For those with roommates

illusion88

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I live with three girls, and as you can imagine, the place gets pretty messy. Amazingly, the downstairs, which is shared by two of the girls, is kept reasonably clean.

The upstairs, especially the kitchen, which is shared by all of us, is pretty dirty. When they first moved in, I did most of the cleaning. I vacuumed twice a week and kept the kitchen clean (in their defense, I cooked more than they did). Soon, I tired of washing all the dishes and vacuming the floor all the time. So I stopped. I still wash my dishes when I dirty them, or put them in the dishwasher, but that's about it. If I spend time cooking a meal I will clean the whole kitchen, except the dishes that aren't mine.

Now the kitchen stays dirty. The counters seem to have a stain on them all the time, and the stove is messy. Right now, one of the roommates is vacuuming in there (thank god) and I was thinking about the last time I vacuumed. Probably last week, when I made a big ass family meal. Whenever I cook big meals I tend to destroy the kitchen, so it needs a vacuum afterwards.

For those with roommates... how do you split the cleaning? Is it one sided or is there some sort of method to the madness? I thought about organizing some sort of "chore board" or some shit but quickly dismissed the idea and had a beer. It used to be everyone cleaned up after themselves but now it's hit or miss. When someone has company over the place is cleaned up nice afterwards.



FYI, there is carpet in the kitchen, thus the vacuuming.
 

dotcom173

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i live with 3 other guys, we each have our quirks, except me of course.

i wash and dry every dish and cup as i use it, i never leave them around and never in the sink. one of my roommates leaves pots and pans on the stove with food in them for days if not a week or so. he leaves cup piled up everywhere and most of us are sick of it. Other two roommates are better, but one of them always leaves bottles of ketchup or ranch or something that should be refrigerated out on the table. he pisses me off sometimes.
 

nageov3t

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don't have a roommate, but when I did... yeah, the cleaning was pretty lopsided.

he didn't have like the environmental awareness to realize when something needed to be cleaned. if the bathtub was a little grimy or he splattered grease all over the stove, it would never occur to him just to clean it or automatically clean up after himself.

if I asked him to clean something specific and actually described what needed to be done (scrub the bathtub, use X/Y cleaners) he'd do it pretty well, but it made me feel like I was living with a child. after a couple months, I got frustrated and just stopped cleaning. it got even worse after his girlfriend moved in -- you'd think that he would clean the place to make it look nicer for his gf or that she'd clean since she was living with us and not contributing towards rent/utilities, but she was even worse than he was.
 

SarcasticDwarf

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You basically just deal with it. While people may talk about sharing and all of that what it really boils down to is that you settle into some kind of routing that you all can live with.
 

Molondo

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For us its based on motivational basis. Of course we respect each others property so we are motivated more often. We really don't have table or anything like, it just happens.
 

coldmeat

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I live with 3 guys and nobody really does any cleaning, except for one day every month or two where all of us will get together and clean the whole house.

When I say nobody cleans, I include dishes. The whole house is filled with dirty dishes.
 

Rebasxer

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I live with two guys and I clean up after myself most of the time but usually me and one of the guys will just get fed up with the filth and scrub the house top to bottom. The other guy never cleans up shit, his room looks like a project house and even when were cleaning hell sit on the couch and get drunk instead of helping out. But I really don't care, having to do a majority of the cleaning doesn't bother me.
 
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Roommates suck, in general. However, girls are the worst. I don't know why, but female roommates are the dirtiest beings on this entire earth.
 
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Originally posted by: Rebasxer
I live with two guys and I clean up after myself most of the time but usually me and one of the guys will just get fed up with the filth and scrub the house top to bottom. The other guy never cleans up shit, his room looks like a project house and even when were cleaning hell sit on the couch and get drunk instead of helping out. But I really don't care, having to do a majority of the cleaning doesn't bother me.

:lips:
 

FreshCrabLegs

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Dec 31, 2003
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Originally posted by: NSFW
Originally posted by: nonameo
You live with 3 girls? Pics?

He did have pics posted of one of his roomates. But it got locked because it became a babe thread.

ATot could have won that contest over New Jersey girl!
 

K1052

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Aug 21, 2003
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This is one of the reasons I love living alone.

Every place of my friends that I've visited where there are roommates has been anywhere from somewhat dirty to "they're gonna have to burn this motherfucker down" filthy.
 

Saint Nick

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Jan 21, 2005
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I think its lopsided everywhere you go. My girlfriend lives with complete slobs... so she is the one who has to clean the house.

I live on campus in apartment style dorms. They are a rip. My room mates cook a lot, and I eat over at the cafeteria with a meal plan. So all I have to do is clean my room, the living room, and the restroom. I don't touch the kitchen, especially since I don't use it. But, sometimes I'll need to do something so I'll clean it.

I think people who don't do chores didn't have to do them growing up. They have no concept of responsibility.
 

rh71

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Aug 28, 2001
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You need to be a stickler for this stuff. When I visited my brother in his condo he shared with 2 other people, I met one of his roommates who made it clear there are to be no dishes left in the sink at any time. She didn't come across as bitchy... just an extremely tidy person.

TBH, it's much easier to clean right after you've finished using than to let anything pile up even a little. It takes less than a minute to clean 1 or 2 dishes. If you cook, well obviously you're not lazy to begin with.

Originally posted by: NightDarker
I think people who don't do chores didn't have to do them growing up. They have no concept of responsibility.

Sadly true. Table manners, etc... it needs to be taught.
 

Mo0o

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Jul 31, 2001
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We setup a rotating chore list for each week. So one week I will be responsible for unloading teh dishwasher, next week i would be taking out the trash and the following I'll vacuum or soemthing like that. We're pretty good about at least putting dirty dishes INTO the dishwasher and picking up after ourselves
 

I Saw OJ

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Dec 13, 2004
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When I lived with roommates one day I got so sick of fucking dirty dishes everywhere that I threw all the dishes and silverware in the garbage. After that I kept a couple plates and whatnot in my room that I would wash and dry after each use, kitchen stayed clean from then on.
 

MikeyLSU

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Dec 21, 2005
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heh, in college a roomate wasn't cleaning his dishes and it grew mold so I took it and put it on his bed.

Not a happy camper, lol, but it got cleaned after that. We were and still are friends so its not like it was just some random guy.
 

Viper GTS

Lifer
Oct 13, 1999
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My g/f & I figured out the only way to fairly split the cleaning duties is to pay someone else to do it. We're not particularly messy people, so we have a cleaning service clean the apartment every two weeks. We do nothing but dishes & laundry.

Works out quite well, $75 a month per person & there's no arguments or hurt feelings. And did I mention I haven't cleaned a toilet in 4 years? Spectacular.

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