Friend's Wedding

[Aimster]

My good friend is getting married.

I already rented a tux and I am helping with the bachelor party. That's like $300 right there.

He wants cash as a gift from everyone. How much should I give him?
This is my first wedding

 

[Ns1]

Give him a fleshlight instead

 

[Lola]

It is RUDE beyond RUDE to TELL people they want a cash gift.

Don't worry, if you are already shelling out all that money, don't feel like it is necessary to give more cash as a gift. How about getting them a very nice classic silver engraved photo frame instead. He has to understand. If he doesn't... it is his problem.

 

[Flammable]

100

 

[hanoverphist]

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
It is RUDE beyond RUDE to TELL people they want a cash gift.

Don't worry, if you are already shelling out all that money, don't feel like it is necessary to give more cash as a gift. How about getting them a very nice classic silver engraved photo frame instead. He has to understand. If he doesn't... it is his problem.

 

[MagnusTheBrewer]

Give him a copy of Emily Posts Etiquette book. If what you are already giving is a strain, give the new couple your best wishes.

 

[Kelemvor]

He wants cash? Did he specifically tell everyone he only wants cash? That's the tackiest thing I've ever heard.

I'd go buy him a gift ad not include a gift receipt just for him being a jackass.

 

[axelfox]

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
It is RUDE beyond RUDE to TELL people they want a cash gift.

Don't worry, if you are already shelling out all that money, don't feel like it is necessary to give more cash as a gift. How about getting them a very nice classic silver engraved photo frame instead. He has to understand. If he doesn't... it is his problem.

I believe it is accepted practice among several cultures to ask for cash gift (or cash preferred).

 

[sjwaste]

Hell, with housing prices the way they are in the DC area, I've seen people do a Down Payment Registry rather than a traditional gift registry. I usually give cash as a wedding present since that's usually what a new married couple could use, no matter how good an extra formal place setting sounds at the time.

 

[destrekor]

Originally posted by: axelfox

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
It is RUDE beyond RUDE to TELL people they want a cash gift.

Don't worry, if you are already shelling out all that money, don't feel like it is necessary to give more cash as a gift. How about getting them a very nice classic silver engraved photo frame instead. He has to understand. If he doesn't... it is his problem.

I believe it is accepted practice among several cultures to ask for cash gift (or cash preferred).

for regular gifts, such as birthdays and christmas and whatnot, I see that as a fine and acceptable practice (cash or giftcards).
For a wedding though? It's always been actual gifts. And if you want specific items, you make a list through a registry at a store.
If people give cash, that's fine and the newly married couple will probably be ecstatic. But typically its always gifts that can be used in a new house.
The move towards handing out cash kind of comes with the time where people are moving in together prior to weddings, so they probably already have a lot of household items that normally would be bought for them as wedding gifts.

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[JS80]

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
It is RUDE beyond RUDE to TELL people they want a cash gift.

Don't worry, if you are already shelling out all that money, don't feel like it is necessary to give more cash as a gift. How about getting them a very nice classic silver engraved photo frame instead. He has to understand. If he doesn't... it is his problem.

It's rude to give useless overpriced crap from Crate and Barrel.

OP: Depends on how good a friend he is and your financial status. I personally give $50-200.