Why do i get the feeling that if a girl were to say 'Sorry, I'm just not interested", that some guys would take that as a reason to try even HARDER to win her over. I think some guys just need a good kick in the balls to bring them back to reality.
Originally posted by: rgwalt
Originally posted by: weezergirl
ok ok. i guess you are expecting me to say you are right. so you are rightbut that's not really the point of my thread. sure there are ways the world should be ran and everything would be easier but it's not like that, and i'm giving a heads up to guys that dont' know how it works.
So, by the same token, why isn't there a "Girls should read this at least once" thread about how the fairer sex should be more straight forward with guys?
I'm not saying your giving bad advice here, I'm just saying that guys aren't the only ones who need a clue.
Also, what if a girl IMs you first, but has nothing to talk about. I've had this happen several times, even with girls that I don't know who IM me out of the blue. Very strange.
Ryan
Hey, feel free to write something like that. That's not my problem
It's totally different if the girls IMs you first and has nothing to say. I'm talking about if a guy is constantly iming a girl everyday to talk to her, yet everyday she never ims him back or has anything interesting to say. Why would the guy want to keep iming her anyways if she has nothing interesting to say?
hmm that would be a unique way for girls to say no.... kick the guy in the balls: quick and to the point.
god help us if girls start using that method though :-\
<um, ok. Yea. Look, I have to go. ttyl >
ROFL, this thread cracks me up.
I have another piece of advice for us guys-- if you are talking to a girl, and she ever says "Look, " it is almost always a sure sign that she isnt having fun! hahahaha
ROFL, this thread cracks me up.
I have another piece of advice for us guys-- if you are talking to a girl, and she ever says "Look, " it is almost always a sure sign that she isnt having fun! hahahaha
Nitemare
Lifer
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Originally posted by: SagaLore
ewwwwwwww
what, you got some kind of fungal infection? fop?
Mods won't let us "faap" anymore so we have to fop..
that doesn't sounds right either...bound to be something better than fop fop fop
everything a gal should know but apparently some don't (please all gals should read this at least once)
1. Say what you mean and do what you say...
2. Men don't want to talk all the time
3. Men don't really care about perfume. We would much rather have promptness than looking absolutely perfect with not a hair out of place and waiting for over an hour for you to finish getting ready
4. Two words...computers and sports..learn them
pyonir
Lifer
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everything a girl should know but apparently some don't:
Stop making lists of crap you think we should know. it is a major turn off, and for the most part you girls aren't much better.
if a guy talks to you, tell him you are not interested rather than "hoping" he'll go away. 99% of the time that solves the problem. then you don't have to make lists of what every guy should know.
(in response to the cologne thing, i agree and here is my two cents): girls, easy on the make-up. sure when you go out you want to put some on...but the more you put on the uglier you look. so if you HAVE to apply make up: DON'T PUT ON TOO MUCH!
Stop making lists of crap you think we should know. it is a major turn off, and for the most part you girls aren't much better.
if a guy talks to you, tell him you are not interested rather than "hoping" he'll go away. 99% of the time that solves the problem. then you don't have to make lists of what every guy should know.
(in response to the cologne thing, i agree and here is my two cents): girls, easy on the make-up. sure when you go out you want to put some on...but the more you put on the uglier you look. so if you HAVE to apply make up: DON'T PUT ON TOO MUCH!
true that... there was this one girl i went out with who looked really hot without (practically) any makeup.. and i worked with her, so thats how i saw her most of the time.. but then when she put on make up she didnt look as hot :-\
SagaLore
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Originally posted by: FoBoT
my wife calls it, "speaking womenese"
she is saying guys need to learn just enough "womenese" to get these clues
you should do a PSA with this info for cable TV
Doesn't "womenese" look very very similar to "nonsense" ?
:Q
major turnoff huh? it's just a joke, don't take it so seriously, geez!
I welcome your list and any other guys' lists about how we should act, and if u don't think my list is appropriate or crap as you put it, it's ok...i don't think i'm the know it all of guys and girls, just puttiing my 2 cents. and all of u can "hope" that girls will say what htey mean but maybe you guys need to deal with reality and realize that's not how girls work and we're not going to change. I'm just trying to help you guys cuz some of you are embarassing yourselves in front of girls you probably like. I can't control how girls are going to treat you, I just tell it like it is.
Hygiene is one thing but communication works both ways. If you can't tell someone you're not interested, perhaps you share some of the blame for any confusion.
Weezergirl, where were you 15 yrs ago when I was in hs? Rules of dating? I sure could have used those back then.
I embrace the fact that I am one of those guys that has no clue about women. If it wasn't for my wife and her friend leading me like a bull to slaughter, I would not be married today.
Rules of dating? I sure could have used those back then. I embrace the fact that I am one of those guys that has no clue about women. If it wasn't for my wife and her friend leading me like a bull to slaughter, I would not be married today.
pyonir
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of course it will never happen that girls will just say how they feel. we all know that. but you have to deal with reality and realize that how you described is how guys work and they aren't going to change.
but i see you are trying to help the guys here and make the ones that don't realize. hope it worked, but somehow i'm not so sure it will
My wife and I fell in love with each other at first. I had to ask her out dozens of times before she agreed. Not every woman goes out on a date with guy just because he asks and is cute and witty. Some girls want to know if the man is interested in her seriously, and is not just after some fling before they agree to a date. Also, early on, we've had conversations like you described. Did that mean she wasn't interested? No, it meant she was in a grouchy mood. Not every woman throws herself at men she is interested in. In fact, if a woman did that, it would make her kind of easy.
From the sound of your post, it sounds like you are about 20 years old. You have a lot to learn about men and dating before you can make a How-To list. It sounds to me like the only men interested in you are losers that wear too much cologne.
From the sound of your post, it sounds like you are about 20 years old. You have a lot to learn about men and dating before you can make a How-To list. It sounds to me like the only men interested in you are losers that wear too much cologne.
I think you missed the point of the post which was to help the losers who wear too much cologne.
SagaLore
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Originally posted by: Nitemare
Originally posted by: SagaLore
ewwwwwwww
what, you got some kind of fungal infection? fop?
Mods won't let us "faap" anymore so we have to fop..
that doesn't sounds right either...bound to be something better than fop fop fop
everything a gal should know but apparently some don't (please all gals should read this at least once)
1. Say what you mean and do what you say...
2. Men don't want to talk all the time
3. Men don't really care about perfume. We would much rather have promptness than looking absolutely perfect with not a hair out of place and waiting for over an hour for you to finish getting ready
4. Two words...computers and sports..learn them
Personally, I would slurp slurp slurp, not fop fop fop. 'Cause slurp slurp slurp means I'm not going solo.
Instead of fop, use flap. Flap flap flap sounds soooo much better... and since it's a real word, mods won't block it.
You should add to number 2 "and men also don't want to listen all the time either"
StageLeft
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See you're thinking as a girl. Put yourself in a guy's shoes who has a constant bone about some girl and he has no experience with them. She says "Sorry I can't I have plans on saturday" and he's like "Wow she didn't say 'No go away forever' ", so that means that I can probably go another time!
Inexperienced males are notoriously pathetic when it comes to things like this. Most guys have had the humiliating experience of pursuing something that never had a chance and when they look back in later years they'll realize how pathetic they were, but this is a learning experience and takes time
I see it on Anandtech all the time - guys here who are so dimwitted when it comes to this, but they remind me of myself and those I knew who went through the same thing. 
"1. When you've asked a girl out 2 times in a row and she has rejected you by saying something silly like "I'm busy", it's time to MOVE ON."
I'm glad I hadn't read this before I met my wife.
I'm glad I hadn't read this before I met my wife.
Ok you are pretty close, i'm 22. Sorry if you don't think I know the way dating works. But I also think you misunderstood my post.
When your current wife "rejected" you a dozen times. How did she put it? If I am interested in getting to know a guy better but am not ready to date, I say "Sorry, I"m not the kind to date without knowing you better...let's be friends first" <--in fact, that's exactly how i am. There's a big difference between that, and not liking a guy. Did she go out of her way to ignore you? Or to not speak to you? I"m sure she didn't, that's how youguys got to be friends right?
And for the groucy mood thing. Let me explain about the conversation thing. I'm talking about everytime you talk to her she is like that. I doubt any women is grouchy 24/7 of her life. If she was, would you even be with her now? So yes, my post was pertaining to girls who act like that around you all the time.
I hope this clarifies my post.
SKOORB: agreed, and I completely understand, which is why I am posting this. To give the "dimwitted" a little head start on understanding girls.
and I think I need to add this:
Disclaimer: Please take my advice with a grain of salt. I do not think I Know how all girls work or how all situations really are. I'm actually just avoiding studying for my midterm
lol! This is dating STANDARD where I'm from. Girls want to be pursued, and NONE of the dates I've ever had said yes the first time. Well, ok, a couple did, but just as many if not more made me ask more than once.
But, I agree that twice is probably the max, no more than three times, that you should ask a girl out. Three strikes and you're out is a good rule.
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