VirtualLarry
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Paladin3
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Supporting others must be more than condescendingly walking up and saying something like "Hey, you now have *MY* official stamp of approval and it is officially okay for you to be happy with who you are. Even though you are LGBT I'm reaching down to lift you up. *I* want you to be happy." Those were not the OP's exact words, but how I interpret his attempt to reach out. If I am wrong then please forgive me.
The LGBT community, those with autism, mental health issues or any stigmatized segment of our society need for us to treat them just like anyone else with the same level of human decency and kindness we would any other person. No more, no less. We need to do it because we are decent people, not because we feel that we have the right to pass judgement on who they are, or out of some misguided attempt to lift them up because they need our help. That's not respect. I believe respect is shown when you treat others kindly and don't judge or automatically assume them to be lesser and in need of your help to be normal.
I held a door open for a lady one time and the following conversation ensued:
Her: "Thank you."
Me: "My mother taught me to be respectful to a lady."
Her: "My father taught me to never rely on a man and how to take care of myself."
She was right! Somewhere in the back of my head I was treating women like little doves who were fragile and needed to be protected. I told myself I was trying to be respectful, and I still hold doors open for men and women to this day, but I have to be careful that I'm not assuming women are any less capable than men are. It's the same with any other group we want to truly treat as equals.
Equals don't need our stamp of approval. They don't need us to save them. They don't need us to show anything other than the quiet support of treating them with respect and human dignity. If they ask for our help we gladly give it. If they are attacked we speak out and stand with them, but we never treat them as lesser by implying their happiness is something we can grant them.
Again, maybe the OP is sincere, but he needs to understand he is not the savior of the stigmatized. Those groups don't need his approval to be happy, just for him to treat them like any other person with common decency and respect.
And, above all, we need to understand that to truly love others we must learn to love ourselves first.
The LGBT community, those with autism, mental health issues or any stigmatized segment of our society need for us to treat them just like anyone else with the same level of human decency and kindness we would any other person. No more, no less. We need to do it because we are decent people, not because we feel that we have the right to pass judgement on who they are, or out of some misguided attempt to lift them up because they need our help. That's not respect. I believe respect is shown when you treat others kindly and don't judge or automatically assume them to be lesser and in need of your help to be normal.
I held a door open for a lady one time and the following conversation ensued:
Her: "Thank you."
Me: "My mother taught me to be respectful to a lady."
Her: "My father taught me to never rely on a man and how to take care of myself."
She was right! Somewhere in the back of my head I was treating women like little doves who were fragile and needed to be protected. I told myself I was trying to be respectful, and I still hold doors open for men and women to this day, but I have to be careful that I'm not assuming women are any less capable than men are. It's the same with any other group we want to truly treat as equals.
Equals don't need our stamp of approval. They don't need us to save them. They don't need us to show anything other than the quiet support of treating them with respect and human dignity. If they ask for our help we gladly give it. If they are attacked we speak out and stand with them, but we never treat them as lesser by implying their happiness is something we can grant them.
Again, maybe the OP is sincere, but he needs to understand he is not the savior of the stigmatized. Those groups don't need his approval to be happy, just for him to treat them like any other person with common decency and respect.
And, above all, we need to understand that to truly love others we must learn to love ourselves first.
nakedfrog
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IronWing
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Every day positive people love life 
Every day in Life I remember the positive aspects in Life It is true there are more positive people in the world. Every day I want to bring inspiration into peoples lives When will the stigma in society end? Some people just dont care about change for better in Life & that ticks me off! Every day I listen to the song conflict by Disturbed.
Certain things in life I consider my enemy. I consider depression my enemy. Depression makes people feel miserable in their Life. I even consider Autism my enemy. I hate my Autism but embrace it at the same time. I dont want anyone to live in misery. I dont want to live in misery.
I strongly believe that the afterlife will be a much better place than the life we are living now. I want to die in my 90's & live a long life. I also want to live a healthy lifestyle
Every day in Life I remember the positive aspects in Life It is true there are more positive people in the world. Every day I want to bring inspiration into peoples lives When will the stigma in society end? Some people just dont care about change for better in Life & that ticks me off! Every day I listen to the song conflict by Disturbed. Certain things in life I consider my enemy. I consider depression my enemy. Depression makes people feel miserable in their Life. I even consider Autism my enemy. I hate my Autism but embrace it at the same time. I dont want anyone to live in misery. I dont want to live in misery.
I strongly believe that the afterlife will be a much better place than the life we are living now. I want to die in my 90's & live a long life. I also want to live a healthy lifestyle
Humpy
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Every day positive people love life
Certain things in life I consider my enemy. I consider depression my enemy. Depression makes people feel miserable in their Life. I even consider Autism my enemy. I hate my Autism but embrace it at the same time. I dont want anyone to live in misery. I dont want to live in misery.
I strongly believe that the afterlife will be a much better place than the life we are living now. I want to die in my 90's & live a long life. I also want to live a healthy lifestyle
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We need more love in this world Every day I want to let the world know that I am a positive person. The truth is that there are more positive people in this world
In order to not live in Misery, Every day we have to remember the positive aspects in Life Spreading Positivity daily in the world
Every day I want to let the world know that I am a positive person. The truth is that there are more positive people in this world In order to not live in Misery, Every day we have to remember the positive aspects in Life
Spreading Positivity daily in the world 
disappoint
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Every single day in life we all inspire each other
Every day in Life we have to remember the positive aspects in Life. As well as have hope in life to keep living Life. We must remember the positive aspects in life or else we will feel miserable & depressed.
I want to end stigma in society of Autism, Mental Health etc..
I lack charisma in my life, the charisma myth by Olivia Fox Cabane audiobook will help improve my charisma
I have come to the realization that you can't always enjoy life but you can still love life. Oh and to the trolls & haters out there on the internet making negative receptions, You are my ENEMY! like in the song conflict by disturbed. Conflict is my current favorite song by the way I get so livid that some people could careless about changing the world for the better. The ideal better Life is not living in misery & Loving Life
Contrary to your egotistical beliefs, you've got a long way to go before reaching enlightenment, angry little tike.
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I am proud to be a 22 year old Virgin in Life Lust is my Enemy. Someone told me that the fact that I am a millennial. I'm actually being a positive influence in the world as a millennial in this new Generation. I am a Courageous Autistic Person
School system needs huge improvement. For one, schools need to teach kids & teenagers life skills, skills you can apply in real life. Teach kids & teenagers how to cope with Life's Issues.
In Life I have a Hard Work Life Mindset. We all work hard in Life. I thank people all over the world who make a huge contribution in the world such as Firefighters
Lust is my Enemy. Someone told me that the fact that I am a millennial. I'm actually being a positive influence in the world as a millennial in this new Generation. I am a Courageous Autistic Person School system needs huge improvement. For one, schools need to teach kids & teenagers life skills, skills you can apply in real life. Teach kids & teenagers how to cope with Life's Issues.
In Life I have a Hard Work Life Mindset. We all work hard in Life. I thank people all over the world who make a huge contribution in the world such as Firefighters
IronWing
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Tiny Buddha website absolutely great resource of positive content to help people in their lives. Daily Inspiration
shortylickens
No Lifer
- Jul 15, 2003
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IronWing
No Lifer
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I was so stressed today. I shouted This Is Life as We Know It!!
My mission in Life is to bring inspiration into people's lives I am so glad if I inspired a person's Life I wish people the very best in their Life
I can't stress enough the importance of Education in Life
I accomplished one of my Life Goals getting tattoos I got H.O.P.E tattoo to honor the people who took their own Lives such as Chester Bennington and Robin Williams.
My mission in Life is to bring inspiration into people's lives
I am so glad if I inspired a person's Life I wish people the very best in their Life I can't stress enough the importance of Education in Life
I accomplished one of my Life Goals getting tattoos I got H.O.P.E tattoo to honor the people who took their own Lives such as Chester Bennington and Robin Williams.
John Connor
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John Connor
Lifer
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John Connor
Lifer
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I always loved that gif. It's like Ted Kaczynski never got caught.
Great guy... wouldn't mind being his cellmate. He can teach me addition and shit.
J/k
John Connor
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Sticking to the topic theme... If I want to be "happy" I just listen to my music (which is drugs really) and smoke a cigar and drink a Jack & Coke.
lxskllr
No Lifer
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Humpy
Diamond Member
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Every day positive people love life
Certain things in life I consider my enemy. I consider depression my enemy. Depression makes people feel miserable in their Life. I even consider Autism my enemy. I hate my Autism but embrace it at the same time. I dont want anyone to live in misery. I dont want to live in misery.
I strongly believe that the afterlife will be a much better place than the life we are living now. I want to die in my 90's & live a long life. I also want to live a healthy lifestyle
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John Connor
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LMAO! I love that scene. HAHAHA Although, Under Siege and Lethal Weapon were kick ass movies. Don't get me wromg.
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