Etiquette for party after wedding reception

Sukhoi

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Our reception is going to end around 8 PM. I'd like to send a semi-private e-mail to the younger people attending to get everyone to meet at a bar and continue the party. Is this rude to the older people attending the wedding? I'd rather not have them at the after party, but I also don't want to piss everyone off...
 

Mike Gayner

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That's pretty normal TBH. I wouldn't consider that rude.

In a weird coincidence, my brother is at a wedding reception as we speak. The younger ones will be continuing the party downtown later - though the reception will probably end at around 10 rather than 8.
 

foghorn67

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Our reception is going to end around 8 PM. I'd like to send a semi-private e-mail to the younger people attending to get everyone to meet at a bar and continue the party. Is this rude to the older people attending the wedding? I'd rather not have them at the after party, but I also don't want to piss everyone off...

IMO it isn't rude. The reception ended. It's your wedding, you decided who to invite to the ceremony and reception. You should have a say in who you want to bring to an after party. Just play it with tact.
I think after parties for weddings are great if the reception ends at a reasonable like yours does.
It gives you a chance for a more intimate setting with closer friends or those who are a little more hip.


SU-27?
 

ahenkel

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Don't see a problem with it. I wouldn't be a dick and not let an "old" person in if they decide to show up though. Hell they'll all be in bed by 9pm anyways.
 

Joel Olstein

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I have always beleaved that if you do something you feel is going to upset people it's usually not a good idea
 

IronWing

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Old people pretty much expect the young'uns to go off and party. Most would rather go to bed anyway. Except Great Uncle Bert who will crash the after party party and hit on all young ladies. He'll spend a couple hundred bucks buying drinks for everybody so it's a mixed blessing.
 

DrPizza

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<--- One of the "old people."

As I'm not drunk & haven't been drinking, I'm counting down the minutes until your boring reception is over. You can go out and continue drinking if you want, leave me out of it.
 

BarkingGhostar

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Our reception is going to end around 8 PM. I'd like to send a semi-private e-mail to the younger people attending to get everyone to meet at a bar and continue the party. Is this rude to the older people attending the wedding? I'd rather not have them at the after party, but I also don't want to piss everyone off...
Shouldn't the after-reception party be between you, your legs, and the women you are marrying?
 

Sukhoi

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Glad it's something like 10-1 on not being rude. I am disappointed on how long the pics request took, but alas, no pics. Oh and our reception is not going to be lame. It's in a park, food will be cooked on a 28 ft grill/smoker, and I'm having a bunch of California craft beers on tap.
 

foghorn67

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Glad it's something like 10-1 on not being rude. I am disappointed on how long the pics request took, but alas, no pics. Oh and our reception is not going to be lame. It's in a park, food will be cooked on a 28 ft grill/smoker, and I'm having a bunch of California craft beers on tap.

oh hell yeah. My kind of people.
 

sjwaste

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Our reception started at 5pm. By about 8 or 9, the older folks had already left or were on their way out. By the time 10 rolled around, when the reception was over, the only people that were left were the people our age and our parents/their friends. We continued on at the hotel bar, and even that didn't draw the older people to stay.

Unless you consider your parents to be part of the crowd you don't want. I can't help you there, our parents threw our wedding for us, and we wanted them around. My dad's friends actually stayed up the latest of anyone.