Funeral/Memorial Ettiquite?

[Rufio]

HI guys

some of you read my other thread about my friend that passed away last week.
Well, her memorial is Tuesday evening.

This is my first time experiencing something like this.

What is the standard ettiquite?

Yes, I know how to be respectful and everything. But are there certain things that I have to do?

Also, the family is a Filipino family -- are there certain traditions that I have to be aware of?

And another thing -- they requested that everyone not wear black, but wear white instead. My only dress white shirt is at the dry cleaners. If I wear another light colored shirt, will that offend anyone?

Thanks for the help guys. I am really scared and nervous about tomorrow.

 

[PunDogg]

first off sorry for your lose man, hope atot can help u get through it

umm as u said just act respectful

also try to get the white shirt, if not, try to buy one tomorrow, and if u don;t have money, then get the closet thing u have, cuz u want to obey the familes wishes.

i don't know any Filipino traditions, cuz i am not Filipino, so can;t help u there, i am sure they would have some tradtions, but they will tell u there. just follow along, thats what we did(me, being a Hindu), when my grandmother died, we told them what was going to happen and how, worked out well.

you have to ask them what u have to and want to do, if u were close with her family. other wise, you wil prob just be like everyone else there, pay your respects, and just think about what her life was like, and just think of the good times man.

I know how u feel all nevrous and stuff, its hard, i know, it was REALLY hard when my grandmother died, but you just have to be there, and be strong. and ask the family or whoever is doing the arragments what u can do to help!! Well hope this helps, and hope better days come your way man

Dogg

 

[floccus]

Well, I've never actually been on your side, I've had the unfortunate experience of having my dad, an uncle, and an aount all die with in a year of each other. All I can say is that for me it was pretty tough to deal with it all so just let the family and such know you care and that if you can help at all you will.

And some tasteful humor helps too. It was good to cry and laugh when my one uncle was telling funny stories about when he and my dad were growing up.

 

[Rufio]

thx for the tips and sentiments.

man i am real scared about tomorrow...is that normal?

 

[Rufio]

up for more help

 

[dabuddha]

Originally posted by: Rufio
thx for the tips and sentiments.

man i am real scared about tomorrow...is that normal?

it is normal. Don't worry about it, everything will be fine. Just try to follow whatever else the family is doing