engagement rings are so blah

[MrDudeMan]

im not exactly sure why guys feel like they should spend thousands on a stupid ring. if a girl expects a huge ring, she is probably a materialistic b!tch, and if you give it to her simply because of that you are so whipped it is unbelievable.

this tradition started in the US in the 1920s and almost no where else does it take place. princess diana got a big sapphire for example.

im not opposed to buying my girlfriend something nice, but this now-normal tradition of buying girls massive engagement rings is a huge waste of money IMO. that money could be spent better on other things.

and while im ranting, weddings are stupidly expensive also. Warcrow and his woman had the right idea. they saved a sh!tload of money by going to that beach...and i support that. people that do the whole thing in a really expensive church and buy 100 different kinds of flowers and basically make the whole thing look all pretentious need to think about how much money they wasted on a single day in their life.

10,000-20,000 for a single day, or you could put a downpayment on a house or buy a car :shocked:

it makes no sense really, but i guess we are dealing with women so logic will be mostly absent.

 

[TheLonelyPhoenix]

Women cost money.

/thread.

 

[MrDudeMan]

Originally posted by: TheLonelyPhoenix
Women cost money.

/thread.

this man speaks the truth

 

[KarenMarie]

personally, i like the ring. it is the wedding i dont want to spend on.

i cannot see spending thousands of dollars feeding and boozing up other ppl who will get over it the next day and i am left with nothing but pics of the happy event after spending all that $$$. At least with a nice diamond, there is something to show for it.

Flowers, dresses, limos, photographers, big fancy hall.... i wouldnt waste my money on any of it. Just immediate family in a little church and out to dinner afterwards. But... I have my ring already designed for a cost of... well a LOT of money

 

[iversonyin]

Originally posted by: TheLonelyPhoenix
Women cost money.

/thread.

QFT

 

[Ime]

Originally posted by: Bigsm00th

Originally posted by: TheLonelyPhoenix
Women cost money.

/thread.

this man speaks the truth

As a married man, I can tell you this is the truth. Women cost money. It's just a fact of life. Even the sweetest women in the world (like my wonderful wife) cost $$$.

If you don't spend it on the ring, you'll spend it elsewhere.

 

[eyecandy86]

 

[BornStar]

In my searching for a church I quickly determined that the church is an extremely small fraction of the cost of the wedding. I think for our church it works out to be $200. I'm willing to pay $200 to insure that we won't get rained on. I also had a lot of fun working on buying the ring. It was a little stressful because I cut it rather close but I knew what I wanted and it was fun buying something for her that I knew she wanted more than anything else. Finally, we both want a reasonably sized wedding (~200ppl) so I have no problem spending that money.

It isn't all the woman. I've wanted to spend more money in certain areas to make sure we get exactly what we want.

 

[GasX]

Originally posted by: Bigsm00th
it makes no sense really, but i guess we are dealing with women so logic will be mostly absent.

If you already own a home and her parents are paying, who cares?

 

[Miramonti]

Yes the culture of an expensive ring is made by DeBeers, but that is the culture, and its what identifies that this woman is married.

The biggest marriage costs other than the ring are often the dress, the photography, the food at the reception, and the honeymoon.

 

[GasX]

Originally posted by: jjsole
The biggest marriage costs other than the ring are often the dress, the photography, the food at the reception, and the honeymoon.

If you think these are the highest marriage costs, try having her come home to you cornholing another woman...

 

[xSauronx]

Originally posted by: Ime

Originally posted by: Bigsm00th

Originally posted by: TheLonelyPhoenix
Women cost money.

/thread.

this man speaks the truth

As a married man, I can tell you this is the truth. Women cost money. It's just a fact of life. Even the sweetest women in the world (like my wonderful wife) cost $$$.

If you don't spend it on the ring, you'll spend it elsewhere.

indeed, my soon to be ex is a bitch, she costs money too. what a waste that was. this reminds me to get the rings back though.

 

[MrDudeMan]

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
personally, i like the ring. it is the wedding i dont want to spend on.

i cannot see spending thousands of dollars feeding and boozing up other ppl who will get over it the next day and i am left with nothing but pics of the happy event after spending all that $$$. At least with a nice diamond, there is something to show for it.

Flowers, dresses, limos, photographers, big fancy hall.... i wouldnt waste my money on any of it. Just immediate family in a little church and out to dinner afterwards. But... I have my ring already designed for a cost of... well a LOT of money

you put up a good arguement for the ring, and i am in full agreement with you about the wedding. im still not too keen on spending thousands for a ring, even if it will last "forever". they are just so expensive for what you get.

 

[MrDudeMan]

Originally posted by: BornStar18
In my searching for a church I quickly determined that the church is an extremely small fraction of the cost of the wedding. I think for our church it works out to be $200. I'm willing to pay $200 to insure that we won't get rained on. I also had a lot of fun working on buying the ring. It was a little stressful because I cut it rather close but I knew what I wanted and it was fun buying something for her that I knew she wanted more than anything else. Finally, we both want a reasonably sized wedding (~200ppl) so I have no problem spending that money.

It isn't all the woman. I've wanted to spend more money in certain areas to make sure we get exactly what we want.

i meant when you get married in a big church, much comes along with it. you have to get flowers and all that crap. if you get married outside, there isnt much going on in the way of decorations (compared to what would be happening inside). i have 4 older sisters, so i know a little of what i am talking about.

 

[Baked]

Don't have a wife, don't have kids, turn gay, and you'll be filthy rich.

 

[MrDudeMan]

Originally posted by: Mwilding

Originally posted by: Bigsm00th
it makes no sense really, but i guess we are dealing with women so logic will be mostly absent.

If you already own a home and her parents are paying, who cares?

i do. id rather them give us the money instead of wasting it on a single day in our lives.

Originally posted by: Baked
Don't have a wife, don't have kids, turn gay, and you'll be filthy rich.

:laugh:

 

[SVT Cobra]

Originally posted by: iversonyin

Originally posted by: TheLonelyPhoenix
Women cost money.

/thread.

QFT

word

 

[BobDaMenkey]

Women, they make the highs higher and the lows lower. I'm glad to be rocking the single life, especailly after I had been seriously entertaining thoughts of living the rest of my life with my now ex.

 

[Miramonti]

Originally posted by: Baked
Don't have a wife, don't have kids, turn gay, and you'll be filthy rich.

maybe in the olden days, but now gays want the rings and the wedding too.

 

[KarenMarie]

Originally posted by: Bigsm00th

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
personally, i like the ring. it is the wedding i dont want to spend on.

i cannot see spending thousands of dollars feeding and boozing up other ppl who will get over it the next day and i am left with nothing but pics of the happy event after spending all that $$$. At least with a nice diamond, there is something to show for it.

Flowers, dresses, limos, photographers, big fancy hall.... i wouldnt waste my money on any of it. Just immediate family in a little church and out to dinner afterwards. But... I have my ring already designed for a cost of... well a LOT of money

you put up a good arguement for the ring, and i am in full agreement with you about the wedding. im still not too keen on spending thousands for a ring, even if it will last "forever". they are just so expensive for what you get.

I used to work in a wedding hall. People would come in and spend anywhere from $8,000 for 100 ppl eating chicken to $40,000 with ppl eating surf and turf and 4 hour open bar. It got to be comical... watching ppl spend all that money to get ppl drunk and fed... for what?... the guests would go back to work the following Monday and by Friday they couldnt care less about the wedding anymore. Meanwhile, the bills still had to be paid for it.

I have seen so many brides and groom sneaking off to the back room to open the gift envelopes to pay for the actual reception. I thought they were crazy!!!

Hundreds or even thousands on a dress that will be worn ONE DAY?!! Hundreds on a photographer? And thousands on limos?... hahaha.. to me it is a waste of money...

Two weeks down the line, when the pics comes back, I would feel like an ass looking at all the ppl I paid to get hammered and fed who barely even remember and care even less. That money is GONE!! Gone!!

At least when I get my ring, 10-20-30 years later... I will still have my ring!

A lot of ppl think I am spending too much on it. But, whatever. It is a fair trade for me. $100. on the church, $500.00 tops on dinner and my ring. The money I would have used to flowers, limos, a band, and etc... will go to the ring.

 

[Trygve]

Originally posted by: TheLonelyPhoenix
Women cost money.

Sure, but there's got to be a point to having money, too. There's only so much fun you can have upgrading your computer.

 

[MrDudeMan]

Originally posted by: KarenMarie

Originally posted by: Bigsm00th

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
personally, i like the ring. it is the wedding i dont want to spend on.

i cannot see spending thousands of dollars feeding and boozing up other ppl who will get over it the next day and i am left with nothing but pics of the happy event after spending all that $$$. At least with a nice diamond, there is something to show for it.

Flowers, dresses, limos, photographers, big fancy hall.... i wouldnt waste my money on any of it. Just immediate family in a little church and out to dinner afterwards. But... I have my ring already designed for a cost of... well a LOT of money

you put up a good arguement for the ring, and i am in full agreement with you about the wedding. im still not too keen on spending thousands for a ring, even if it will last "forever". they are just so expensive for what you get.

I used to work in a wedding hall. People would come in and spend anywhere from $8,000 for 100 ppl eating chicken to $40,000 with ppl eating surf and turf and 4 hour open bar. It got to be comical... watching ppl spend all that money to get ppl drunk and fed... for what?... the guests would go back to work the following Monday and by Friday they couldnt care less about the wedding anymore. Meanwhile, the bills still had to be paid for it.

I have seen so many brides and groom sneaking off to the back room to open the gift envelopes to pay for the actual reception. I thought they were crazy!!!

Hundreds or even thousands on a dress that will be worn ONE DAY?!! Hundreds on a photographer? And thousands on limos?... hahaha.. to me it is a waste of money...

Two weeks down the line, when the pics comes back, I would feel like an ass looking at all the ppl I paid to get hammered and fed who barely even remember and care even less. That money is GONE!! Gone!!

At least when I get my ring, 10-20-30 years later... I will still have my ring!

A lot of ppl think I am spending too much on it. But, whatever. It is a fair trade for me. $100. on the church, $500.00 tops on dinner and my ring. The money I would have used to flowers, limos, a band, and etc... will go to the ring.

logic does not escape this woman. :thumbsup:

 

[ghostman]

Originally posted by: KarenMarie

Originally posted by: Bigsm00th

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
personally, i like the ring. it is the wedding i dont want to spend on.

i cannot see spending thousands of dollars feeding and boozing up other ppl who will get over it the next day and i am left with nothing but pics of the happy event after spending all that $$$. At least with a nice diamond, there is something to show for it.

Flowers, dresses, limos, photographers, big fancy hall.... i wouldnt waste my money on any of it. Just immediate family in a little church and out to dinner afterwards. But... I have my ring already designed for a cost of... well a LOT of money

you put up a good arguement for the ring, and i am in full agreement with you about the wedding. im still not too keen on spending thousands for a ring, even if it will last "forever". they are just so expensive for what you get.

I used to work in a wedding hall. People would come in and spend anywhere from $8,000 for 100 ppl eating chicken to $40,000 with ppl eating surf and turf and 4 hour open bar. It got to be comical... watching ppl spend all that money to get ppl drunk and fed... for what?... the guests would go back to work the following Monday and by Friday they couldnt care less about the wedding anymore. Meanwhile, the bills still had to be paid for it.

I have seen so many brides and groom sneaking off to the back room to open the gift envelopes to pay for the actual reception. I thought they were crazy!!!

Hundreds or even thousands on a dress that will be worn ONE DAY?!! Hundreds on a photographer? And thousands on limos?... hahaha.. to me it is a waste of money...

Two weeks down the line, when the pics comes back, I would feel like an ass looking at all the ppl I paid to get hammered and fed who barely even remember and care even less. That money is GONE!! Gone!!

At least when I get my ring, 10-20-30 years later... I will still have my ring!

A lot of ppl think I am spending too much on it. But, whatever. It is a fair trade for me. $100. on the church, $500.00 tops on dinner and my ring. The money I would have used to flowers, limos, a band, and etc... will go to the ring.

I see your point, but I still hate the ring. Sure, it'll be there 30 years later, but what good has it done in all those years? For the cost of that ring, you could invest it and probably pay off (at least part of) your kid's college education when time comes. Or buy a car. Or pay for part of your house. Or travel. Having it sit on a finger sounds like a huge waste of money.

Not to mention, it would make you a prime target for a mugging (I live in the city, so I think about these things...). Nonetheless, I'll probably end up buying one when time comes :-/

 

[Amplifier]

The rings are stupid. As are expensive weddings. If you're going to start a new life together why not start by not pissing money away.

 

[Sphexi]

My fiancee would be just as happy with a crackerjack box ring, but it's not the point. I could care less if it's tradition or not, I've also heard it's tradition to get a big fancy ring for the actual wedding band as well (which I will NOT be doing). The reason I spent a decent chunk of change on the ring my fiancee will be getting is to show her (and her family) that I'm capable of doing so. She has a big, traditional Chinese family, all of whom don't totally believe that their favorite daughter will be better off with me than some uptight Chinese guy with a good accounting job somewhere. Getting a nice fancy ring is my way of proving otherwise.

That and it's oh so shiny?