Since many post here about their relationship snafus and since the majority of the people here are male and claim they have difficulty understanding people "of the female persuasion" 😀, I thought I'd post a logical system for the rationally-inclined who wish to disseminate the phenomenon of human, and particularly female, behavior.
First, we presuppose a set of original premises which shape behavior. This is largely due to temperament, which is genetic. Now these premises are what influence behavior on a fundamental level. This is really who we are.
Second, in most cases, the particular cultural context and society influences just exactly how the particular temperament will be applied in terms of thought processes and concrete and observable behavior.
Third, the behavior is reinforced due to reward and punishment systems. This leads to a cementing of personality and persistent life-course trajectories.
Fourth, having developed a system where it is understood that original assumptions and axioms is a system, in this case, behavior and thought, influence the choice of further deductions and in everyday life, conclusions about the nature of reality, we can say that if these original premises can be discovered or derived from a larger infinite set, then we can discover exactly what motivates people to act, in this case females.
Fifth, we get to the task at hand, which is attempting to discover the source and nature of female beahvior.
Sixth, I propose that the source is grounded in biology, followed by interactions and transactions with the environment. This in turn produces a current observable personality. So, in order to understand why people, particularly the female morph, act, we must again look to the general developmental outcome in adult samples.
Seventh, from observation and literature analysis, is is possible to conclude with a good amount of certainty, that the foundations of most female behavior lie in a drive to maintain harmony in relationships. I am not claiming this as an absolute but merely stating that this is the current situation. Years of experience and conditioning emphasize connected networks of relationships.
This I pose as the fundamental axiom driving female behavior, in our current cultural context. Seems reasonable, eh?
Now, how do we benefit from this?
Well, males in this society tend to have an outlook which values a more objective founding of one's system. That is, they prefer to see things as black and white since they consider the use of logic as a fundamental premis as superior or at least better fitting to reality than the use of balance in connected webs. Thus, the opposition and all this "mean are from mars, women are from venus" sort of gibberish.
But there is a solution. In order to understand these things, one cannot do it with reason. A full plunging into the experience (supra rational) of the other party who holds different assumptions about ultimate importance is necessary. In other words, what is called empathy and it's corollary: compassion. If the person realizes the confines of traditonal concepts of the self and changes perspectives to such an extent where full awareness of others' behavior stemming from different epistemic axioms is realized, then there really won't be this problem of "I don't understand"
The real trick is doing that since it's immensely hard. But for those who complain about not understanding, I think this provides a good foundation for a rational model of the methods employed to reach understanding.
Any discussion welcome. I would particularly like a critique since I really think I made some errors here. But at the same time, I had to write my own thoughts without reference to other thinkers.
Cheers ! 🙂
First, we presuppose a set of original premises which shape behavior. This is largely due to temperament, which is genetic. Now these premises are what influence behavior on a fundamental level. This is really who we are.
Second, in most cases, the particular cultural context and society influences just exactly how the particular temperament will be applied in terms of thought processes and concrete and observable behavior.
Third, the behavior is reinforced due to reward and punishment systems. This leads to a cementing of personality and persistent life-course trajectories.
Fourth, having developed a system where it is understood that original assumptions and axioms is a system, in this case, behavior and thought, influence the choice of further deductions and in everyday life, conclusions about the nature of reality, we can say that if these original premises can be discovered or derived from a larger infinite set, then we can discover exactly what motivates people to act, in this case females.
Fifth, we get to the task at hand, which is attempting to discover the source and nature of female beahvior.
Sixth, I propose that the source is grounded in biology, followed by interactions and transactions with the environment. This in turn produces a current observable personality. So, in order to understand why people, particularly the female morph, act, we must again look to the general developmental outcome in adult samples.
Seventh, from observation and literature analysis, is is possible to conclude with a good amount of certainty, that the foundations of most female behavior lie in a drive to maintain harmony in relationships. I am not claiming this as an absolute but merely stating that this is the current situation. Years of experience and conditioning emphasize connected networks of relationships.
This I pose as the fundamental axiom driving female behavior, in our current cultural context. Seems reasonable, eh?
Now, how do we benefit from this?
Well, males in this society tend to have an outlook which values a more objective founding of one's system. That is, they prefer to see things as black and white since they consider the use of logic as a fundamental premis as superior or at least better fitting to reality than the use of balance in connected webs. Thus, the opposition and all this "mean are from mars, women are from venus" sort of gibberish.
But there is a solution. In order to understand these things, one cannot do it with reason. A full plunging into the experience (supra rational) of the other party who holds different assumptions about ultimate importance is necessary. In other words, what is called empathy and it's corollary: compassion. If the person realizes the confines of traditonal concepts of the self and changes perspectives to such an extent where full awareness of others' behavior stemming from different epistemic axioms is realized, then there really won't be this problem of "I don't understand"
The real trick is doing that since it's immensely hard. But for those who complain about not understanding, I think this provides a good foundation for a rational model of the methods employed to reach understanding.
Any discussion welcome. I would particularly like a critique since I really think I made some errors here. But at the same time, I had to write my own thoughts without reference to other thinkers.
Cheers ! 🙂
