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[JohnCU]

sorry man

 

[Deadtrees]

Your avatar and the post....

 

[JasonSix78]

 

[Auggie]

Aww, Snelski - your wife sounded like a wonderful woman. I hate that she suffered so, and I feel terrible for your teenage son to lose his mother already.

I hope she is in a better place now. And I hope one day you two are able to meet again.

 

[Perknose]

No mere words I can type here can salve the pain of your loss.

Just seeing your thread, Snelski, brings me back to our old AGN days, the first and the finest trading site ever! :thumbsup:

 

[Clair de Lune]

Okay what the fuck, this really pissed me off.

What the fuck is the point of 'routine mammogram' if that doesn't catch shit? That is fucking bullshit. Why don't we all get 'non-routine mammogram' routinely then? And include sonogram too. Reading this really pisses me off because OP and wife took not a single MISSTEP in catching the cancer. Yet, she was still hit with this tragedy. That is fucking bullshit. WTF is the point of a 'routine mammogram' then???@#?$@#?$

My mom had a scare about few years ago. She had a small lump in her breast that was a size of a grain. Thankfully it was just a benign cyst and they removed it.

Man it really pisses me off that you did all you could to by the book yet still had to go through with this. I seriously question this bullshit checkup. WTF is the point????

 

[compuwiz1]

I'm so sorry, Peter.

 

[Cyco]

I'm sorry for your loss. May she rest in peace.

 

[Soulchaser]

I can't imagine what you're going through. I am truly sorry for your loss. Everything you posted is making me reexamine my thoughts about modern medicine.

 

[Jeff7]

Originally posted by: Soulchaser
I can't imagine what you're going through. I am truly sorry for your loss. Everything you posted is making me reexamine my thoughts about modern medicine.

Unfortunately, it's the best we're able to do right now. It's a lot better now than ever before though.

 

[Belldo]

Sorry for your loss

 

[Auggie]

Claire de Lune, it is really unfortunate that the general screening misses these and a lot of types of cancers. But general physicals and checkups and exams and basic tests as we grow older are all designed to catch the majority of major pathologies with the majority of the population, which means that a lot of these cases slip through. I imagine the "non-routine" workup is different and more expensive than the basic check, and insurance companies would go bankrupt trying to fund all the extra costs of complete screening for all of their customers.

Maybe this means we should be on a socialist universal healthcare program, although in that case, even a Federal program would be limited in available funds, and countries with socialized healthcare don't have significantly fewer cases of cancer so far as I know.

This really, really sucks - there's no real easy answer. It just happened, and there's nothing short of major advances in biotech and genetics research that will allow for things to change.... it's part of the human condition. My heart goes out to the family.

 

[Nik]

I lost my granddad to cancer. He meant the world to me.

I'm sorry for your loss.

 

[Ballatician]

I wish you, your son, and the rest of your family the best in these hard times.

 

[skyking]

My family and I offer our condolences to you, and our deepest gratitude for your post.
The community owes a great deal to you for coming forward with this well thought out and informative post made in such a time of sorrow. Even in your darkest times, you thought of others that you may help them avoid such pain.

 

[skyking]

I told my wife about your story. I knew she had a mammogram Friday, but she had not told me it was non-routine until she had read this thread. I won't go into all the details of why she had a non-routine exam, but she was not telling me about them either because she did not want me to worry.
Again I express our condolences and offer thanks for posting this.

 

[moshquerade]

thanks for taking the time to write your story, and i'm sorry to hear the heart breaking outcome of it.

also, may i add, that you really have to be your own health advocate. you have to keep pushing when you know something isn't right, and not give up. doctors aren't infallible, testing machines and tests aren't infallible, but eventually/hopefully you can get to the bottom of things.

alot of things for you and your wife are now better seen in hindsight, and i'm not judging you at all. i am just glad you've taken the time to type it all out and know that you may indeed save someone because of it.

 

[Pacfanweb]

Sorry for your loss.

I read the whole thing. I will keep this in mind every time the wife or I goes to a doctor.

 

[SmoochyTX]

I'm sorry for your loss.

 

[kevbot]

My deepest condolences to you and your family. I can't imagine how it feels to lose your spouse, your soul mate. She will will live on through you and your son so hopefully you can take some solace in that.

I lost my sister about six years ago to the day due to complications from colon cancer. Like breast cancer, colon cancer is very treatable in early stages. If there is any family history of any kind of cancer, get your tests done!

I took a long time to reply to this thread because the tears wont stop when this subject comes up. My sister died because her condition wasn't caught in time, not because of the cancer itself.

Anyway, again, my most sincere condolences to you and your family. I wish you nothing but the best in the future. Carry on, lotsa strangers are pulling for you. Stay strong.

 

[BeauJangles]

I know I'm a stranger, but you have my sympathies. I can't imagine what it's like to lose someone in that manner and I'm sorry you had to go through it

 

[vshah]

sorry for your loss, and thank you for sharing all that helpful information with us

 

[Regs]

You suffered a loss some of us won't be lucky enough to endure.

You have my sincere wishes. No, it never makes any sense.

 

[dguy6789]

 

[rasczak]

My deepest most heartfelt condolences for your loss.