Originally posted by: PowderBB3D
Okay. I've seen about a billion + 1 YAGT and most of them are so insanely stupid that it makes that kid in your kindergarten class who eats paste look good. You all know who I mean - and if you were that kid, well, rest assured you're no longer at the bottom of the social ladder (so long as you don't post a YAGT, in which case you are indeed the king of the dank and hellish pit known as "loserdom"). Regardless, I've decided to take it upon myself to write this little guide to anyone who wants to post a YAGT in the future.
Keep in mind that this might be subject to change and therefore all of you YAGTers out there should check back at regular intervals. If you have something to add you can do write it below and I might edit it in if it makes sense.
Anyway, without further ado:
POWDERBB3D'S YAGT GUIDE
Feeling about posting a YAGT? Read this first.
Table of Contents:
NOTE: Use your browser's "FIND" utility for easy navigation using the special call-tags (ie {a})
Guide Stuff:
{1} Introduction
{2} My "Credentials
{3} Updates
Scenarios/The "MEAT" of the Guide:
{a} I asked a girl out on AIM/Email/etc...
{b} She's not my girlfriend but I like her and...
{c} A girl wants casual sex...
{d} My girlfriend is late/stood me up....
{e} I'm being cheated on!
{f} Love triangle (Two girls at once?)
THE BIG ONE FOR YOU RELATIONSHIP-IDIOTS:
{g} How to ask a girl out?
{1}Introduction:
Your average (average - by no means does this statement apply to all) YAGT is posted by a loser. I'm not going to make any bones about this and if you want to say I'm being a bit harsh or cruel in that ascertation then I advise you to just close the window right now and stop reading. Nobody is forcing you to continue and since I'm writing this I'm going to insert my own social commentary where I deem fit (because I'm a self-promoter after all). So anyway, here we go!
{2}My "Credentials:
I just know some idiot is going to say what I say is stupid or shouldn't be followed. Let me tell you - this is tried and tested. I've had many girlfriends, some short (6 days shortest) and some long (7 months longest). I'm not married, which means I can't help on marriage concerns. I also don't know anything first-hand about "insanely long" relationships (2 years and up) but my best friend has been with the same girl for 4 years (had their anniversary in April) so I'm not totally unversed on the subject.
I don't claim that this is the be all and end all, but it's probably pretty good. It's a small primer that can HOPEFULLY serve to prevent 15 YAGT a day in ATOT. If you have a legitimate concern that isn't addressed here by all means post it but it would sure be nice if you could also help me add it to the list. Anyone else with ideas are also encouraged to help make this FAQ of sorts larger and more comprehensive.
{3}Updates:
NONE YET! Please help build this guide.
{a}Scenario:
"I asked a girl out on AIM/email/PM/etc. but she turned me down!"
Sub-scenario A:
"Now she won't talk to me!"
Answer: As well she shouldn't. Asking a girl out in any other way except in person (this includes telephones) is a big no-no. You might feel this is a great idea because your knees wobble around a pair of good breasts, but rest assured, it's not, and you're an idiot. Most women like to be assured that the man they're with is confident, which obviously you are not. You'll come across desperate and weak and, unless you know her really well, you'll even looks like a stalker to most girls. Stalkers are NOT attractive - they're creepy.
Verdict: It's over. Move on, and next time ask in person.
Sub-scenario B:
"She want to be just friends!"
Answer: Holy crap you are lucky. Let me tell you this; cherish the fact she doesn't have a restraining order out on you. The only way I can see this happening is if you guys were already friends to begin with, and therefore she doesn't want to lose your friendship over a silly mistake like this.
Verdict: Be her friend. If you still like her, ask her out (IN PERSON) after some weeks have gone by.
{b}Scenario:
"{generic problem involving other guys with a girl who isn't your girlfriend}"
Sub-scenario A:
"She likes another guy!"
Answer: Oh well. You can't change how someone else feels. The best you can do is be yourself, attend to her needs as a friend, and be there when/if she gets dumped.
Verdict: Hard to tell. Opportunities might exist in some time if you play cards right.
Sub-scenario B:
"She doesn't like me back!"
Answer: See above, sans dumping.
Verdict: See above.
Sub-scenario C:
"I don't want her to party/sleep around/etc."
Answer: Too bad. Her life - her choices. You can't tell her what to do. I wouldn't profess my love or anything idiotic like that. If it really bothers her you might object on moral and health grounds; sleeping around or partying "too hard" can lead to some unhappy diseases or situations.
Verdict: Can't stop her. Her life.
{c}Scenario:
"A girl wants to have casual sex with me. Should I?"
Sub-scenario A:
"She's my friend's girlfriend."
Answer: I may be old-fashioned I evaluate good friends over a bit of tail. Your priorities may be different (read: you are a desperate loser for some action), but that's your deal. You'll probably end up hurting your friends feelings, who may in turn hurt you physically, and you'll totally muck up your friendship and his relationship with the girl. If that's fine with you, you're a crappy friend and you should be ashamed.
Verdict: Don't hit it. Where's your loyalty lie? Your genitals or your friends?!
Sub-scenario B:
"She's some random guy's girlfriend."
Answer: If you don't know the guy it's not as bad as flat out betrayal, but you should look at the state of their relationship. It isn't fair to that guy if they simply had a fight and she wants to "get back at him" - would you like it if some guy took advantage your girl after a fight? No. If their relationship is already shot to hell and they've all but broken up then you might consider it. Of course, make sure he won't kill you if he finds out what you did.
Verdict: Hard to tell. Depends on the situation.
Sub-scenario C:
"She's single."
Answer: This is not a problem. You don't need a YAGT for this.
Verdict: You're stupid.
{d}Scenario:
"My girlfriend is late or stood me up. Is this bad?"
Sub-scenario A:
"All the time."
Answer: This is probably bad news for your relationship. If she has problems making appointments with you she obvoiusly considers you secondary to other aspects of her life and doen't care about you as much as you her. Sit down and tell her this is very rude and ask her if she even likes spending time with you anymore. Clearly something must be wrong if she isn't offering reasonable explanations (if she were you wouldn't have a problem) for her absences/tardiness. Only an idiot would let this slide.
Verdict: 90% chance that it's over.
Sub-scenario B:
"Some times."
Answer: If she has legitimate excuses - her parents need to be picked up from the airport, she has some sudden pet emergency, etc. - then you're fine. If she doesn't, that's a different story.
Verdict: Sit down and talk. Could go either way.
Sub-scenario C:
"Once."
Answer: You're an idiot whiner. Sometimes stuff happens that is out of people's control.
Verdict: You're stupid.
{e}Scenario:
"My girlfriend is cheating on me!"
Sub-scenario A:
"Multiple times."
Answer: She doesn't care about you. Don't let her fool you with tears - even if she seems honest and professes her love for you over and over, dump her. NOW. You are better than her and you don't deserver that crap.
Verdict: End it.
Sub-scenario B:
"Once, after a fight/while drunk/etc."
Answer: You should dump her still. Unless you absolutely love her and she absolutely loves you and you are absolutely sure it was only a moment of weakness and will never happen again, dump her. You really need to have been going out for a long time and you two must really love each other deeply to let this slide. I still recommend dumping her though.
Verdict: 99% dump her.
Sub-scenario C:
"By being friends with another guy!"
Answer: She can have boobless friends who aren't you.
Verdict: Work on your insecurity.
{f}Scenario:
"Two girls at once?"
Sub-scenario A:
"I love/like them both (want a relationship with)!"
Answer: Choose and choose quickly. It isn't fair to either one and you'll end up losing them both anyway if you try to juggle two relationships at once. They will also stunt the growth of each other because you won't be able to truly be intimate with either girl.
Verdict: End one.
Sub-scenario B:
"For casual sex?"
Answer: This is not a problem. Stop making idiot threads.
Verdict: Ban yourself from life.
{g}Scenario:
"How to ask a girl out?"
Answer: No need for a sub-scenario for this one. Asking girls out is simple. In fact, it's far simpler than solving a math problem, taking out the trash, or even going to the bathroom (provided you don't have a good amount of fiber in your diet). It just requires the ability to talk. Not many people seem to understand how easy it is. Just go up to her and see if she wants to do something with you - dinner, movie, bowling, or maybe just hanging out - the choice is yours! If you get really fancy you can tailor the first date to the type of girl she is; if she likes baseball you can go to a baseball game, if she likes japanese food you can go ot a japanese restaurant, etc. It's really easy!
Let me tell you this much: in PERSON. ALWAYS! I speak from experience her. As a ninth grader I was intimidated by this girl that I liked. I took the cheap way out and asked her out over AIM. FAILURE! And not just any failure, mind you, but the kind that ruined what marginal friendship I had managed to create with her. The next time I talked to her was in twelfth grade and even then it was only because she was in one of my classes and we were assigned to the same discussion group for fifteen minutes. Pretty harsh,
I didn't let it get to me and I LEARNED from this mistake. Since then I've always asked the girls I've liked out in person and I've had a 100% success rate! You will almost always get at least one date out of the deal, and most of the time you'll get more - my last relationship lasted seven months until I ended it.
Verdict: ASK IN PERSON OR DON'T ASK AT ALL
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