Female advice - plz help :(

[CompuWife]

Nothing kills a friendship faster than a "Dear Jane, this is how I feel about you..." letter.
I wouldn't do it. Hang around, when she ditches the guy ask her out on an "official" date and take it from there.
good luck to you.
{edit}Just finished reading the rest of this topic, good for you!{/edit}

 

[Virgo]

Well ,she will probably get married now some time soon in the future and decide that your "friendship" isn't worth bothering with.....too bad. Time to start searchin all over again my friend.

 

[KarsinTheHutt]

Oh so cynical!

 

[nickdakick]

Experience ????

 

[Wooster]

Sounds like "Can't Hardly Wait" situation. If you heard this movie, you can go watch it. It's by Jenny Love Hewitt.

 

[BigKev]

If you REALLY like here...you can't be afraid to tell her how you feel. I say tell her..what have you got to lose?

 

[KarsinTheHutt]

ISO, in theory, I don't think he has anything to loose. Under real world conditions, I'd guess that telling this person the truth could result in a damaged/destroyed friendship.

Of course, it all depends on how the girl takes it... I'd say the majority of them take it badly.

 

[phlashphire]

But doesn't it just suck to be just a "friend" of the girl you have feelings for...

 

[JMaster]

I hope you're not going to print it and mail it to her or email it to her. You really should write it out by hand, it's much more personal.

 

[Mister T]

Genocide , North Andover huh?
Rich girl

Boston here amigo... I was in a similar position to yours in Jan of 99. I became friends with this hot chick back then, but she had a boyfriend of 1.5 years... After knowing her for 6 weeks I was in love with her. But she stil had a damn boyfriend... To make a long story short, she broke up with her boyfriend the last week of Feb, and we were offical in April 99.... Been going ever since.

A couple point of advice:

1. Be patient
2. Honesty is good just be careful, you don't want to tell her too much at once

Good luck and hope everything works out.

 

[geno]

Actually, she's not a 'rich girl', she's on the boarder right next to Lawrence

I've been making good decisions ever since, and her an I had a conversation one night wich reaffirmed my thoughts about our friendshitp. I wasn't too sure where I stood in the friendship before that. But things are going good, I'm happy with our friendship. I'm just going to be patient and wait until its time. If I have to wait too long, I'll ask her what she thinks about me and if she thinks we could ever be together. We'll just have to wait and see how it goes from here

 

[HungChow]

hey I once told the woman of my dreams that I loved her and stuff
she was a lesie at the time but became my best friend,but when she broke up with that gal,what did she do?she screwed everyboy except me
although she did come on to me in a public place pretty obvious once I started wearing really tight jeans
untill that she didnt care
short story is she got impregnated by someone else had an abortion,never thought of me romantically cause I guess I didnt treat her like an a**hole
my advice start treating her like dirt and it will get her love
I now have a gf that loves me cause I keep scre*ing somthing up everyday

 

[HungChow]

if a girl tells you you are nice you better get bad quick that is her waring that you will loose her

 

[judgejudy]

Well, my strategy is usually waiting till she's not exclusively going out with somebody, cause if you pour your heart to her, and she says no, then you have a boyfriend that wants to kick your ass, and an ex great friend that's going to avoid you.

But, if she doesn't have a boyfriend, she's as free as a Cisco T-Shirt on Anandtech. And if she says yes, then you get to hit it everyday, and that's a big positive right there. Sooo... like we say in investing, you gotta take the big risk to get the big return.

Good Luck my friend.

 

[JoeKing]

Better to have loved and lost then never to have loved at all..

Just don't wait to long tell her. I think you only get a very few true mates in life and if she's one and your sure then don't let her go. But also don't scare the girl off.

If she does brake up with the other guy, make your move soon before she goes with another guy. You may end up waiting forever and just become the eternal "boy" friend who she loves as a brother.

Beleive me regret sucks, I never got the balls to ask one of my good female friends out. Just kept putting it off and using excuses like it'll ruin the friendship. But now a few years later I truley regret never finding out how she really felt. I knew she liked me as well but we both chickened out in the end. And we have since lost contact with each other.

Damn, remanicing sucks.....oh well backing to work.

--edit--
Oh yeah, start dropping sibtle hints about your true feelings now. Say she's beautiful and all that jazz.