To start, pick up some sticks and play. Learn some simple beats/songs. If you're going to use tabs, just use them to learn some basic beats. I think tabs are only a hinder when you get better. My thought is, if you're going to learn to read music, than learn on an actual music staff.
An even better place to get started would be to just find a local music store and take a lesson or two just to learn the basics. Even if you don't plan to keep taking lessons it would likely be a very good starting point.
Edit: I almost forgot, timing is much more important than speed! Once you get into it, if you can't play something smoothly at a slower speed don't try to play it faster. 90% of the drummers I have known can't seem to figure this out. If you don't have good timing, playing faster only makes it sound worse. I promise.