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Edit: Say NO to FOUR-somes with your GF

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Murphy Durphy

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Sigh.. lots of crazy stuff went on tonight amongst many different people. One of them was a four-some that was my girlfriend's idea. Although immediatley afterwards she broke down and started crying and just balling her eyes out and although she says she's fine now, I have a feeling this is going to lead to some major issues later. It wasn't even my fault, I tried to say no the whole time. Sigh... Just say "No" my friends.
 
Was it FFM or MMF? If it was FFM than its understandable that she may be jealous but just explain to her exactly how you felt about it and let her know how much you love and care for her. Tell her you want to start off fresh and clean and try to get in touch with eachothers emotions more often. Doesnt hurt to get stoned or drunk either.
 
threesomes are very very very bad for relationships. I know your gf is bi so it'd be 2 girls and a guy but seriously, she has some issues if she suggested it. I hope your relationship hasn't been going on for too long.
 
Originally posted by: HajikuFlip
Originally posted by: FleshLight
threesome as in 2 guys 1 girl or vice versa?
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Er... let me edit that. Four-some. 3 girls and me. 😱
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Get ready for a lot of camera emoticons.

BTW, you're a fool for doing that with someone you're in a commited relationship with. SHould have gotten the other two girls behind her back at least.
 
Originally posted by: PCTweaker5
Was it FFM or MMF? If it was FFM than its understandable that she may be jealous but just explain to her exactly how you felt about it and let her know how much you love and care for her. Tell her you want to start off fresh and clean and try to get in touch with eachothers emotions more often. Doesnt hurt to get stoned or drunk either.
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Yeah, there was alcohol involved. Apparently what set it off was when I put my hand on this girls neck and she said it was exactly how I do to her and it just geeked her out... She was fine afterwards though and I just talked to her on the phone.. She had fallen asleep and is terrible to try and wake up so I didn't talk to her much after it first happened..

We'll see by morning I guess.
 
Guys always have control of sexual situations so if you were supposedly saying "No" the whole time it never would have happened. Your fault, and you should be crying! Go kill yourself now!
 
Originally posted by: PCTweaker5
Guys always have control so if you were supposedly saying "No" the whole time it never would have happened. Your fault, and you should be crying! Go kill yourself now!
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Right, I understand I could of stopped it all. But while she was drunk, it sounded like she legitamately wanted to do this as a way to "experiment" just once. They had been talking about wanting to "jump my bones" and I think she thought it would be more me and her and not all of us at once.

And to the flamers...

NO she hasn't messed around with any other guys, I'm her first.
NO she doesn't have relationship issues, things are always 100% perfect between us.

Originally posted by: Description
I had sex with Katie.
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Her name IS Katie... 😕
 
Usually for it to be "successful" you have to be really comfortable in your own relationship. Also it doesn't help if the other participants are people you have an everyday relationship with. Not saying they should be annonymous just not people within your circle.
 
It's the very rare relationship that can be just fine when it involves sex with other people. Suddenly "intimacy" is no longer very intimate. It's no longer something special between just you two. In a very real way it can have the same effect as either partner going out and messing around.

Besides, be honest with yourself...you would have had a problem if it was three guys and your GF, right?
 
Three or 4somes almost NEVER work out in the long run. Run away.

Be very careful... It sounds like she is a bit unstable and confused...
 
Originally posted by: Rainsford
It's the very rare relationship that can be just fine when it involves sex with other people. Suddenly "intimacy" is no longer very intimate. It's no longer something special between just you two. In a very real way it can have the same effect as either partner going out and messing around.

Besides, be honest with yourself...you would have had a problem if it was three guys and your GF, right?
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Of course, but I would of never advocated that to happen in the first place. Remember, I was initally against all of it and it was HER idea. Like I said before, I think she imagined it more of me and her with them watching because she wanted to 'show off' to them. Now try to imagine that statement in the least vainest way as possible because even if we were the 4 ugliest people in the world it doesn't mean that she wouldn't want to "show me off" to 2 other girls that wanted me.

Anyway we laughed about some of the things the girls did and how one girl kissed like a horse, so I think things are going to be okay. Extremely fvcked up I know, but it just might work out. I'm worried about the intimacy thing though, will it be the same?

EDIT: Things have NEVER been this way before btw, no weird ass problems. We've been going out for more than 2 years and I don't think we've had more than 1 or 2 little fights. Things are always great between us and I'm not worried about relationship-unstability or anything.
 
Originally posted by: HajikuFlip
Originally posted by: Rainsford
It's the very rare relationship that can be just fine when it involves sex with other people. Suddenly "intimacy" is no longer very intimate. It's no longer something special between just you two. In a very real way it can have the same effect as either partner going out and messing around.

Besides, be honest with yourself...you would have had a problem if it was three guys and your GF, right?
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Of course, but I would of never advocated that to happen in the first place. Remember, I was initally against all of it and it was HER idea. Like I said before, I think she imagined it more of me and her with them watching because she wanted to 'show off' to them. Now try to imagine that statement in the least vainest way as possible because even if we were the 4 ugliest people in the world it doesn't mean that she wouldn't want to "show me off" to 2 other girls that wanted me.

Anyway we laughed about some of the things the girls did and how one girl kissed like a horse, so I think things are going to be okay. Extremely fvcked up I know, but it just might work out. I'm worried about the intimacy thing though, will it be the same?
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Only time will tell.

Good luck.
 
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