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Failed an important test of temptation, lost big.....

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Originally posted by: TechnoKid
Have you talked to Nicki? You have to tell her everything you've just said here as soon as you get a hold of her. Whether or not she wants to hear an explination you have to get it to her somehow. Of course shes assuming the worse about you right now, and if she was truly interested in you and truly liked you and cared for you, she'd let you at least explain yourself.

btw how old are you if you dont' mind me askign?
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Nicki=18, Jason=24, Jessica=22

Jessica has to be the alpha female/center of attention. I don't know if I just made an easy target that night or what. Nicki is book smart, sweet, but not super aggressive, where as Jessica is more mature and can more easily reach out and get what she wants. The way Jessica came on to me was very sly, at first it seemed like normal behavior, just a little strange, and it slowly turned into an assualt. I didn't see it coming, and its not like this happens to me all the time. (i wish these hoes would just back off me is not something I say all the time) If I could have recognized what it was, which Nicki probably picked up on right away, I would have stopped it and said something to Nicki in defense. But I'm not used to it, so I didn't realize what the fock was going on until I had a girl in my car almost make me crash because I couldnt see the road.......

Yea, the real test for me now is if she will find it in her heart to forgive me, hopefully she can get to that point by looking at things from my perspective, and hopefully think that I am not a "player" and maybe I am just stupid....... I see it this way, if after all of this, she can find a way to forgive me and give me a second chance,than I have a keeper, but if she can't, then she didn't care enough......

What's sad is Nicki reacted like she was my wife, and I feel like a husband who just lost his wife....... And I felt like she might be the one. Odd, that the whole night started with my consulting bryan about his uncle who committed suicide because his wife divorced him, and I kept saying to myself I wish it never happens to me and I hope I never do anything to loose my future wife.
 
Jessica saw you with another chick, ergo you suddenly became desireable to her. Where it not for Nicki, Jessica would never have done anything.

Moral of the story: girlfriends and girl friends don't mix.
 
Originally posted by: Mo0o
Why dont you just bang the bejezuz out of jessica and call it a day
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cause I felt dirty enough kissing her. she's been with alot of guys i know, and lot more i dont know......
 
Originally posted by: TechBoyJK
Originally posted by: Mo0o
Why dont you just bang the bejezuz out of jessica and call it a day
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cause I felt dirty enough kissing her. she's been with alot of guys i know, and lot more i dont know......
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Guess you shouldn't have kissed her then huh?
 
DUDE CALM THE HELL DOWN.

DO NOT KILL YOURSELF that proves f0ck all. A GIRL IS NOT WORTH killing yourself over. That is the most BS thing I have heard man. DO NOT KILL YOURSELF.

First IF this Nikki has any brains she'll 'believe' you and your honesty. If not WTF is up with that? DO you really want to be with a girl that just presumes things and shuts people out for no real evidence? Sure it was all crazy bad timing to get everything screwed.

NEXT time DO NOT hug girls then other girls don't get this impression. DO not hold hands with girls any longer then a handshake and they won't be this way with you.

YOU wanted Jessica as you were feeling horny at the time. You can't deny that.

YOU DID NOT CHEAT on Nikki as you had nothing between the pair of you in a 'relationship' that was more then friends.

Nikki likes you also as she is 'mad' at you for this and if she really thinks your a 'player' that is crazy if she knows anything about you. A friend will know that a friend is a player or not EASILY. If not they are not a close friend.

And you do realise that the dam door handles and stuff you touch is probably more dirty then that girl you deem so bad right?!

Some girls are just crazy (and some guys 😛) and do such random things. THIS is random. COULDN'T she clearly see you push her away from you in the kiss or something? It wasn't as if you two were hardcore making out right?

Koing
 
the only thing you can do is do something to grab her attention (probably a corny hallmark card?), then apologize like you would

or how about jessica? maybe she really has a thing for you... kinda sucks for her you never even consider how she feels...?
 
Originally posted by: sniperruff
the only thing you can do is do something to grab her attention (probably a corny hallmark card?), then apologize like you would

or how about jessica? maybe she really has a thing for you... kinda sucks for her you never even consider how she feels...?
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nowthat I have been bitter by her, I have confronted several of my friends that dated her, and they all said that it is her character to do stuff like this. Like my friend Carlos, when he was on the rocks with his baby's momma, and jessica was over at his apartment (with a group of people), Jen (baby momma) showed up, and jessica was all over carlos......
 
Originally posted by: TechBoyJK
Originally posted by: MrChad
Originally posted by: TechBoyJK
Theres a girl that I wanted to be with for a long time, but our situations never allowed it.
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Originally posted by: TechBoyJK
Nicki=18, Jason=24, Jessica=22
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That helps explain things. Jailbait! :evil:
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18 is legal
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Ya, but you're breaking the /2+7 rule; bad things always happen when you break that. Try sticking with more emotionally mature women.
 
Originally posted by: ViRGE
Originally posted by: TechBoyJK
Originally posted by: MrChad
Originally posted by: TechBoyJK
Theres a girl that I wanted to be with for a long time, but our situations never allowed it.
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Originally posted by: TechBoyJK
Nicki=18, Jason=24, Jessica=22
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That helps explain things. Jailbait! :evil:
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18 is legal
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Ya, but you're breaking the /2+7 rule; bad things always happen when you break that. Try sticking with more emotionally mature women.
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those exist??? 😕
 
Originally posted by: TechBoyJK
So,

Theres a girl that I wanted to be with for a long time, but our situations never allowed it. We have known each other for a while, and have had a really nice, friendship style relationship. I hadn't seen her in a few months, and really had been hoping to see her again. Well, the same day I find out I am getting a very lucrative and important contract (dream job) I run into her at Taco Bell. We start talking, discuss our current relationship status, and agree to hook up. We talk a few times after that, then a few fridays ago decide we should hang out. She comes over to my friend Bryans apartment, we hang out for a little while. Then we catch wind of a small bonfire party. Hang out there for a while, then that gets nixxed so we go to another party. We are there for a little while, then a "friend" of mine, Jessica, shows up. She gives everyone a hug, and when she gets to me gives me a hug, but still kind of hangs on lightly after its over. I kind of shrugged her off, and continued talking to someone else. As I was talking, she grabbed one of my hands and kind of held it for a little while. FYI, she is kind of a flirty ho, but has always been sweet to me, so I try and respect her somewhat. I didnt want to make a scene, and be like "wtf are you holding my hand for" instead I just kind of let it happen for a few seconds before turning to her with an inquisitive look. I'm used to her being flirty (to everyone) so I thought she was just being drunk and didn't think much of it.

Anyways, as I turn to jessica, I see Nicki (the girl I am really interested in) staring at us. So I immediately yanked my hand away. Anyways, right after this happened, Bryan, my friend, asked me to take him somewhere (his uncle committed suicide that night) so he could have a few drinks with someone in his family. He asked me to be his DD. I told Nicki I would be back in like 15 minutes or asap. As I am getting ready to pull away, Jessica comes up to the car and askes if she can ride along to finish talking to Bryan about his situation. I didn't see a problem with it.

So we get to the bar, and after a few minutes, bryan and his cousin agree that they want to head back to the cousins apartment. So I drop them off there, and start heading back to the party. What I didn't realize, is that I was about to be assaulted with a plethora of lust inducing statements from girl that is pretty damn attractive(and always had a bit of fantasy for). We were always friends, able to hang out without messing around, so I didn't even expect that this night was any different. I was wrong. As soon as Bryan and his cousin leave the car, Jessica starts telling me about how she is getting older, and realizing mistakes she has made and people she has hurt, and how she has always loved me and had a crush on me, and that now that she is more mature, how she can appreciate me, etc. But while she was doing this, was kissing on my neck and face, etc.

Here is how I got my head played with. I haven't been in a serious relationship for about 4 years. I have dated several women/girls, but nothing ever panned out. The last relationship I was in was very shady. The girl made me fall in love with her, but was cheating on me the entire time. Once I found out, I walked right out the door. Its been hard for me to let myself feel that way about anybody in a long time. That night with Nicki, pre Jessica, I was really starting to feel alot of chemistry, as Nicki and I have always liked each other, but never had the chance to explore the real possiblity of a loving relationship. Anyways, I finally let myself open up to that possibility that night. However, before I could relate my feelings to Nicki, Jessica showed up and pounced on the window I had opened for Nicki in my head. Anyways, Jessica was basically saying things along the lines of what I was expecting to tell Nicki that night. So, at first, I started going with Jessica, in that I started to kiss her back out of pure passion. I didn't want Jessica at all, but she somehow played with my head that night and got me to slip. I eventually had to push her away and said it was too strange and something wasn't right. This happened right as we were showing back up to the party. Anyways, just as I was getting ready to get out of the car, Jessica grabbed me and kissed me again. Nicki saw it. As soon as I walk in, Nicki's friend tell's me about how much of a creep I am and that I am cut off from her for good. I tried talking to Nicki, who looked like she was going to cry out of fury, and she wouldnt even look at me. She left shortly after w/o saying anything.

I tried calling her that night. I tried calling the next day. And the day after, and the day after. Now, I am accepting that there probably isnt a chance in hell that she will speak to me. After about 3 weeks, I tried calling her again, to no avail. Later that night, I get a call from "ryan" her supposed boyfriend......

Anyways, the point is. I really like girl, still do, and care for her greatly. I'll go as far to say that I am in love with her, but the moral of my story is, even though my intention was never to hurt her, to cheat on her, or anything like that, I let it happen inadvertently, but I still let it happen. I hurt her. Even though my intent was to court her and make her happy and be a good faithful boyfriend, it didn't matter. THe devil still bit me. What Nicki saw is that I am giving her all these positive vibes, then all of a sudden, another girl is in the picture, we are holding hands, then a few minutes later we bail out. Then we get back, and she sees Jessica kiss me. So Nicki has no choice to think that I just straight up hooked up with another girl right in front of her. I didn't want it, but I still let it happen and look that way. I tried to explain it, but how things played out speak to loudly.

Man, you really don't know what you have until its gone. We had so much in common. We related so well. We were so comfortable around each other. It was great. But I focked it all up. I've never felt suicidal before, but its pretty tough now...... I really liked her, and when she put her heart on the table for me, I broke it. I can't help but feel like I was reaching out to an angel, but just as we were about to touch hands, the devil's snake wrapped around me and pulled back into this hell on earth. and I'm left with nothing.
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One of the best fricken peices I have ever read here.

/me bows.

-Monzi

 
Forget the cliff notes, where's the popcorn?!? Lol, sorry man. Really though, that was well written. And I wouldn't beat yourself up over it too much, it's not like you were in a relationship with her, although I agree you did come off as kinda shady. Look, just keep calling her, or pay her a visit. Explain to her that you're interested in her, not Jessica. Hey, anybody can be swayed if a hot chick is sitting on their lap. I'm not worried about it, if you can tell her about it even half as coherent as you explained it to us, then you should be good.
 
Originally posted by: TechBoyJK
Originally posted by: MrChad
Originally posted by: TechBoyJK
Theres a girl that I wanted to be with for a long time, but our situations never allowed it.
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Originally posted by: TechBoyJK
Nicki=18, Jason=24, Jessica=22
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That helps explain things. Jailbait! :evil:
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18 is legal
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Yes, but you said you wanted to be with her for a long time, but "situations wouldn't allow it." The situation being that, up until recently, she was under 18.
 
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