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Failed Very Public Wedding Proposals

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There was a guy Saturday night that asked his girlfriend to marry him at the local minor league ball game I was at. She said yes, but I kept hoping she'd say no, haha.
 
Public proposals are for douchebags. What woman wants to be put on the spot in front of a bunch of strangers egging her on to say yes? Even if she would have said yes in private, the public aspect has to be humiliating and insulting.
 
D1gger said:
Why would you do this? Even if you know the answer will LIKELY be yes, why would you want to take a personal, private moment and put it in front of hundreds/thousands of strangers? I just don't get it.
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A) You have been brainwashed by hollywood "love" and believe that proposing in that way is "romantic" and is what every girl wants. In other words, you're an idiot.

B) You need attention and/or believe your girl needs attention. The guy/girl want there to be an announcement for everybody in the world to know that you two are together, when really nobody else gives a shit.

Public proposals are pretty much shit IMO. Besides, these are all boring and unoriginal. If you're going to do it in public, then do it like the dude in this thread is going to where it is unique and meaningful to you two. Sure the dude proposed where they first met, but it was at a freakin mall food court. What girl wants to get proposed to there? The sports games are just sooooo cliche that anybody who does them should get rejected. Shows a lack of any originality or creativity. Although some people are into that.
 
Watching the videos of these failures makes me feel so much better about myself. Why would you do this? I feel terrible for the women, if the roles were reversed I would probably say no just for spite because the douchebag was putting me on the spot like that.
 
I've had girl friends straight up tell they would say no if someone publicly proposed to them.. because it assumes that she would say yes, and there's wayyy too much pressure to say yes. Last thing a girl wants is to feel pressured or tricked into something. It can be a power play.

The only time I would consider it ok is if they had seriously talked about marriage beforehand and he knew damn well that she wanted to say yes... otherwise, he's just a douche.
 
dardarla said:
I've had girl friends straight up tell they would say no if someone publicly proposed to them.. because it assumes that she would say yes, and there's wayyy too much pressure to say yes. Last thing a girl wants is to feel pressured or tricked into something. It can be a power play.

The only time I would consider it ok is if they had seriously talked about marriage beforehand and he knew damn well that she wanted to say yes... otherwise, he's just a douche.
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Some women actually like public attention and love the idea of being proposed to in front of the whole world.

My wife is not one of them 😉

MotionMan
 
flvinny521 said:
This thread has terrible timing. I am about to do a public proposal in less than a week...

But I, like OP, already know the answer will be yes. Still, it's a very nerve-racking time.
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I'm sure that they thought the answer was going to be a yes too! Or else they would not have done it either.
 
I remember one guy proposed to his girlfriend on the pitch at halftime in a football match.

I think she had trouble hearing him over the 20000 people chanting "does she take it... does she take it... does she take it up the arse?".
 
MotionMan said:
All oldies, but goodies:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UtPkxzHKLpk

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ac3AzaDohd0

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hmTLfRGiQHI

Does anyone know the back story/follow up for any of these?

Feel free to add more videos of failed public proposals.

My wife told me I could not, under any circumstances, propose to her on the big board at a 49ers game. So, instead, I did it at one of her graduate classes - I got the whole thing on video, too. I knew she'd say yes since she had designed the ring (she did not know I had it made, yet, though.)

MotionMan
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I see a theme. Mildly chunky girls do not like to be proposed to at sports games.
Why would you do this? Even if you know the answer will LIKELY be yes, why would you want to take a personal, private moment and put it in front of hundreds/thousands of strangers? I just don't get it.
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White trash move is what it is.
 
CRXican said:
first chick was way too hot for that douche with a shitty beard
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totally.

either way, i think that all these women should have just whispered to them that they are gonna pretend to say yes to save the guy the humiliation but the answer is no and they can talk about it later.
 
Some news guy tried to get me to propose on camera when I got back from Afghanistan. My family thought it would be cool. Definitely a private affair, I didn't want to share that moment with anyone.
 
Everyone knows that the most romantic place to ask your s/o to marry you is at a sports event, surrounded by 20K half-hammered dudes. Lifetime shows telenovels about that all the time.
 
I proposed to my wife while we were in our pajamas on Christmas Eve morning while sitting on her parents couch 😛 (just us at the house at the time)

Didn't even get down on one knee or anything like that (would of if I'd of thought anything other than "omgomgogmogmgom!" in my head at the time.

I knew she'd say yes but you can't help but have that sliver of doubt that it'd be a no for whatever various reason.
 
MotionMan said:
Well?

MotionMan
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LOL, if you want an answer its better to shoot a pm, I'm not on here permanently.

A wedding is a public display of commitment before family and friends.

The decision to get married is a private decision between two people, and should be made freely and without undue outside influence.
 
WelshBloke said:
LOL, if you want an answer its better to shoot a pm, I'm not on here permanently.
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I got a better idea: If you are going to come into a thread and spout off, you can check in every so often to respond to questions. Otherwise, STFU.

A wedding is a public display of commitment before family and friends.
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Says who?

The decision to get married is a private decision between two people
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Says who?

You say the word "is" as if there is a law that dictates as such. Clearly this is not the case. So, let's try this again:

WelshBloke said:
😵 How many people are you asking to marry you?
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So the wedding should be private, too? How many people are you marrying?

MotionMan
 
Good luck flvinny521, sounds like a good idea. At first I was like "Huh?" but now I'm like "yeah!"

please let us know what happens.
 
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