If I take you correctly:
You agree that she does live in a terrorized world.
I too believe that she lives in a terrorized world.
Lets move on to the next question: How did she end up there:
Is it an unescapable physical fact of her reality that she lives in a terrorizing society?
Or is the terror she faces a function of being told to see the world as such?
If someone is afraid of muslim extremist terrorists, how did he end up there:
Is it an unescapable physical fact of reality that he lives in a terrorizing society?
Or is the terror he faces a function of being told to see the world as such?
If someone is afraid of blacks, so he stands his ground, how did he end up there:
Is it an unescapable physical fact of reality that he lives in a society terrorized by blacks?
Or is the terror he faces a function of being told to see the world as such?
To me, the question of "where does our reality come from" doesn't change because of the political situation of the question. And if that's the case, teaching people to be terrorized is wrong be it from the pulpit, faux news, or the women's-studies classroom.
ps
I agree with your car analogy. Defensive driving is an important skill, as is defensive dating/clubbing/etc. However knowing of the problems that exist is something quit different from living daily in fear of them.
I guess my questions come down to the problem of knowing problems exist, what I would refer to as women's studies, as opposed to the inevitable reaction that occurs, the fanaticism and hostile return of abuse, when constantly exposed to such by men.
As far as I am concerned, I see the three cases you posed as all having a single root, racism, religious prejudice, sexism and the whole sweep of human dilemmas that separate us from them, all have a single root, being trained to see you are worthless as a child by being verbally put down violently.
In essence, you are dealing with symptoms too far up the food chain. The problem is not that women hate themselves and blame men, or that black people are this or that, or Muslims are all violent, but the you and I and everybody else on the planet, with rare exceptions. are all convinced they are the worst in the world.
The problem is that the real disease is never addressed, the imbedded self hate in which we all life and the reason is because the problem is profoundly difficult to face. We do not know we hate ourselves, we do not want to know it, and we do not want to know we do not want to know. We died psychically as children, had to die to survive, had to surrender to whatever group think we were born into, because we were dependent, in need of love and care, and our needs were used to control us. We have all been through worse than a concentration camp and do not remember, can't remember without tremendous effort, because the pain we felt killed our true selves. The death and resurrection of Christ are all symbols of what is required to awaken from this death, to suffer by remembering, by telling ourselves our own story, by collapsing the ego that is the armor that keeps our self hate at bay. We all believe and live a lie, that there is something deeply flawed in us, a feeling that we powerfully repress and wind up therefore, projecting on others.
Every time somebody makes some progress in one of our areas of sickness. say a women who becomes aware of the prejudice against women and seeks to do something about it. she raises an army against her. We must allow nobody to be free of their self hate, we must pull all back into our mud, We slime everything because it is what happened to us.
There are many many people who know that something is wrong, we retain a echo of our former selves, that was not totally snuffed. This is described the Sufis as the song of the reed of a flute lamenting the loss of its osier bead.
I hear song in you and love you for it.