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Friend says she was sexually harassed and I get in trouble?

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We don't even know what happened...

We only have one side of the story, and second hand at that...

What did the people who were in the area say? You'd think they'd react to this and there'd be a little scene.

I'd certainly remember seeing an unwanted smack on the butt and the girl's reaction.
 
Saint Nick said:
I have been in this position on several occasions and I can't say it really bothers me at all.

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That's not really the right comparison anyway. It's more like a chick that you found unattractive slapping you on your ass, and then after you telling her it was not cool, does it again. How would you feel about that?
 
Svnla said:
I would not like any guy smack on my girl's ass, joking or not. How do you feel if I smack your gf/wife/sister/mom on the butt?
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It isn't that big a deal. It's one of those things you deal with in a room full of different people. I'm not especially touchy/feely, but I have to deal with people like that on occasion. I've had strange women hang on to me, or kiss me by surprise. Regardless of how they look, I don't especially like that. I also don't care /that/ much. I treat it as a minor annoyance, and go on my way. Some people look for trouble or fights where none exist.
 
First off, living with a female thats not your SO sounds like a horrible situation so I'm sorry about that.

Getting to the point she needs to learn how to handle this situation, as it will occur more than once in her life. If she is attractive, and goes to a bar, drunk guys will do stupid stuff like this. She should either bring it to the attention of a friend that is a position to "protect" her, or develope a thick skin.

As for your role in this, you need to do a better job at understanding the situation. Clearly we are all missing part of the story that makes this outrageous. Perhaps what was said when they "hugged it out". You are wrong - really - it's not some saying that came up from married men being funny. Women tend not to compromise their values, you just need to accept them.

In closing, bang her!!! (If she's hot, otherwise make her pay your half of the rent) 😀
 
Sounds like she's a little psycho or something, going off over something relatively minor that isn't even your fault. You don't have to hold the same opinion about it. If she can't deal with that, tough.
 
PingSpike said:
Why would some one "hug it out" with a guy they are pissed at for touching them? I think I'd just avoid them myself.
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This, what the... women, jfc are they dumb/asking for it when this is their coping mechanism (designed to send all the wrong messages!)
 
To those that said what the guy in the OP did was no big deal, would you do that to your female boss/supervisor or female professor or females at church or or wedding or social gatherings? We are talking not just touching on the shoulder but smashing on the butt here.

Just as I told my subordinates, if you can not show me or my boss what you wrote in your email, then don't send it. If you can't do that in public with everyone, then don't do it.
 
She is worked up because she went to a bar and got her ass grabbed by a drunk guy? Really? Is it right? Of course not. Is it something that will happen? Yeah. She needs to get over it and move on. If she feels that strongly, charge the guy.
 
Svnla said:
To those that said what the guy in the OP did was no big deal, would you do that to your female boss/supervisor or female professor or females at church or or wedding or social gatherings? That was not just touching on the shoulder but smashing on the butt.

Just as I told my subordinates, if you can not show me or my boss what you wrote in your email, then don't send it.
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This did not occur in the workplace.
 
Svnla said:
To those that said what the guy in the OP did was no big deal, would you do that to your female boss/supervisor or female professor or females at church or or wedding or social gatherings? We are talking not just touching on the shoulder but smashing on the butt here.

Just as I told my subordinates, if you can not show me or my boss what you wrote in your email, then don't send it. If you can't do that in public with everyone, then don't do it.
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Thats retarded.
 
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If someone grabbed my ass without consent twice I'd react violently, whether it was a male or female doing it. How is this acceptable just because it happened in a bar and not a workplace? No consent = no consent.
 
Your friend is an idiot and you're kind of a douche for laughing at your roommate for what was totally inappropriate behavior on your friend's part.
 
surfsatwerk said:
You hang out at a barber shop often enough you're going get your hair cut.

You hang out at bars often enough someone is going to behave inappropriately.
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lol.

Walk through bad neighborhoods enough and eventually someone is going to mug you.

Drive enough and eventually someone is going to run into you and kill you drunk.

Run away from home enough to live with 50 year old men and eventually you're going to get raped.
 
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