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ex added me on facebook, should I delete?

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swbsam

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I'm a very happily married fellow who wants as little drama in his life as possible. Soon after getting married I deleted all of my exes from my facebook/myspace/phonebook/etc. Not because I'd ever consider anything fishy, but because I want absolutely no drama, and wouldn't want my wife to misconstrue an innocent facebook comment or wall post as something squirm worthy.

An ex, who's last name i don't even remember, added me today and I accepted because I didn't know it was her (tiny group photo as her profile picture) - lots of old high school chums add me as of late so I assume every request that comes in.

Now she's commenting on wedding pictures (all innocent, mind you, of the congratulations variety), and I'm just thinking.. This could turn out badly..

Delete her from my facebook, or is that being immature?
 
Who cares? As long as you are true to your wife and never see this ex again, what does a stupid comment on a website matter?
 
No, I don't think it's immature to delete her. If you're not even close or friendly with her, why have her in your friends? Seems to defeat the purpose.
 
Originally posted by: irishScott
Originally posted by: cheezy321
Who cares? As long as you are true to your wife and never see this ex again, what does a stupid comment on a website matter?
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Seriously.
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Yep. If that disrupts your marriage you have much bigger issues.....
 
Originally posted by: micaturbo
How long has it been?
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Since I've been married? 7 months. Since i've seen the ex? We broke up about 2 years ago but had a casual "let's be civil adults" hang out about a year and a half ago
 
Originally posted by: cheezy321
Who cares? As long as you are true to your wife and never see this ex again, what does a stupid comment on a website matter?
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I think that really depends on how his wife would feel about it. Some women (and guys) get crazy about little stuff like that.

KT
 
Anyone who is hurt by being deleted will get over it.. this is a kink in our social structure that has not been worked out yet but it will when people come to realize that friendships and associations are in fact not permanent and can and sometimes should end. I deleted a bunch of formerly close friends because I asked myself if I ever was in the same city as them would I give them a call? If the answer was no I deleted them. I'm sure if/when some of them find out they will think I am a jackass.
 
Originally posted by: swbsam
I'm a very happily married fellow who wants as little drama in his life as possible.

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Delete her from my facebook, or is that being immature?
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If you keep her, no big deal. If you delete her, no big deal. The fact that you're posting this on ATOT so we can tell you what to do makes this a big deal. You are creating your own drama. So go ahead, delete her and be done with it.
 
Well, do you want her commenting about your stuff, and keeping "in touch" or not? By the sounds of it, you don't.

She's your "ex" for a reason.
 
wait a minute.. we know there are pics of both them on the internet... so nobody give any more advice until we get :camera:s
 
Originally posted by: Jeeebus
why are you adding people as friends that you don't even know?
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Networking - I do a lot of film/video work on the side and actors (i.e. bartenders) and other film crew people often add me.
 
Originally posted by: dabuddha
If you're questioning it, just delete her. Why complicate your life.
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Good advice and done, and told my wife that the facebook commenter was an ex.

I just hate drama, even simple "Who's X and why is she commenting so much?" drama

 
I'd have a hard time spending the rest of my life with anyone I thought was going to be so insecure in our relationship that messages I received from exes would somehow threaten our relationship... Where's the trust? Where's the respect? You aren't allowed to have contact with anyone you fucked in the past? What sort of ridiculous rule is that?

That said, if you aren't actually even friends with the person, I guess it's a moot point.
 
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