Forbidden love: your thoughts on arranged marriage

[IcemanJer]

Linky to the Vancouver Province article.

Thoughts?

 

[p0tempkin]

I read the whole thing, and I come back a little sadder inside.

 

[dafatha00]

quite saddening..

my heart goes out to all that are forced to marry.

 

[monto]

hey ya never know if there is a soulmate out there that will ever 'fit' you

 

[ace31216]

In our culture, i don't think its acceptable but you have to respect others if that is their way

 

[atom]

Respect? The article insinuates that one of her own relatives probably gave the command to kill her after she refused to go back to Canada. That's just screwed up regardless of culture. :|

 

[RossGr]

I am not sure what this all has to do with arranged marriages. It is a clash of cultures, tragic.

 

[Looney]

Arranged marriages makes the men happy, but the women are often miserable. That's why as nations become more civilized, they often ban such practices. Women are taken from them homes at very young age, leaving their brothers and parents and friends, and placed in the husbands family and his extended family, and are often the slave to the new family.

A good and very disheartening story is a film i once watched called Nu Shu, which is a secret language the women of rural China created for themselves (they weren't allowed to learn normal Chinese). This language was handed down generation by generation, and the men never knew it existed, and if they did, they were never able to 'crack' the language. It was only in the 1950s that the Chinese government even acknowledged its existence. The language is sung instead of read, and it's characters were often placed in embroidery (which the men just thought were just fancy designs, but they often told poems and stories).

Anyways, a lot of the poems tell how sad the women are to be in arranged marriages. In arranged marriages, there's no equality, one actually 'buys' the wife, so he owns her. Abuse is normal, and rarely if there is love.

 

[Moonbeam]

I've heard it said, wasn't there and don't know, that along time ago older people had something called wisdom, not learning, but human understanding, and that they had so much sense that they knew who would be good with who, and arranged marriages tha lead to bpople being really happy together. Naturally, if such abilities existed, they do not today, at least in our society.

 

[chainbolt]

it's very sad, but we will not change it, it's somehow part of the cultural diversity, in the here negative, but often also positive way.

 

[TripleJ]

Arranged marriages makes the men happy, but the women are often miserable


Ummm, did anyone hear about that little mishap in Nepal?

 

[Croton]

the story is about me and my g/f. she is punjabi. i am taiwanese.

 

[Phunktion]

Damn.. such a needless tragedy..