Family in Crisis 2 (updated)

[Dedpuhl]

I posted a topic a few months ago about my sister doing drugs in the house. Here is the link as a refresher:

http://forums.anandtech.com/arcmessageview.cfm?catid=38&threadid=298267&highlight_key=y&keyword1=crisis


Well, the consensus of this forum was that drug use was ok. It was only weed, etc. Now I would like you to know that my sister is now sitting in a psychiatric ward. She was found on the interstate just outside of the city wandering around. The police picked her up and brought her to the hospital. She had tried to kill herself by slashing her wrists from her palm up to her elbow (not vertically, but dozens of horizontal slashes). She was wandering aimlessly on the interstate.

She now believes that she has "cleansed" her soul and she cut herself to find her soul mate?? She is physically violent towards my dad. She has lost her mind. I left the hospital before blood tests were done, but they do think she was on some other drug.

I know its not b/c of weed. She may have many metal problems but the drugs didn't help her. You people here thought that I would be a bad person if I turned her in and that it's my dad's house. Is weed a gateway drug? Not for everyone....

Now she is sitting in a hospital like she is insane. My mom will not take this well.

 

[Schola]

We aren't experts. We can't predict what everyone is going to do. You prolly schould have listened to what you heart and mind was telling you to do and not what people on a forum tell you to do. Espically when it is something as important as this is.

Schola

Dope, beaten by a few seconds

 

[Dedpuhl]

You should also be ashamed for relying on a silly little BBS like this one with such a serious problem, when a better outlet and source of information could have been found in a teacher, pastor, etc.

I just came on here asking questions. I talked to my dad and mom about it. Notta...zilch...nothing...
I also asked advice from some of my coworkers that are a lot older than me and have children. They said It was a decision for my dad. I really did not know my sister was THAT bad...

 

[chess9]

If I've said it once, I've said it 200 times. Very few people who offer advice here are experts. In difficult situations like this one professional advice is critical. Thank God she didn't kill herself and is now getting care.

Best of luck.

I hope some of the teenagers and assorted Libertarians who post here get your message loud and clear.

 

[Schola]

And what do Libertarians have to do with this.

Schola

 

[ChrichtonsGirl]

It sounds like more than one person failed your sister. I'm sorry she didn't get help sooner, sorry that the situation deteriorated so quickly and so badly.

Hindsight is 20/20 - it's easy to sit here and say you should have reported her before, you should have done more, but no one's perfect, and you hopefully made the best decision you could earlier. Sometimes it doesn't matter what you do, some people simply won't be helped - so who's to say reporting her and having her arrested a couple of months ago would have done anything either?

Good luck to your family, Dedpuhl - I hope your sister gets some much-needed treatment and that she comes out of this.

 

[Dedpuhl]

I hope your sister gets some much-needed treatment and that she comes out of this.

Me too. I didn't know she was that bad. My dad mentioned that she was acting a little strange this past week. I don't know what happened to her...

 

[bobtist]

I'm sorry, Dedpuhl. That's a tough situation, I know. I have a step-sister in a psych. ward, diagnosed schizophrenic... It's rough. I hope your family can be strong!

 

[Dedpuhl]

Very few people who offer advice here are experts.

I'm aware of that. I really was just venting at the time. I never ever thought it would come down to this...

 

[pamchenko]

<< You should also be ashamed for relying on a silly little BBS like this one with such a serious problem, when a better outlet and source of information could have been found in a teacher, pastor, etc. >>


don't blame the victim here...instead lets try to stay postive in such hard times for this guy and offer him ways to cope in such a difficult situation. I wish that things look brighter soon as you're prolly bearing more responsibility that is due...its really not your fault...just stay by your sisters side ok? don't despair.

 

[mryellow2]

just wanted to say that i hope everything works out, god bless you and your family

 

[MisFit]

I feel for you, my brother is going through detox and therapy at the moment, similar situation.

Dont give up hope and I hope that it all works out for your family.

 

[Electric Amish]

Good luck.

Sounds like you need to get far, far away from those people and stop wasting your energy by caring about them.

amish

 

[Sacotool]

Perhaps she just took a psychedelic and just freaked out? That stuff happens all the time...... People usually come out of the psychosis. Don't believe those dumb urban legends about the guy who took acid and now he thinks he's a tangerine. It's bunch of BS.

 

[Azraele]

Oh gezz, that's awful

I never saw the original thread, and if I had I certainly would have encouraged you to turn her in. Drug use is harmful and illegal, and just because she's your sister doesn't mean she doesn't need help, nor was she above the law. This is truly a tragic ending, made even more so by the fact that you dad was covering for her. As a parent, he should have gone out of his way to see that she got some help. Try not to shoulder the blame because you chose not to turn her in. You tried to do what you felt was right, and there's nothing to say that even if you had turned her in it would have ended differently. Hopefully, your sister will get the help she needs. Try and be supportive. Perhpas you should sit down and talk to your dad. I wish it had ended better

 

[Dedpuhl]

In the original post, I didn't blame anyone. I did, however, make a statement about the ideas of drug use by a lot of the people on this board. I edited it out b/c I saw the flame war coming...and thats the last thing I need right now.

 

[chess9]

Schola: Go read the original post.

aRyll: When people are in pain and confused you don't give them more pain and confusion. You point them in the direction of professional help. Get a grip, Mr. I Have My Life Completely Under Control At All Times. (and never do anything stupid except when I post some occasional drivel on AT)

 

[eakers]

i dont know what to say.
part of me wants to be like &quot;maybe she has a mental disease, perhaps depression&quot;

part of me wants to say &quot;drugs are bad, people do them because they feel good, because they are trying to escape&quot;

and quite honestly part of me wants to say &quot;some people can handle their drugs, there is such a thing as responsible drug use&quot;

im so conflicted.

i really hope your sister will be better soon.
just stand by and support her the last thing she needs is abandonment.

*kat. <-- oh so conflicted

 

[eakers]

ps i think people gave the advice they did because they didnt know why she was doing drugs. if it was simply the occasional recreation use or if she was in some sort of depression.

*kat. <-- still conflicted

 

[Ultima200]

Do they know what drug she was on? The marijuana couldnt have possibly done that

 

[Santan]

My sympathies to you and your family...

Contact the hospital social worker - he/she can offer possible interventions/options for you and your family...

Good Luck

 

[Dedpuhl]

Somehow they have found out that it was marijuana laced with a drug in the category of valium. She is flipped out and being transported to a different city.

This is the first time I have seen my dad cry. EVER. Drugs are great...it's just weed...yeah right...

 

[Azraele]

I think your dad realizes his mistake now. Try not to blame him too much (if indeed you do), he's feeling badly enough right now I imagine. My best wishes to you and your family.

 

[MustangSVT]

Hmm, your sister has lost her mind and your family is in crisis and you are posting here and saying stuff you are saying? Are you really young?

 

[Dedpuhl]

you are posting here and saying stuff you are saying? Are you really young?

No. I am not close to my family like a lot of people are. There is nothing more I could do so I came home. I'm 22.