Fiance Troubles

FrequencyX

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Ill make this short.. I have a verbally abusive,manipulative controlling fiance that is always threatening to leave me even though im the best she has ever had and she has said this. I have never dealt with a girl so cruel in nature and so controlling and yet so hard to let go, since I don't really have anybody else.

I have bought her a car and used my credit, she stays at my apartment and currently has no job.She rarely pays for expenses nor help with cleaning duties. She has no trust in me, and I feel we are falling apart after 5 months. She has been married 3 times and is known throughout this town as a slut and has cheated on many guys, including the previous guy before me. As a matter of fact, I started seeing her when she was still dating him which I did not know about.

Well to make this short, im thinking of not putting up with her crap anymore and maybe telling her goodbye. I know its coming where we will get into a petty fight and she will threaten to leave again and expects me to hold her back. I would say in the 5 months we have been dating, she has done this close to 8 times. If we break up, how would I beable to transfer this title over to her and have her take care of it since it was the agreement "Oh I will pay, I will be making this much $$$ blah blah" and it turns out she cannot. She has done some mods(Paint) to the interior of the car, so I dont know if I can just sell it and pay off the loan and make alittle profit..?

Any ideas ?
Thanks
 

Saint Nick

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let her go, plain and simple. take your car back, sell it, pay off the credit cards. move on.
 

FrequencyX

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Originally posted by: jndietz
let her go, plain and simple. take your car back, sell it, pay off the credit cards. move on.

I just dont know how much I can get off of this car since she painted the interior(vents,center plastic piece..Pink on top of that)

BTW: Its a 2004 Ford Taurus SE with about 70000 Sedan
 

Tates

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Fiance Troubles = Finance Troubles

If you don't get rid of her soon, she'll take you for all you're worth then leave you.

time to show her the door...
 

intogamer

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...why would you marry her if she is known to be a town slut....
so WTF does she do in your APT?
 

yobarman

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After reading about halfway thru that post I DEMAND YOU DUMP THE BITCH!

I can see a girl with some annoyances, but she is a leech and she'll be sorry you left her.
 

FrequencyX

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Its almost like she slowly wears down on your defenses untill your slowly being poisoned... I don't know how we got this far honestly.. Very manipulating and very pressuring type of girl.

She is 26 and i am 22

Very mature for my age when compared to her.. She throws temper tantrums and has constant mood swings .. I wanted to take a shower one night after I got off of work at 9:30, and she got pissed cause she had to "wait" and took off in the car I bought and slammed all the doors etc and said this is bulls**** etc.. Very immature
 

Mermaidman

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Originally posted by: FrequencyX
Fiance Troubles
Funny- if you add an "N," you'll get Finance Troubles.

Anyway, when you dump her, you'll have to be real careful with the car loan. If it's still in your name, but she's not making payments, guess whose credit gets dinged? Problem I see is that she doesn't sound like a person who would qualify for a loan in her own name.

Good luck! Glad I'm not in your position! (Bent over grabbing ankles)
 

FrequencyX

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Originally posted by: SampSon
You don't exist. What is your other nick?

This is my only nick.. I don't post that often

Just thought I would get some professionals opinions since I cant even afford a pychologist. That would be even out of the question. If she found that out she would flip out too.
Just waiting for my shift to end....5 minutes left
 

FrequencyX

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Originally posted by: Mermaidman
Originally posted by: FrequencyX
Fiance Troubles
Funny- if you add an "N," you'll get Finance Troubles.

Anyway, when you dump her, you'll have to be real careful with the car loan. If it's still in your name, but she's not making payments, guess whose credit gets dinged? Problem I see is that she doesn't sound like a person who would qualify for a loan in her own name.

Good luck! Glad I'm not in your position! (Bent over grabbing ankles)

Yep my credit will get screwed.... she doesn't have any credit ad it has been pretty messed up since her last marriages.. She offered secual favors for the car if I bought it..Weird how we were dating and had a pretty descent sex live before the car.. She seems like maybe using me a little bit.. I dont know
 

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Originally posted by: FrequencyX
Originally posted by: SampSon
You don't exist. What is your other nick?

This is my only nick.. I don't post that often

Just thought I would get some professionals opinions since I cant even afford a pychologist. That would be even out of the question. If she found that out she would flip out too.
Just waiting for my shift to end....5 minutes left

Thats too bad, sounds like SHE needs a psychologist. Don't hold it against her though, she's probably had some tough times, but you definitely need to get rid of her. She isn't ready for a serious relationship, and may never be.
 

Originally posted by: FrequencyX
Originally posted by: SampSon
You don't exist. What is your other nick?

This is my only nick.. I don't post that often

Just thought I would get some professionals opinions since I cant even afford a pychologist. That would be even out of the question. If she found that out she would flip out too.
Just waiting for my shift to end....5 minutes left
Your sitation is too perfect to be taken as real. I mean comon, perfect bait.

You've been dating only 5 MONTHS and you bought her a car. You support the entire household, while she does nothing. She's also the well known town slut who you hooked up with while she was with another man (and still is).

This is material for judge Judy or jerry springer.
 

stan394

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Originally posted by: Anubis
first i have to ask WHY THE HELL DID YOU ASK HER TO MARRY YOU?????????


second

WHY THE HELL DID YOU ASK HER TO MARRY YOU?????????

Fixed

 

FrequencyX

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And another thing she is so psycho that tonight we had a fight because I had a cigarette and I guess i promised her that I was going to quit. So I had one cigarette today total and she flipped out, and now she calls it quits again because I broke the promise... So frustrating :(
She is smoker too and she should know its not easy quitting..

But Its time for me to leave guys.. I will be back tommorow mourning to check on the posts.

I appreciate all your advice so far!
 

lokiju

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Originally posted by: Anubis
first i have to ask WHY THE HELL DID YOU ASK HER TO MARRY YOU?????????


second

kick her to the curb

I was wondering the same thing, that is not a girl you want to spend the rest of your life with unless you hate yourself.
 

EatSpam

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Do you have self esteem issues? Why would you even consider being with this woman, let alone marrying her?