Originally posted by: SaigonK
Originally posted by: Balthazar
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Originally posted by: Pliablemoose
Originally posted by: Geekbabe The nicest thing about 50/50 physical custody agreements with minimal or no monery changing hands is that over time you can start leaving the kiddies more and more with the other parent during the time you're supposed to have them.The other parent is usually then struggling so hard to keep up with the extra work and the costs that they cannot afford to pay their lawyer to take you back tpo court.End result,you get to keep the bulk of your income and your time,plus you get the thrill of knowing that you saddled the ex bitch with a ton of work and virtually ensure that she has no money or time to start a new life and that no new man will want her. Btw for those of you who want to start yelling about child support enforcement let me say this that unless a woman is on welfare her case goes to the bottom of the pile in terms of getting the state to represent your interests.If /when your case comes up all the defaulting parent has to do is hire a lawyer,skilled at going to court and getting the case continued and continued..most average working women will finally just give up cause there's a limit to how many days one can miss from work without putting their job on the line.
In Texas, the courts take a dim view of the parent who doesn't pay child support, and they're pretty ruthless. If you have to take your ex back to court, the ex has to pay your attny fees & court costs if they're found @ fault. Good thread hijack though
I'm just waiting on my band saw & drill press from Amazon
Sorry to hear about your pending family court appearances though SaigonK, just keep in mind you'll want to look your children in the eye 20 years from now & answer some questions honestly. Sounds like you've got your head in the right place though... I
good for you,I'm wondering how many jobs I'm going to have to work to fund my retirement once our last child finally becomes an adult. Oh well,here I am 46,I don't own a home,have no assets,the retirement funds put clothing on three backs,braces on two sets of teeth.My ex got to keep the bulk of his money and his time,that thought ought to give a lot of resentful child support paying men here woodies the size of redwoods,merry Xmas.
I stop feeling the slightest bit of empathy when you keep harping on "money money money, time time time". Poor you, you don't own a home....just the love of three children. Oh poor you you dont have "the bulk of your money" left....wonder what the going rate for watching your children grow up is? I could keep going on and on, particularly about your "resentful child support paying me" comment and how many times MEN get royally REAMED on child support. And how absolutely bitter, ridiculous, one sides and completely misguided your comments are. You made NO attempt to have a "moral of the story" until someone called you on it, you've done nothing but gripe about money money money and not ONCE mentioned the value of your OFFSPRING, hell, I don't know, maybe you really would rather trade the three of them in for a condo in a nice area and a new car, sure sounds that way from everything you've said. So I, for one, have NO pity for you....I'm not saying what your ex did what right, but your no better, neither one of you seems to care about your children half as much as you care about your money. And if you DO, maybe you should REALLY go back and re-read your posts....see how many times you mentioned anything other than your fiscal losses. It doesnt even seem to have crossed your mind.
Ok...you lost me on this post.....
If you are talking about me, then you are wrong about the child support and the need for money.
Do I think the child support laws are lopsided? yes i do.
Does it matter what I think at this time? No it does not,
Do i agree with giving my ex money to support my children? Absolutley! She cant do it alone, i know that and she knows that. My point is that she expects me to hand out everything and (and here is the key phrase) not want any time with my kids. To her i feel as though she thinks it is a payment to NOT have my kids, to be single and to NOT have to deal with her.
If I wanted that I would have picked up and moved out of state and become another dead-beat dad..I dont want that, i want to see my girls as much as possible.
That doesnt mean that I should have to have their lifestyle with me go way down while hers comes way up. Again, it is about my kids, not about the money, she can have my 401k, she can have my stock options, she can have the insurance, the life insurance, the support...but I have and want the right to see my kids at least 50% of the time and should have the right to be 50% involved in ALL of their lifestyle decisions...
My soon to be ex seems to think that she is in control and that it's her way or the highway. Thus whenever she brings up anything about the divorce at this time, we end up butting heads over it. I asked her last night to not talk to me about anything regarding the divorce or terms while we are still waiting for mediation, this way we dont argue over things.
I have also become more staunch about her comments on me moving out...I have told her that if she does not like the situation then she can move out right now.
She always responds that that isnt in the best interest of the children, my issue with her statement is that she always uses that phrase or comment to justify why I should leave, why she should get to stay and why she should get her way. Now that is just plain wrong, no matter what way you slice it...it is wrong.....
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