My girlfriend's best friend Amanda is stuck in the middle of a really sh!tty situation right now. About seven months ago, she started dating some clown who goes to school at WVU (she's in grad school in SW PA). She dated him for about a month and a half (maybe two), and broke it off with him for good after he told her one night that she's too fat to be attractive (she's not), that he was settling for her, and that she's too slutty (she's a 23 year old virgin whose wardrobe looks like it was approved by Pat Robertson).
For the next four months or so, Amanda was continually harrassed by this guy to the point that she blocked him from calling both her school number and her parents' number, changed her email address, and considered a restraining order (which in hindsight would have been a great idea). At around 4:30 AM last Friday morning, he called her from a payphone and said he was going to kill himself if she hung up on him. After arguing for several minutes, she hung up on him, and later that morning she left for her parents' for the weekend. Apparently, her ex-boyfriend recorded the phone call.
On Friday evening (about 20 hours after he called her), her ex-boyfriend tried to kill himself by mixing alcohol with a huge overdose of pills (I'm not sure exactly what he took). He's in the hospital right now, in a coma, and should be dead by the end of the week. He left the tape of the call with a suicide note, blaming everything on Amanda.
Yesterday (Sunday) afternoon, she was served with a subpoena; his family is suing her for "willful infliction of mental anguish" or some sh!t like that (I forget exactly how it was worded). Everyone is fully expecting it will be expanded to include wrongful death, once that fucker finally dies. She's being forced to disclose all of her financial records--probably so his family can fingure out exactly how much they can try to take her for.
Her ex-boyfriend's mother called her several times on Sunday and Monday, usually threatening her and telling her to rot in hell. She actually showed up twice at Amanda's apartment at school; the first time she was just verbally abusive, the second time she physically attacked Amanda and left several bruises. I told her tonight to immediately call the police and file charges against sh!thead's mother, but I'm not sure if she has yet.
The lawyer she spoke to today said she's basically fscked; she's got an appointment with another one tomorrow afternoon. She's 23 years old, and one of the sweetest people I've ever met. Now she's dealing with the guilt of an ex-boyfriend killing himself (he's not dead yet, but his liver's failing so he might as well be), the fear of being attacked/hurt by his family, and a lawsuit that will seriously hurt her whether she wins or not.
Damn...what the hell is wrong with people? I seriously hope this guy is feeling incredible pain right now. If I believed in Hell, I'd be rooting for him to wind up there once he dies. :disgust:
Update:
Sorry for the late update...I've been busy as hell this week and haven't had a chance to post.
Amanda's mother met with the second lawyer on Tuesday, and he was just a bit more optimistic 😉 On Wednesday, he was able to have the tape of the phone call thrown out. The call was placed from West Virginia to Pennsylvania. PA's wiretap law states that both parties must be aware for a call to be legally recorded, so I believe that was the reason for getting the tape tossed. I'm not sure about WV's laws, but as I understand it, PA's is the one to apply in this case (someone who knows the laws might be able to explain it better).
I found out a few days ago that Amanda had already documented the assault from the guy's mother (and took pictures of the bruises right after it happened). No charges have been filed, though; I think they're using it as leverage against the mother.
Things seem to be looking up, and no one is expecting the suit to last longer than another week or two before it's thrown out completely. Once that's taken care of, Amanda is looking to possibly file a suit of her own to recover her legal fees.
The ex-boyfriend was actually transferred to the ICU on Wednesday night (I'm not sure if he was out of the coma, but I didn't think he'd be moved to ICU if he wasn't), but his liver started failing again Thursday morning so he's back on life-support. I'm not sure what his chances are now, but Amanda's going to have far fewer problems from him in the future if he doesn't pull through, so I'm keeping my fingers crossed. Maybe he could win himself a Darwin award... 😉
For the next four months or so, Amanda was continually harrassed by this guy to the point that she blocked him from calling both her school number and her parents' number, changed her email address, and considered a restraining order (which in hindsight would have been a great idea). At around 4:30 AM last Friday morning, he called her from a payphone and said he was going to kill himself if she hung up on him. After arguing for several minutes, she hung up on him, and later that morning she left for her parents' for the weekend. Apparently, her ex-boyfriend recorded the phone call.
On Friday evening (about 20 hours after he called her), her ex-boyfriend tried to kill himself by mixing alcohol with a huge overdose of pills (I'm not sure exactly what he took). He's in the hospital right now, in a coma, and should be dead by the end of the week. He left the tape of the call with a suicide note, blaming everything on Amanda.
Yesterday (Sunday) afternoon, she was served with a subpoena; his family is suing her for "willful infliction of mental anguish" or some sh!t like that (I forget exactly how it was worded). Everyone is fully expecting it will be expanded to include wrongful death, once that fucker finally dies. She's being forced to disclose all of her financial records--probably so his family can fingure out exactly how much they can try to take her for.
Her ex-boyfriend's mother called her several times on Sunday and Monday, usually threatening her and telling her to rot in hell. She actually showed up twice at Amanda's apartment at school; the first time she was just verbally abusive, the second time she physically attacked Amanda and left several bruises. I told her tonight to immediately call the police and file charges against sh!thead's mother, but I'm not sure if she has yet.
The lawyer she spoke to today said she's basically fscked; she's got an appointment with another one tomorrow afternoon. She's 23 years old, and one of the sweetest people I've ever met. Now she's dealing with the guilt of an ex-boyfriend killing himself (he's not dead yet, but his liver's failing so he might as well be), the fear of being attacked/hurt by his family, and a lawsuit that will seriously hurt her whether she wins or not.
Damn...what the hell is wrong with people? I seriously hope this guy is feeling incredible pain right now. If I believed in Hell, I'd be rooting for him to wind up there once he dies. :disgust:
Update:
Sorry for the late update...I've been busy as hell this week and haven't had a chance to post.
Amanda's mother met with the second lawyer on Tuesday, and he was just a bit more optimistic 😉 On Wednesday, he was able to have the tape of the phone call thrown out. The call was placed from West Virginia to Pennsylvania. PA's wiretap law states that both parties must be aware for a call to be legally recorded, so I believe that was the reason for getting the tape tossed. I'm not sure about WV's laws, but as I understand it, PA's is the one to apply in this case (someone who knows the laws might be able to explain it better).
I found out a few days ago that Amanda had already documented the assault from the guy's mother (and took pictures of the bruises right after it happened). No charges have been filed, though; I think they're using it as leverage against the mother.
Things seem to be looking up, and no one is expecting the suit to last longer than another week or two before it's thrown out completely. Once that's taken care of, Amanda is looking to possibly file a suit of her own to recover her legal fees.
The ex-boyfriend was actually transferred to the ICU on Wednesday night (I'm not sure if he was out of the coma, but I didn't think he'd be moved to ICU if he wasn't), but his liver started failing again Thursday morning so he's back on life-support. I'm not sure what his chances are now, but Amanda's going to have far fewer problems from him in the future if he doesn't pull through, so I'm keeping my fingers crossed. Maybe he could win himself a Darwin award... 😉
