friend is dropping out of college

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waggy

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Originally posted by: Nik
Well, it's his choice. The most you can do is give him advice if he wants it.

and be his friend when he ****** up. really nothing else you can say or do. it is his choice.
 

UglyCasanova

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Meh, he's not going to die. He's just not going to be able to afford some fancy car right off the bat. Sometimes people just need some time to do nothing and figure things out.

<-- In the process of doing nothing and figuring things out.
 

NikPreviousAcct

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Originally posted by: waggy
Originally posted by: Nik
Well, it's his choice. The most you can do is give him advice if he wants it.

and be his friend when he ****** up. really nothing else you can say or do. it is his choice.

No, be his friend regardless. Friends aren't just friends through the easy times. It's the rough times that show you who your friends really are. He's heading down a road that will, in all likelyhood, greatly benefit from the support of friends.
 

mephiston5

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I friend of mine failed out of college, but he could go back if he tried. I don't think he will, and now he is working in the food industry earning less then 8 bucks an hour. Not that there is really anything wrong with the food industry or doing what you have to to get by, it is just that he could/should have done so much more. Who knows, I like to think he still will have a good career, but he sure made it harder on himself.
 

waggy

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Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: waggy
Originally posted by: Nik
Well, it's his choice. The most you can do is give him advice if he wants it.

and be his friend when he ****** up. really nothing else you can say or do. it is his choice.

No, be his friend regardless. Friends aren't just friends through the easy times. It's the rough times that show you who your friends really are. He's heading down a road that will, in all likelyhood, greatly benefit from the support of friends.

wellt hats what i meant =) if you are his friend be his friend if he drops out or stays.
 

wetcat007

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Originally posted by: Kanalua
Originally posted by: Qosis
He's going to get into the workforce and realize how much easier college is... then he will be back.

I took a year off to work (construction). Nothing motivated me more than that expirience. Working outside, in the mud and snow for 12 hours a day. Pulling concrete blankets, digging trenches, hauling concrete, etc.

Although some people might enjoy that on the other hand, all depends on person.
 

Vinfinite

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its a difficult decision on your friend's behalf, encourage him to go back, but in the end; its really up to him.

College isnt for everyone, whatever makes him happy I guess
 

aswedc

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My friend never went to college. He wants to be a teacher. I asked him how he's going to teach when you need a degree to be licensed. He said he'll teach in Mexico :confused:
 

Reckoner

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Having a college degree isn't the safety net it used to be. It's the new High School diploma from 20 years ago.
 

James3shin

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haven't you guys heard? B.S. = B.ull S.h!t :p But yeah, a bachelors doesn't get you as much as it used to, unless you're lucky. I guess business majors can do pretty well with just a bachelors, but that's all i can think of so far.
 

shopbruin

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let him. he'll drop back in. it will probably take him longer, but be supportive. sure, you can always nudge him back towards school, but if it's too forceful, they won't go.
 

GeekDrew

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Originally posted by: PaulNEPats
Having a college degree isn't the safety net it used to be. It's the new High School diploma from 20 years ago.

That just makes it all the more necessary, doesn't it? :confused:
 

Reckoner

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Originally posted by: GeekDrew
Originally posted by: PaulNEPats
Having a college degree isn't the safety net it used to be. It's the new High School diploma from 20 years ago.

That just makes it all the more necessary, doesn't it? :confused:

Not necessarily. There's always trade schools.
 

IMaN00BieGF

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I think since you've known him so long you have the right to saw something to him. I think if you don't your not the best friend into him. I'm finishing my second year now and it hasnt been easy. My family situation sucks. Both of my parents live out of the country seperately. My father only plays a financial role in my life.. and my mother my only parent has somewhat abandoned me for her fiance. I drove 4 hours to see my brother in Myrtle Beach Saturday night while he was staying for a week.. me only for Sunday.. and didn't set aside any time for me.. Now I did come without telling him.. to suprise him but please! All he did was criticizde me so I left early Sunday. Even if life is tough... He only has 2 years left and it'll only get rougher if he doesn't finish. Not only will he have the advantages of being a college grad, but he'll feel less accomplished..
 

reverend boltron

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Originally posted by: chorb
Ive known my friend since middle school, needless to say we are good friends, I either see him or talk to him at least a few times a month. He and I both went to 4 year universities (different ones about an hour and half apart), however this year he decided he was going to take a semester off from college, to make some money, take a break or whatever, saying that he was going to go back in the fall. But recently he said he is no longer going to re-enroll, and he is just working some dead end job. I know he doesnt have the best family conditions and such, but I just want to see him do well, so can I talk to him and try to convince him to go back? or is that something that is a little out of my boundries as a friend?

Cliffs for the lazy:
-known friend for 10 years
-friend is dropping out of college in his 3rd year
-should I try to convince him to go back? or is it not my position to say anything

Remind him that the time he takes off of school will be salary that he will be missing out on in the future. So that 6 months at $10 an hour could be $10,000.
 

ngvepforever2

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As a friend all you can do is make sure that he knows what he is getting into and ultimately support him in his decision.

Regards

ng