wow thanks

that was a pretty exhaustive list of things to check...
too bad i think i checked most of those...
i used the heatsink compound that came with the vantec aeroflow....i couldnt find my tube of OCZ silver stuff whatever it was called... but i had used this heatsink compound before on the 2200+ with an even way crappier heatsink just plain aluminum and it still kept at 45 degrees...i guess its ceramic cause its white and not silver or anything....but i think its fine...
the heatsink isnt on backwards
you know...the very first time i went to build an athlon system...like a 1ghz or something i didnt think to take that peice of tape off the bottom of the heatsink and i drove myself insane before i found it out how stupid i was. so its not that again....
the board doesnt have an overvoltage jumper...volts can be set in the bios....and i checked them with cpu-z and the vcore is 6.48
i dont think im running it out of speed...even when i run it really slow it hits high temperatures close to 70
it posted and seemed to run fine at 3200 even ...
right now its running for about an hour and i played some games and the MBM says 77 degrees....
the heatsink was actually a big pain in the ass to install...at first it didnt seem like i could fit it in there...theres this thing in the way um... well i dont know what the electronic component is but its a tall cylinder with 2 wires at the base attatching it to the motherboard...theyre all over the board and everywhere for that matter so i feel like i should know the name of it...they can kind of bend a bit....though we dont like to do that...and if you bend too much im sure they break at the base where those tiny wires are connected... is it called like a transistor or something? i dont know but its right in the way like real close to the cpu socket...theres several exactly like it around that area too but all of them stay nice and far away but theres this one thats like sticking out like a sore thumb right in the way and i swear i felt like i was going to break it off when i installed the heatsink.... it does go in though...and i figured if i can get the clips on both ends in snugly it should be ok..... the heatsink and the clips dont really allow much room for me to slide the heatsink around on the base of the cpu anyway....but i did try to slide it as far (maybe 1-2mm) away from that "obstruction*
im not using a shim...im just not that kind of guy.
and as for the base of the heatsink not being flat enough.... there is the part where the copper core meets the aluminum outside...its pretty snug fit but i kind of wonder.....the thing is it worked fine before.....its a really decent cooler.....cheap too if anyone knows a better deal though id try it at this point...
i think thats all of it... i am going to take the heatsink off again and try to make real sure about how its lining up...
i have one more question though, you said my cpu wont tolerate being overheated for long...how long do you mean? like...it appears to run stable...wouldnt i be experienceing some kind of instability if my cpu was actually 80 degrees?
and at what point would a chip fry out? and also if the heatsink doesnt burn my hand, can i trust that indication that my cpu wouldnt be burning my hand either if i could touch it?
thanks for all the help so far