For the hundredth time, I -==> * D O * <==-- have UM. I did not waive it. Which is why my insurance company is involved at all.
I've already talked to my insurance company. But like the attorney I consulted with said, their aim is to reduce claims. They'd like me to pay for as much as I'm willing. The problem is, I'm not very willing.
Once again, the claim is NOT against my comprehensive coverage to which a deductable applies. Let's pretend I didn't have comp on the car -- what then? By your logic I sue the other guy -- but UM policy makes that unnecessary. Deductable, pain & suffering, loss of quality of life, rental car, loss of work -- covering me for these things are not part of my agreement with my insurance company for MY POLICY. If the accident was my fault I wouldn't even dream of trying to get that. However, my wife wasn't at fault in this accident and what happens is UM effectively covers the other guy. In can reasonably expect to not be damaged by this event.
My insurance company is expected to lowball me because they do number crunching, and to them the much higher settlement cost in the small number of cases where attorneys are involved is less than costs of payout when they're NOT involved. Since attorneys don't take property damage cases on contingency these numbers work out -- most accidents are injury free. Property damage is almost never high enough for the victim to pay for a lawyer out of pocket. Let's say my car was worth 15k, and the insurance company offers 12. That's not big enough for a lawyer to bother with, so with no choice I take what they offer.
Now, in the case of injury the typical settlement is 6x medical bills. Now we're talking 12k + 60k -- for 20-40k I suddenly have my choice of legal representation.
I did talk to my agent, and their initial position is much like yours. They'll cover me by a claim against my comprehensive, my health insurance covers hospital, I pay the deductables and for everything else I can go pound mud.
I also talked to several personal injury lawyers (a neighbor and the law firm she recommended as specializing in exactly these situations) and the story they're telling is far more palatable to me than what my agent is offering. My coverage is irrelevant, other than having UM and the higher 100/300 amount on liability. Yes, the insurance company will ultimately pay 3-4x as much as what would have been fair in the first place (and the guy at fault will be sued for 10x), but that's what needs to happen because I'll be the one being screwed otherwise.
I started this as a solicitation for advice, but now I'm giving feedback based on my experience. Consulting with an attorney specializing in uninsured/underinsured motorist injury cases is the BEST thing to do first.
Yes, we'll probably be dropped by our insurance company as a result. But seeing as both of us have perfect driving records for the past 20+ years, several rental houses, business, valuables, umbrella and other insurance policies to take with us it's likely we'll get at least as good of rates/coverage with any other co.