everything a guy should know but apparently some don't (please all guys should read this at least once)

[Ultima]

Yeah, what's up with that? Sometimes I'll get IMed but they don't have too much to say besides "how are you?" or whatever.

Originally posted by: rgwalt

Originally posted by: weezergirl

Originally posted by: vi_edit
What's so hard about saying "I'm just not interested"? Simple, tactful, and to the point. Dodging the subject and dancing around and giving excuses is just lying to both of you.

ok ok. i guess you are expecting me to say you are right. so you are right but that's not really the point of my thread. sure there are ways the world should be ran and everything would be easier but it's not like that, and i'm giving a heads up to guys that dont' know how it works.

So, by the same token, why isn't there a "Girls should read this at least once" thread about how the fairer sex should be more straight forward with guys?

I'm not saying your giving bad advice here, I'm just saying that guys aren't the only ones who need a clue.

Also, what if a girl IMs you first, but has nothing to talk about. I've had this happen several times, even with girls that I don't know who IM me out of the blue. Very strange.

Ryan

 

[yllus]

You're preaching to the converted, really. Those of us who will read it and see the truth in it have already been down that road, been crushed, and grown wiser for it. Occasionally I watch friends go down the same path...no matter how explicitly you warn them what will inevitably happen, they must go down that road themselves to understand. Once in a while I even have to suppress saying something because they resent you for saying it and won't listen anyways.

I blame both sides equally, really. The guy for being too inexperienced/stupid to realize she wants no part of a relationship and the girl for being female - err, for not being straight with the fella. All guys go through it. Call it a rite of passage into adulthood.

 

[dude]

Originally posted by: weezergirl
I hope by reading this, it will help at least ONE person, then it was worth taking the time out to write this.

You just wasted your time. These guys in OT are too thick headed!

 

[ABErickson]

I think it depends on the situation. An attractive lady I know at work had a younger guy (she's 40'ish, he was 20'ish) ask her out for a year before she finally relented and went out with the guy. That was around 5 years ago and it's been working out for him since then (if you know what I mean).

A little different situation because she didn't want to go out with him because of the age and not neccessarily the person, but still if he hadn't persisted they would have never gone out.


Alan

 

[GooberPHX420]

guy: Hey, wanna go out on friday night?
girl: Sorry I can't, Friday nights I reserve for quality time with my roommates!
guy: How about Saturday?
girl: Sorry, I'm reformatting my harddrive!
guy: Ok, how about next weekend?
girl: <insert really lame hobby or activity she could do on any other night>

Oooh everyone knows chicks dont know how to use computers!

 

[PistachioByAzul]

There is no common sense in a penis.

 

[silverpig]

<<Jesus.... look at all these people harping on poor weezergirl....

I gotta say, I FULLY agree with everything you say there, girl.... but you can't limit this to only guys. I currently have a girl that is doing all those things to me (no, i'm not bragging), so it definitely applies to both sexes.

She IMS, calls, and wants to get together like everyday... and I keep coming up with excuses, becasue I'm simply not that interested, but don't want to be mean. when do they finally get the clue? now she's all excited because she has this great birthday present for me and i don't even want to accept it becusae it will send her the wrong signal....

if it doesn't click, it doesn't click.

At any rate... back off of weezergirl, everything she says is absolutely true... for both genders. ...... and settle down on taking her words so seriously... everyone's so uptight around here>>


So you see the problem, yet you still choose to do nothing about it? If the other person just doesn't see what's going on, you're the one at fault for allowing it to continue. The point is: don't bitch about something you can fix with a single sentence.

 

[TuffGuy]

perhaps you should've just PMed him those rules instead of starting this post...

 

[nihil]

Originally posted by: Red Dawn
Hey Kim, remember you are talking to Dweebs whose sole experience with interpersonal relationships are based almost totally from Forum's, Chatgroups and IM's. That's why this generation of Males pales compared to the generation before them. We didn't have computer technology to retard our growth as Humans and part of society. Reading between the lines wasn't hard for us as most of us were familiar with Chick Speak and stalking wasn't considered part of courtship like it is today with these dorks.

i take pride in my stalking technique and lame cyber gf's.

 

[Yeeny]

Believe me ladies, just be honest. When I was first dating, I told this guy that "I am not looking to date right now, I just want to have fun." Two weeks later I was out with my new bf, and sure enough, that guy was there and called me on it. I never felt so stupid and horrible in my life. That was a valuable lesson for me.

 

[her209]

Okay, try to figure this one out...

I have a girl friend and she wants me to meet her mom... WTF?!? She has a bf too and I told her that I was interested in her before she even hooked up with this guy, but she gave me the whole "think of you as a friend" bit. And the only guys that have met her mom are her ex's.

 

[Fireball77]

3. If you are going to wear cologne, please DO NOT APPLY TOO MUCH! The more cologne you are wearing does not mean the better you smell! If you don't know how to wear cologne it is best not to wear it. At least ask a female friend or even your mom to tell you!!! Too much cologne is such a turnoff.

This goes towards women also, nothing is worse than not being able to breathe when you are with your woman, I mean if you get light headed or feel as if you are going to throw up because of the smell of perfume, you over did it.

 

[pillage2001]

Originally posted by: datalink7
Weezergirl... you never answered me. Is that a "clue" that I should move on?

You should have months ago when she told you she was formatting her drive continuosly EVERYDAY.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: GirlFriday
Believe me ladies, just be honest. When I was first dating, I told this guy that "I am not looking to date right now, I just want to have fun." Two weeks later I was out with my new bf, and sure enough, that guy was there and called me on it. I never felt so stupid and horrible in my life. That was a valuable lesson for me.

oh please, how "honest" must one be though, LOL,I just had a dude that had to be told that I have a large,mean b/friend and shown a picture of him before he finally stopped hitting on me at work !

 

[pillage2001]

Originally posted by: GooberPHX420

guy: Hey, wanna go out on friday night?
girl: Sorry I can't, Friday nights I reserve for quality time with my roommates!
guy: How about Saturday?
girl: Sorry, I'm reformatting my harddrive!
guy: Ok, how about next weekend?
girl: <insert really lame hobby or activity she could do on any other night>

Oooh everyone knows chicks dont know how to use computers!

Dude, you're wrong about this girl(weezergirl and others. ) then. You're begging to be flamed.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: GooberPHX420

guy: Hey, wanna go out on friday night?
girl: Sorry I can't, Friday nights I reserve for quality time with my roommates!
guy: How about Saturday?
girl: Sorry, I'm reformatting my harddrive!
guy: Ok, how about next weekend?
girl: <insert really lame hobby or activity she could do on any other night>

Oooh everyone knows chicks dont know how to use computers!

Huh ? run that by me again? LOL,I help my male friends with their computers

 

[Red Dawn]

I just had a dude that had to be told that I have a large,mean b/friend and shown a picture of him before he finally stopped hitting on me at work !

I heard he was a punk!

 

[Koing]

sound common sense.

Yean I've not had to tell any girl that I didn't like me. The one that asked me I'd like so no problems. But I imagine the ones that I don't like I'd say sorry I'm not interested but that'll be look me look bad and that girl will probably go tell her friends about me being 'mean' and such and my chances with other girls will 'drop like a rock'.

I've found that the girls I like do not make the first move at all. IT has to me to put my neck on the line. Now I don't give a sh!t if I like her I'll make it known that I like her in that way. If I get rejected then fine, next girl in line but I've found a girl cool with me and I like her so np only to finish my exams!!!

 

[Ameesh]

Originally posted by: Cyberian
Welcome to another episode of "Ask weezergirl".

You've got some good advice there, young lady.

she always does, i for one have been riding the common sense train for a while now.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: Red Dawn

I just had a dude that had to be told that I have a large,mean b/friend and shown a picture of him before he finally stopped hitting on me at work !

I heard he was a punk!

LOL, why Red, after all these yrs, you should know that I've got excellent taste

 

[Muadib]

If I would have listen to advise such as yours ms. w, 1/4 of my relationships would not have happened. Sometimes it takes women time to realize what they need is right in front of them.

 

[Red Dawn]

LOL, why Red, after all these yrs, you should know that I've got excellent taste

In wine and clothes!

 

[weezergirl]

It's funny how some of you guys are telling me it is common sense and pretty obvious while others are bashing me and telling me girls need to be less ambiguous and say what we mean. so which is it??

Oh, and I'd just like to agree that girls can be like this too. I just see guys do it more, probably because they are usually in charge of the chasing

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: Red Dawn

LOL, why Red, after all these yrs, you should know that I've got excellent taste

In wine and clothes!

LOL, since you know about the POS that I gave the heave ho to l guess I had that coming ! let's just say my tastes in men have taken a sharp upgrade

 

[Koing]

Originally posted by: weezergirl
It's funny how some of you guys are telling me it is common sense and pretty obvious while others are bashing me and telling me girls need to be less ambiguous and say what we mean. so which is it??

Oh, and I'd just like to agree that girls can be like this too. I just see guys do it more, probably because they are usually in charge of the chasing

its common sense when a guy realises it and isn't such a nut. If a girl is messing you over then I'd drop it, unless that guy likes a guy to play with his head!