It's finally over! ! ! Update 11-04-2004 :Q
So we went today at 9:00AM, and we signed in fornt of the judge, no real hassle at all. We also waived the mandatory 21 day grace period that the state allows for. I am officially single and have an "ex".
The terms worked out as follows:
1. We get the kids 50/50, shared residency and parental rights.
2. We both keep our bills, so basically we take the debt we incurred with us.
3. She keeps her car, I keep mine.
4. We already split up the majority of the items we shared, furniture, clothes, etc. so no issues there.
5. Holidays work out as follows:
Each even numbered year she gets them for thanksgiving, on the odd numbered years I get them.
Each even numbered year I get them for Xmas, from Christmas Eve at 3:00Pm until 12:00PM on Xmas Day. She gets them from 12:00PM Xmas day until 3:00PM on December 29th, then i get them from the 29th until January 2nd at the start of school. It alternates on the odd years so we each get time during New Years day, etc.
School vacations are done as follows: The parent having contact with the kids during the first weekenmd of vacation shall continue to have them until Wednedsday of the following week at 5:00PM The other parent will have them from Wednesday 5:00Pm until the following Monday at the start of shcool.
During the summer vacation, we do the 50/50 schedule, Mon. Tuesday wiith their mother, Wednesday Thursday with me. We will alternate weekends so we will each have them 5 days in a row during a two week period.
Each parent is entitled to spend up to three non consecutive weeks each year for vacation witht he kids, outside of the other holidays and shcool vacations. During the even years she gets first choice and during the odd years I get first choice.
I get my older daughter for taxes, she gets my younger daighter. They are two years apart.
I get to keep my 401k and all my stock options, etc.
My bi-weekly support is: $411.
This might seem like a lot, but it covers the cost of daycare, my actual support amoutn and the cost of health insurance.
Besides that there is nothing else to really say on the terms side of things.
On the personal side of things, she has been informing our daughters that she will be dating soon, it looks to be a guy she might have been seeing while we were still married, and though that could be a sore spot, i really dont mind at all. If she can find someone new, it might make my life easier.
I am not dating at all right now, i did get lucky a few times
But i am not really that interested in a relationship.
I wanted to say thanks to all of the people here at AT who handed me adivce and criticism.
The advice and support made me feel good when I needed to, and the criticism made me see things clearer when i was being short sighted and obstinant.
Thanks! And now on tot he rest of my life.
So we went today at 9:00AM, and we signed in fornt of the judge, no real hassle at all. We also waived the mandatory 21 day grace period that the state allows for. I am officially single and have an "ex".
The terms worked out as follows:
1. We get the kids 50/50, shared residency and parental rights.
2. We both keep our bills, so basically we take the debt we incurred with us.
3. She keeps her car, I keep mine.
4. We already split up the majority of the items we shared, furniture, clothes, etc. so no issues there.
5. Holidays work out as follows:
Each even numbered year she gets them for thanksgiving, on the odd numbered years I get them.
Each even numbered year I get them for Xmas, from Christmas Eve at 3:00Pm until 12:00PM on Xmas Day. She gets them from 12:00PM Xmas day until 3:00PM on December 29th, then i get them from the 29th until January 2nd at the start of school. It alternates on the odd years so we each get time during New Years day, etc.
School vacations are done as follows: The parent having contact with the kids during the first weekenmd of vacation shall continue to have them until Wednedsday of the following week at 5:00PM The other parent will have them from Wednesday 5:00Pm until the following Monday at the start of shcool.
During the summer vacation, we do the 50/50 schedule, Mon. Tuesday wiith their mother, Wednesday Thursday with me. We will alternate weekends so we will each have them 5 days in a row during a two week period.
Each parent is entitled to spend up to three non consecutive weeks each year for vacation witht he kids, outside of the other holidays and shcool vacations. During the even years she gets first choice and during the odd years I get first choice.
I get my older daughter for taxes, she gets my younger daighter. They are two years apart.
I get to keep my 401k and all my stock options, etc.
My bi-weekly support is: $411.
This might seem like a lot, but it covers the cost of daycare, my actual support amoutn and the cost of health insurance.
Besides that there is nothing else to really say on the terms side of things.
On the personal side of things, she has been informing our daughters that she will be dating soon, it looks to be a guy she might have been seeing while we were still married, and though that could be a sore spot, i really dont mind at all. If she can find someone new, it might make my life easier.
I am not dating at all right now, i did get lucky a few times
But i am not really that interested in a relationship.I wanted to say thanks to all of the people here at AT who handed me adivce and criticism.
The advice and support made me feel good when I needed to, and the criticism made me see things clearer when i was being short sighted and obstinant.
Thanks! And now on tot he rest of my life.
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