push girls away because they were too "immature" and "didn't know themselves yet". Then he marries an extreme version of the exact girls he had been rejecting since high school. Funny. You might argue it is because the girl is extremely good looking, but a lot of the girls he pushed away in past years were even hotter...so that doesn't add up. Regardless, I wish them the best.
 
lxskllr said:
Nah, I enjoy being alone. No hassle, no getting bitched at, and I come and go as I please. The world in my head is better than the real world. I could pack up everything right now, and hit the road. Hard to buy that kind of freedom.
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Nothing wrong with that, if that's what a person chooses to do.

Reminds me of this Tom Waits song:
"Better off Without a Wife."
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=59r1KFPmT9U
 
My wife turned 49 yesterday. We were watching tv last night and her phone chirped for a new email. She reads it and says f^ck youuuuuu to the phone.

I'm like, ???????

She shows me the email and it is from AARP.
😀😀😀
 
What bugged me about the whole thing was when I pre-registered I told them I am allergic to raw egg yolk. They check me in, ask me if I am allergic to anything, I say raw egg yolk. They put a band around my wrist with this info. When they take me back the nurse asked me if I am allergic to anything, yes raw egg yolk. The anesthesiologist shows up and asks me if I am allergic to anything. By this time I am thinking don't they have a process to read my intake information or look at my wrist for the info band???? When I tell him raw egg yolk this throws him for a loop. Apparently what they usually use cannot be used on people who are allergic to raw egg yolks. He started grilling me on my reactions, I guess to see how bad they were. Then another doc told him what they could use.

If there were only some way I could have notified them so that they knew the information and could have prepared ahead of time.........
 
I feel my best when I'm working out. Staying home, watching videos online and sleeping for long periods of time don't do me any justice. But, when I'm moving. Lifting weights, jogging, playing basketball I feel great. Of course, eating well is important.

Maybe it's the American way of life that ages many people so quickly. Sitting on the couch is fine, but it catches up w/ you and illnesses and injuries happen a lot more often. The old saying "if you don't use it you lose it" is true.
 
PricklyPete said:
My best friend just recently married his older brother's au pair from Brazil. My friend is 37, his now wife is 24.

She is amazingly beautiful, but I am already seeing that the facade she put up while they were dating is withering away.

Originally she seemed to like everything he liked. That was because she generally hasn't developed her own interest and was just projecting interest in pretty much anything he said. I still think they will be able to make it work, but I'm still a bit mystified my friend didn't pick this up when dating (I tried to point it out some...but we don't live close and my contact with them was limited during the dating period). This is a guy who every girl always wanted to date, but would always push girls away because they were too "immature" and "didn't know themselves yet". Then he marries an extreme version of the exact girls he had been rejecting since high school. Funny. You might argue it is because the girl is extremely good looking, but a lot of the girls he pushed away in past years were even hotter...so that doesn't add up. Regardless, I wish them the best.
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a girl can get away with a lot if the sex is really good
 
I'm in my 40s. I guess, I never noticed much different, other than my hair and nails keep growing. Time just seems to pass by for me.
 
injuries take a lot longer time time to recover from and a lot more frequent.my exercise regime is facked atm.
 
Zanovar said:
injuries take a lot longer time time to recover from and a lot more frequent.my exercise regime is facked atm.
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I shoveled snow for maybe 10 minutes this afternoon, and was unpleasantly reminded how lame and feeble I've become.
In addition to a better diet, I need proper exercise. Jogging alone just wont cut it.
 
Sho'Nuff said:
My doc says that the mail a poo option is not a good one for me because of my family history. I think he just wants to look up my ass, but he insists its just for "screening purposes."
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You drove through the blizzard to get rotor-routed? How'd your test go?

If you think your day was bad, that doc spends every day looking up assholes.

Mine is on Thursday, so Wednesday is my fun day. Digging out & the lovely day before prep. Until the last few days never realized how much I hate a low fiber diet.
 
I'm 32 and have mild GERD. I already have restrictions on certain food groups. I hate to see where this will lead but I'm pretty much screwed if dietary restrictions get more strict. Where is the fun in life without food?
 
thejunglegod said:
I'm 32 and have mild GERD. I already have restrictions on certain food groups. I hate to see where this will lead but I'm pretty much screwed if dietary restrictions get more strict. Where is the fun in life without food?
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I know it sucks, first I had to figure out how to limit my sugar/carb intake and then I had 'high' cholesterol. So I was kidding with my doctor that what do you want me to eat now, dirt? But there's more to life then what you stuff down your throat.
 
Dang, that must suck. Such a horrible pairing GERD + High cholesterol must be. I'm hoping that I can pull off a life without high cholesterol thanks to my kinda "athletic" lifestyle.
And I agree there is more to life than food, but for some of us, it's just one of the major components that make up life.
 
preCRT said:
You drove through the blizzard to get rotor-routed? How'd your test go?

If you think your day was bad, that doc spends every day looking up assholes.

Mine is on Thursday, so Wednesday is my fun day. Digging out & the lovely day before prep. Until the last few days never realized how much I hate a low fiber diet.
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Honestly the worst part was the prep. Becoming a human water fountain was not pleasant at all. The procedure itself was simple. Went into the office and was asked to lie down on my side. A few minutes later the anesthesia med was administered. Next thing I know I was waking up in the recovery room. No pain or discomfort at all. I didnt even have the epic farts that a lot of people get from a colonoscopy.

I am very glad I did the exam because the doc was able to find out that I have diverticulosis and there was one polyp that had to be removed and is being analyzed by pathology. The diverticulosis is probably what has been causing my abdominal discomfort lately. One or more of the pockets getting irritated.
 
Glad it came back without major findings. Most polyps are adenomatous, which means you will probably be seeing that doc again in a few years for another scope (if he doesn't already recommend it because of family history. I personally don't recommend cologuard to people because it is out of pocket for most and if it does come back with positive findings they will have to do a colonoscopy anyways, which won't be for screening any more. That means you have to pay the deductible.
 
hardhat said:
Glad it came back without major findings. Most polyps are adenomatous, which means you will probably be seeing that doc again in a few years for another scope (if he doesn't already recommend it because of family history. I personally don't recommend cologuard to people because it is out of pocket for most and if it does come back with positive findings they will have to do a colonoscopy anyways, which won't be for screening any more. That means you have to pay the deductible.
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You know an awful lot about medicine for a guy who wears a hardhat :^P
 
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