Fight with my mom about my sister again...

[BigToque]

I'm 24 and live at home with my mom and 22 year old sister.

My sister has a bunch of mood disorders along with bad drug habits (cocaine, crystal meth, alcohol, pot, etc).

She stays at home all day everyday, sleeps on he couch, makes a disgusting mess everywhere in the house and leaves her drugs out in the open.

For probably the 10th time I got into a huge fight with my mom because I told her I was sick of the crap that goes on in the house and that she isn't helping my sister by buying her drugs and alcohol and junk food everyday (my sister has not had a job in like 5 years and my mom buys her everything she wants including tatoos and piercings) and that I was finally losing my respect for her.

In her mind she is helping my sister, "I don't know anything" and I treat my sister like sh!t (I don't interact with her at all and am almost never at home so I can get away from all the crap in the house - yet somehow that means I treat her like sh!t?!?) and she doesn't care if she loses my respect.

I have no idea how to afford moving out...

 

[apac]

Originally posted by: BigToque
I have no idea how to afford moving out...

1. Get a job
2. ...
3. profit? unlikely, but at least you won't be 24 living with your mother and deadbeat sister any more.

 

[BigToque]

Originally posted by: apac

Originally posted by: BigToque
I have no idea how to afford moving out...

1. Get a job
2. ...
3. profit? unlikely, but at least you won't be 24 living with your mother and deadbeat sister any more.

I have a job, and if I move out into the worst appartments in the city I'll have just enough to pay all my bills and have NO money for savings.

 

[Kwaipie]

Move someplace more affordable for a single lad. IMO, 24 is a bit old to still be in the nest.

 

[apac]

Originally posted by: BigToque

Originally posted by: apac

Originally posted by: BigToque
I have no idea how to afford moving out...

1. Get a job
2. ...
3. profit? unlikely, but at least you won't be 24 living with your mother and deadbeat sister any more.

I have a job, and if I move out into the worst appartments in the city I'll have just enough to pay all my bills and have NO money for savings.

Then don't stay in the city? Take a small loan for initial expenses, move 30 minutes out and commute into whichever city you work in. Apparently the dead end job you're working either pays sh!t or you're not working enough hours. Either way, if you are 24 and cannot afford your own living expenses and have no responsibilities besides yourself, then perhaps it's time to think about how to solve your problems instead of ranting about them all.

 

[Q]

Wow, you need to get out of there man, sorry to hear it's not going well though

 

[DainBramaged]

Call the cops on your sister.

/ATOTCounselor?

 

[Injury]

Voice your concerns about moving out to friends. SOMEONE will need a roommate or know someone who does.

It's too expensive to live alone.

 

[apac]

Originally posted by: DainBramaged
Call the cops on your sister.

/ATOTCounselor?

Sorry to be so brutally honest with you OP, but I'm sure this has crossed your mind and you're too afraid of being thrown out of your own house to do anything about it.

 

[BoomerD]

Originally posted by: BigToque

Originally posted by: apac

Originally posted by: BigToque
I have no idea how to afford moving out...

1. Get a job
2. ...
3. profit? unlikely, but at least you won't be 24 living with your mother and deadbeat sister any more.

I have a job, and if I move out into the worst appartments in the city I'll have just enough to pay all my bills and have NO money for savings.

Get a better job, or a 2nd job if you need to. Like it or not, (and I don't blame you for not liking the situation) it's your mom's house, not yours, and she's free to do as she chooses. Some parents never grasp that they are just enablers...and make it easier for their kids to refuse to grow up or give up drugs...
Personally, I'd kick you both to the curb. 22 and 24 is WAY too old to be living at home unless you're going to college full time...IMO, it's time to grow up and move out on your own.

 

[AnonymouseUser]

Originally posted by: BigToque
I'm 24 and live at home with my mom and 22 year old sister.

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I have no idea how to afford moving out...

If you want it bad enough, you'll figure it out. Second job, cut back on luxuries, learn to be a cheapskate, find a roomate, any and all of those would help.

It doesn't sound like you'll be able to change your mother or your sister, so it's best to make a clean break. Good luck.

 

[RichUK]

What do you do for a living?

 

[Bateluer]

Just a thought, have you considered a roommate to split the cost of an apartment or house rental?

 

[S Freud]

Minus the drug problem and you have my sister, my parents pay for everything for her. Their reason behind it is because she has no way to pay for herself, because she doesn't work and never has. She is 18 years old, about ready to start college and my parents are footing the bill for everything. I don't get a dime, why? Because I filled out my FAFSA, got a job and took the measures to get myself on my own two feet.


My advice to you, talk to some friends, talk to anyone and look for a place/roommate. I stopped talking to my parents because I was so fed up with the garbage that was going on with my sister and them.