just recently this has started happening to me. I'll be sitting at my desk trudging through some homework that is incredibly difficult and I'll ask myself why the hell am I doing this. The only reason I can come up with is that its the plan people are supposed to take. Elementary school, junior high, high school, college (presently), then work. Its really starting to get me down too. I can't understand why either. I think back to a year ago and for some reason it never really bothered me that everyday I would go to class suffer through tough assignments worrying about passing a class and getting good grades and not think twice about why I was doing it or where it was going to get me. It was just something I had to do. Now its like I wake up and I"m thinking life sucks, I'm bored with going to class coming home sitting down at my computer trudging through more homework and then going to bed. Then on the weekends I'll do the same damn stuff where I go out to eat with some friends we'll go see a movie or something I'll come home watch some tv start doing more homework and then the week will start over. No matter how hard I try to snap out of it and get myself back into the mode I have been in for the past 20 years I just can't seem to do it. I keep thinking about how much my routine sucks right now. Then I think about other peoples lives trying to see if they know something I don't and I think okay lets see, my sister gets up everyday goes to work comes home exhausted and goes to sleep. Wow that seems like fun. I really wish I could stop thinking about it but for some reason I can't. Its almost like I've been released from the matrix and I want to get back in. Ignorance is bliss I think is how it was put.
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TallBill
Lifer
im already easing myself back into the workforce while doing full time college. This way, when i graduate, the transition wont be so big such as yourself. I think they key is to continue having fun however that must be done. And find a hobby or niche that you can waste whatever free time you have and feel good about it. Find something you love in life and can do now that you'll make money. About 10 years ago my father refound his love for motorcycles. He has rebuilt 6 or 7 now, and its his new love in life. Its his something to do in offtime, etc. Hes met many people through the hobby and gained access to social circles.
Wow, not to crap on the little pity party you have going here, but wow.
Right now, there are about a billion + Abus and Hung Los and Hectors who would find 4.5 years of fun college life consisting of drinking too much cheap beer with friends at a local pizza joint, massive Counter Strike Lan parties, studying abroad, summer backpacking trips in Europe, graduating Cum Laude from Georgia Tech, and being unemployed, to be about the most dreamy kind of life one could hope for and would die happy if he could only experience it.
Warning to parents: This is what happens when your raise your children in such luxurious and pampered conditions that they never have to feel the sting of a little adversity in their life until they are adults and then are paralyzed by their first taste of it.
No wonder the rest of the world looks at Americans as a bunch of spoiled, jaded, and pampered children. WE ARE!
Affluence will be the death of us all.
Ok, that was my 'kick in the ass' pep talk. How was it?
Right now, there are about a billion + Abus and Hung Los and Hectors who would find 4.5 years of fun college life consisting of drinking too much cheap beer with friends at a local pizza joint, massive Counter Strike Lan parties, studying abroad, summer backpacking trips in Europe, graduating Cum Laude from Georgia Tech, and being unemployed, to be about the most dreamy kind of life one could hope for and would die happy if he could only experience it.
Warning to parents: This is what happens when your raise your children in such luxurious and pampered conditions that they never have to feel the sting of a little adversity in their life until they are adults and then are paralyzed by their first taste of it.
No wonder the rest of the world looks at Americans as a bunch of spoiled, jaded, and pampered children. WE ARE!
Affluence will be the death of us all.
Ok, that was my 'kick in the ass' pep talk. How was it?
Geekbabe
Moderator Emeritus<br>Elite Member
You will hopefully find a balance between the urge to make money and your desire for a life.Soime people get balance early on,others take longer and reinvent themselves several times over the years. As to love,your parents managed to produce and rear you,a succcessful,smart,well educated young man,I'd hardily call their marriage a failure.Try to learn something from where they went wrong to apply to yourself and your relationships,wish them luck in finding happiness in whatever they do with the rest of their lives.
Survival tips?
1. It's only money and money comes and goes,try to stash some in the good times to carry you thru the lean times but when presented with a choice of money versus your personal ethics,let your ethics win,you'll sleep more soundly.
2."I'll think about it tomorrow" has gotten many a successful invidual thru times of horrible crisis.
3.Treat everybody you come into contact with nicely-this is like money in the bank!
4.When assessing your strengths and weaknesses, be as kind to yourself as you would be to others-there's enough people out there all too willing to beat you up,why help them?
5.Since nobody's ever come back to tell us different,go with the assumption that you'll only come this way once.Risk take occasionally,try that new sport,go on that wild white water rafting trip,ask that freaky girl out,try something new,occasionally do the unexpected.It adds gourmet ground pepper to your existance🙂
6.Learn to let grivances and bad feelings go-you're gonna get hurt plenty in this life if you expect to have any sort of real existance,learn to air your grivances and complaints straight out,don't gunny sack!
7.A glass of red wine every day aids in digestion and promotes good sleep.
8.socks always go into the dryer in pairs and come out as singles,we don't know why this happens it just does.
9.Have a pet in your life whenever possible,they provide comfort and love even when you are at your worst.
10.Try to find one thing each day to be grateful for,however small,also try to laugh whenever possible,it makes for better looking wrinkles thn frowning does🙂
Survival tips?
1. It's only money and money comes and goes,try to stash some in the good times to carry you thru the lean times but when presented with a choice of money versus your personal ethics,let your ethics win,you'll sleep more soundly.
2."I'll think about it tomorrow" has gotten many a successful invidual thru times of horrible crisis.
3.Treat everybody you come into contact with nicely-this is like money in the bank!
4.When assessing your strengths and weaknesses, be as kind to yourself as you would be to others-there's enough people out there all too willing to beat you up,why help them?
5.Since nobody's ever come back to tell us different,go with the assumption that you'll only come this way once.Risk take occasionally,try that new sport,go on that wild white water rafting trip,ask that freaky girl out,try something new,occasionally do the unexpected.It adds gourmet ground pepper to your existance🙂
6.Learn to let grivances and bad feelings go-you're gonna get hurt plenty in this life if you expect to have any sort of real existance,learn to air your grivances and complaints straight out,don't gunny sack!
7.A glass of red wine every day aids in digestion and promotes good sleep.
8.socks always go into the dryer in pairs and come out as singles,we don't know why this happens it just does.
9.Have a pet in your life whenever possible,they provide comfort and love even when you are at your worst.
10.Try to find one thing each day to be grateful for,however small,also try to laugh whenever possible,it makes for better looking wrinkles thn frowning does🙂
Yes, life can appear to be a lemon instead of a bowl of cherries at times. You are fresh out of college with the world in front of you. Rejoice in your youth as that is definitely a plus for you right now. Yes, you may have to settle for a job that doesn't pay what you were hoping. But, be glad you're not in *my* shoes (or others who have been worse off than I have the last nine months).
I'm back on the road to recovery, myself, but it was certainly very rough recently. Last May, my wife left and the divorce proceedings got VERY ugly (she was dragging the kids in the middle), lost my $65/hr contract programming job in July, had car problems left and right. I submitted a couple hundred resumes not only here in Louisville, but within a 100 mile radius, too (even interviewed for a job 1/2 way between Dayton and Columbus and was going to move). Sold my house, finally, recently and walked away with nothing (some tax liens from where I couldn't pay from being unemployed took up the remaining equity). Car is about to be repossessed as I did finally find work (as a car salesman! :Q) but that brought in just enough for food/gas.
I do now finally have a great job (pay is about where I was about 6-7 yrs ago so my standard of living is way below what I was used to). Divorce is final and I have my girls every other week (so I get to see them a lot! 😀 ). Living with my dad so expenses are low right now until I can find a place of my own (a decent house to rent as my credit is so fubar'd at this point buying a house is pointless for at least 2 years). Still on the verge of filing bankruptcy but trying hard not to...I would just feel a bit of accomplishment if I could avoid that even though filing would make my life easier as heck right now.
Anyway, don't know why I went into all the details but there were some rough times in my life in the last 9 mos. but that light at the end of the tunnel turned out to be a ray of hope instead of an oncoming train.
Soo....hang in there! All's well that ends well and if all is not well, then it's not the end!
I'm back on the road to recovery, myself, but it was certainly very rough recently. Last May, my wife left and the divorce proceedings got VERY ugly (she was dragging the kids in the middle), lost my $65/hr contract programming job in July, had car problems left and right. I submitted a couple hundred resumes not only here in Louisville, but within a 100 mile radius, too (even interviewed for a job 1/2 way between Dayton and Columbus and was going to move). Sold my house, finally, recently and walked away with nothing (some tax liens from where I couldn't pay from being unemployed took up the remaining equity). Car is about to be repossessed as I did finally find work (as a car salesman! :Q) but that brought in just enough for food/gas.
I do now finally have a great job (pay is about where I was about 6-7 yrs ago so my standard of living is way below what I was used to). Divorce is final and I have my girls every other week (so I get to see them a lot! 😀 ). Living with my dad so expenses are low right now until I can find a place of my own (a decent house to rent as my credit is so fubar'd at this point buying a house is pointless for at least 2 years). Still on the verge of filing bankruptcy but trying hard not to...I would just feel a bit of accomplishment if I could avoid that even though filing would make my life easier as heck right now.
Anyway, don't know why I went into all the details but there were some rough times in my life in the last 9 mos. but that light at the end of the tunnel turned out to be a ray of hope instead of an oncoming train.
Soo....hang in there! All's well that ends well and if all is not well, then it's not the end!
It can be a scary thing when confronted with the ghost of your future, when you suddenly see how your life is mapped out in front of you and you don't like what you see. The good thing about it is that, just by seeing, you have given yourself the opportunity to change it. Or accept it. You will have endless choices ahead of you and the only thing I can tell you is you must determine the path to happiness and that it helps to have a plan with specific goals.
Life, generally speaking, is hard work, but that doesn't mean it can't be fun and fulfilling. My suggestion to you is that if you find yourself completely turned off by the "corporate rat race", find a way to work for yourself. Be careful though that you don't just trade one rat race for another.
Life, generally speaking, is hard work, but that doesn't mean it can't be fun and fulfilling. My suggestion to you is that if you find yourself completely turned off by the "corporate rat race", find a way to work for yourself. Be careful though that you don't just trade one rat race for another.
FeathersMcGraw
Diamond Member
They are if you let them be.
I actually think a 9-5 gives me more free time than student life did (granted, being a student also meant there were fewer dire consequences from slack). I don't have to live the impoverished life of a student, I can buy things that I can enjoy in my spare time, I own (a fraction of) my own home, and I'm basically a productive (if busy) member of society.
You live in an age of pervasive electronic communications; if you want to keep in touch with college friends, you can, if you make the effort. Or you might make new friends at a job. There's a lot to love (and a lot I miss) about college, but those weren't my glory years by a long shot. Nor, I suspect, are mine now.
radioouman
Diamond Member
I enjoy teaching very much. I really enjoy being able to help people. I tutored some friends from free when I was in college, just because I enjoyed it! For four summers, I taught merit badges at a boy scout camp. It was very rewarding for me.
Right now, I'm in a job that I don't really like. It feels like a dead end. Yet, I am getting paid acceptable money for only being out of school for eight months, and I have the normal benefits like insurance. Very recently, I began to feel like my life was turning around for the better. I certainly enjoyed school, and I hated my first six months at this company, but I've taken on a little more responsibility, I'm having fun with some of my colleagues, and I'm working on a master's degree.
No longer are professors setting goals for me. I have to set them myself. But when I work toward a goal and I achieve it, it feels really good.
You mentioned money in your original post. Too many people put too much value on money (ironic!). If you are doing something that you really enjoy, you won't be as concerned about how much you aren't making. Most first jobs aren't that enjoyable though.
Right now, I'm in a job that I don't really like. It feels like a dead end. Yet, I am getting paid acceptable money for only being out of school for eight months, and I have the normal benefits like insurance. Very recently, I began to feel like my life was turning around for the better. I certainly enjoyed school, and I hated my first six months at this company, but I've taken on a little more responsibility, I'm having fun with some of my colleagues, and I'm working on a master's degree.
No longer are professors setting goals for me. I have to set them myself. But when I work toward a goal and I achieve it, it feels really good.
You mentioned money in your original post. Too many people put too much value on money (ironic!). If you are doing something that you really enjoy, you won't be as concerned about how much you aren't making. Most first jobs aren't that enjoyable though.
StageLeft
No Lifer
All I really have to say is that life is a rollercoaster. You can't see what's coming around the next bend and it always goes up and it always goes down. Things can go to sh*t in an instant - I mean what if you just found out you had cancer, or become paralyzed in a car accident, or your family is murdered at gunpoint. The latter couple are stretches for sure, but you have so much more than so many other people. I've had enough down moments over the years to finally be able to be honest with myself and admit that even when things are really bad something comes along that can change it overnight.
You could find a job next month, a girlfriend a month later, and start boozing twice a week with guys from work. Then think where you'd be. Hang in there and something will come along 🙂
You could find a job next month, a girlfriend a month later, and start boozing twice a week with guys from work. Then think where you'd be. Hang in there and something will come along 🙂
rudder
Lifer
You just have to make a decision early on about what type of lifestyle you want to lead. Too many people get sucked into the "gotta have the 4000 sq foot house, 1 lexus suv, and 1 bmw mode." Then both parents have to work and thier children get raised by strangers. They see nothing else besides work because they have no choice. I've got a much smaller house, drive a honda civic but my wife raises my children and my work day ends like clockwork at 4:30. People just have to realize what is important in life and to me its not a big house.
StageLeft
No Lifer
I'm of the exact same opinion. I've never been happier in my life since working, done school. I come home from work and the biggest thing on my mind is what's going to be for supper. The future (essays, exams) no longer haunts me. I'm relaxed and happy and I have the money to do what I want. The weekends are all mine. I love it.
GTaudiophile
Lifer
True, I had the luxury of my parents paying for college. My mom was a home-maker, my dad was in the Army, and he started saving for college the day I was born. Out of the 4.5 years I spent at Tech, 1.5 years was spent working full-time. The income I earned allowed me to do the fun things I mentioned.
AznMaverick
Platinum Member
some people don't have that option. they just have to take what comes to them, whether they like it or not for the money, to live.
its sudcks but you do what you gotta do to get what you want
unless u hit the lottery or come from a wealthy family youll have to join us in that rat race so that you can buy that nice house or buy that nice car...if you dont care about these things then you shoulndt have a care in the world right now.
face it how many of us went to college just for the satisfaction of gaining knowledge..no im sure most of us went in order to get a good paying job to buy nice things
The best thing u can do is get a job hopefully one you enjoy and when u leavefor the day or weekend leave work behind..thats what i do..i totally do not worry about work..i devote that time to my kids myself and my wife...whcih make it worthwhile...
trsut me soemtimes i look back and wish for those long summer days during my childhood in grade school when my only worry was trying to get that last bit of playtime before havign to come inside for the night. You had no bills to worry about no wars no realtionships...
unless u hit the lottery or come from a wealthy family youll have to join us in that rat race so that you can buy that nice house or buy that nice car...if you dont care about these things then you shoulndt have a care in the world right now.
face it how many of us went to college just for the satisfaction of gaining knowledge..no im sure most of us went in order to get a good paying job to buy nice things
The best thing u can do is get a job hopefully one you enjoy and when u leavefor the day or weekend leave work behind..thats what i do..i totally do not worry about work..i devote that time to my kids myself and my wife...whcih make it worthwhile...
trsut me soemtimes i look back and wish for those long summer days during my childhood in grade school when my only worry was trying to get that last bit of playtime before havign to come inside for the night. You had no bills to worry about no wars no realtionships...
I know the feeling. It sucks thinking that you've worked your butt off for x years to get a degree, and then you can't do anything with it.
Don't worry - things will turn around. It may not be right away, but it'll happen. Until then, you just have to suck it up and do things you don't particularly want to do to get by.
If in doubt, just do what I do - go in to the parking industry. It's loads of fun......not really.
Don't worry - things will turn around. It may not be right away, but it'll happen. Until then, you just have to suck it up and do things you don't particularly want to do to get by.
If in doubt, just do what I do - go in to the parking industry. It's loads of fun......not really.
cavemanmoron
Lifer
College seems to be a waste,again, the people who graduated in the early '80's seemed to have
a tough time getting jobs,worthy of the education they had just spent 4-6 years on. 🙁
Seems to be like that again,
I have 25 years at my job,with only a little bit of college,
{for the job I do have, no college was needed,but I am glad i took some courses}
I still am not sure what i want to do when i "growup" 😉
edited for spelling messups, 🙁
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